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In my opinion, shopping around on single women pregnancy sites for a baby to adopt is just insensitive.

I am sorry this is not shopping around. I talk to many women on here and guide them to many resources. Yes we do network because some women may have abortions when there are families out here that wish for a baby very badly and cannot have one. We are living proof that networking and making new friends on here can lead to a wonderful adoption. We have two beautiful daughters who otherwise would have been aborted. We are thankful to have open adoptions with their lifefamilies. Some people are just listening to all the negativity in adoption when that is not all true. We are genuine and good people. http://www.adoptionprayer.com

Tinkerbell, my problem lies with both your a__sumptions and your tactic. Many single women who are pregnant are very happy about their pregnancies, and some of them (like mine) were planned, despite the fact that the situations that made me single were not. Alternatively, there are many married women who would be unhappy if they found out they were pregnant...I have several married friends who absolutely do not want children. Your post is a general post to women on a single pregnancy forum asking for people to visit your website if they are considering adoption. That's great that you are providing women with resources, however, why are you a__suming that enough women on this forum need them to justify a general post? A better, and more sensitive method would be to only post your message to those women who first post that they are looking to adopt out their infant. That is, my problem lies with the fact that you are initiating this thread rather than responding to another person's need for a__sistance. Sorry, but this is indeed "shopping around" for people who are looking to adopt out their baby. It is very offensive to me as a single pregnant woman that you would a__sume that enough women on this forum are looking to adopt out their infants to justify a general post. Whether or not that is actually the case, I cannot say (your a__sumption may indeed be correct). However, it is the fact that you are making the a__sumption to begin with that is so bothersome to me. We single women who are pregnant suffer enough societal judgment without additional reminders that our situations are considered "abnormal," strange, or otherwise incorrect. Please, think about who might read your post and what it is saying about your feelings towards single pregnant women before you make it. However, I do wish you luck in your adoption search.

why is everyone so upset she stated in her post that she did not mean to direct this towards women wishing to keep their babies but to women who are considering adoption. if you are planning on keeping your baby thats great but she wasnt pointing this thread in your direction. she wasnt being insensitive about it. her post was not rude in any way and it flat says :We do not mean to direct this towards women wishing to keep their babies but to women who are considering adoption.

Except that in the thread about being single and 22 weeks pregnant she posted her link. The woman that created that thread said nothing about wanting to give up her baby, just that she was single and looking for support. She said that she loved her child and was looking forward to her little one, just her situation with the father was no good. Posting the adoption link on her thread WAS insensitive, in my opinion.

i dont think that she meant it to be insensitive i mean if she were meaning it that way she would have posted it in the problems getting pregnant board. and ok it may have been a little insensitive to post it there but she posted her own thread for people looking to give their baby up for adoption and everyone is still saying it is insensitive. and she isnt posting because she thinks that all pregnant women dont want their babies she is posting because she wants to give other options for those who are not ready to have a baby beside abortions which to me is wrong and is killing another life. i dont think that she was trying to judge anyone she was just posting this to support those who are too ashamed or embarra__sed or scared to post on this site showing them that they are welcome to check out her website for support. i think it was meant for women who were looking for options and i dont think that she posted this on here to be cruel or to suggest anything about single women. to me having an abortion is insensitive and cruel when there are people out there who would love and care for a child and tinkerbell was just trying to show those women that there are other options out there besides killing a baby.

I do wish her luck in her adoption search, and I don't have a problem with the fact that she had a general post. I guess it was just the other post that bothered me. But then, this IS a site for pregnant women who are known to be hormonal and cranky. We all know that we get more easily offended when we're pg. Good luck Tinkerbell, just be careful what you say and where. I hope you find a baby, if not here then somewhere. There are too many babies that need good homes. I hope one gets to you.

I personally think that this is advertising on a forum. You can't solicit anything else, why babies? I may just be hormonal and cranky, but this message wouldn't have been posted on a married and pregnant site. I'm sure that I'm much happier about my pregnancy than lots of married women. While a few women who are considering abortion/adoption might post here, the majority that I read are women who come for advice. I wish you luck also, but just think it's kind of untasteful.

AM- i dont think that tinkerbell meant it to be untasteful. i think that she just posted this in case someone was thinking about adoption and came on here.i dont think that she meant to start drama because this is a single site..i think that she was just hoping that if there was anyone out there thinking about adoption they could check out her site. she didnt word her post rudely or anything of that nature to make me believe that she was doing it to be spiteful or hurtful. she said she wasnt meaning it to the ones who were wishing to keep their babies. so if you are not considering adoption she wasnt directing it towards any of you. i am sure that she is happy that you all want to keep your babies. i wish her all the luck. i hope that this post helps her find her little angel. i hope that it doesnt turn into one of those threads that everyone complains on. if there was an adoption board im sure she would have posted it there. i am not trying to be cruel but i think that she was doing this out of compa__sion not out of spite or because this was a single site i think that she posted it on here and the teens forum hoping that someone who needed help would see it.

I agree, she probably did make the post out of compa__sion. However, I still stand by my original opinion: that in her compa__sion lies bias and a__sumptions about single pregnant women. And, as we all know, it is not the *intention* that matters, but the *perception*.

mischelly30-go to the problems getting pregnant board she posted over there wondering if anyone knew of an adoption board on here. she isnt being bias or making a__sumptions about anyone..she has also posted on theteens site so go look at them. she is just looking for a place to post and the is no adoption board on this site somaybe if everyone who is mad contacts the site and requests an adoption board instead of reading something into her post that isnt there, then maybe she will get an adoption board on here so that she can post freely without everyone flying off the handle about it.

This is spam and if she wants to adopt she should go through a legitimate agency and stop harra__sing people with her ads and spam!

emma she wasnt harra__sing anyone she just posted a website which everyone on here has done before because i have seen it many times..why dont you all use your energy and anger to get an adoption board started instead of hara__sing her over this site not having one. i think that it should have a forum on here for people looking to adopt. so instead of getting p__sed at her get p__sed at the site for not being open minded enough to have an adoption forum. evidently she has been going through some type of agency for her to be a homestudy approved family. do you know how long it takes for a family that is on a waiting list to adopt a child? sometimes it can take years. she isnt hurting any of you with this and she hasnt tried to harra__s any of you she has not singled anyone out to pick on or whatever so just leave her alone.

slowpoke01, actually when you post something on every single thread for your own gain and self interest which is considered SPAM its hara__sing!

it isnt hara__sing to me because she didnt threaten anyone on here and wasnt rude to anyone..why read it if it doesnt partain to you..actually emma i have read alot of women on here that think that you are hara__sing and abusive with your posts..but whatever if she isnt trying to threaten or hurt anyone what difference does it make where she posts