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When i found out i was pregnant my boyfriend told me to have an abortion but i disagreed and decided to keep it. His father didnt approve of this and kicked me out of there home where i was living at the time. i moved back home to my parents more than 16hrs away and have been on and off with my boyfriend for all this time (im 22weeks). Hes moving down here to be with me but has told me he is going to make me suffer for wanting to keep this baby and making him move away from his friends and family!! I told him if he doesnt want to move he doesnt have to but he said he wants to see his baby grow up. He also told me that if i try to leave him he is going to get custody of the baby and take it away from me. i need helpi dont no what to do??????
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First, I wouldn't take him back. No one should be threatened like that. It takes 2 to make a baby. There are other options for him such as relinquishing his parental rights. He would have to go to court to do this and you would have to agree to support the child on your own. There are divorced couples that have done this.
Keep notes of everything. You may need a restraining order.
Check with your local Crisis Pregnancy centers.
In order for him to seek custody, he will have to prove you unfit - so watch everything you say and do. Including your health, people you a__sociate with, living conditions, work, hobbies.
If he truely wants to see this child grow up then he will have to grow up first.
Abuse to the mother is not favorable whether it be physical or emotional.
Do you really want to be in a relationship like what you are describing?
Do you want your child to grow up in that kind of situation?
You can check into other options through you local child welfare office or child protective services.
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what a creep !!! Threatening you because you didn't want to murder your baby ! Acting like it's your fault he has to move away. You did say you told him he didn't have to move away but sounds like he insists on moving so why is he putting a guilt trip on you? What an immature child he is acting like. He can threaten you with gaining custody all he wants but Moon is right.... as long as you watch every little thing you do and say then he's got nothing on you. And DO keep track of his behavior...possibly in a journal you can keep well hidden. Don't let this fool control you with threats. He didn't want the baby to begin with..your not forcing anything on him. He's causing his own problems by throwing his temper tantrums. If I were you just try to kill him with kindness, do the best you can without having to depend on him and you keep control of things.
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First of all... try as he may he will not get custody of your baby... UNLESS he can prove you unfit which is very very VERY hard to do (so unless you're endangering the life of your child and he has solid proof of it, you have nothing to worry about). In my opinion, I wouldn't let him come live with you... espeically after he said he's going to make you suffer. That's going to hurt the baby as much as it'll hurt you. Frankly, you should just tell him he can have supervised visitation in your home for the first couple months after the baby's born (usually 2 hours a day, 3 days a week), and then he can take the baby for a few hours each week. BUT DO NOT LET HIM TAKE THE BABY ANYWHERE until you have custody established in the courts (notorization doesn't work.. it has to go through a judge). This way, should he try to run off with your child, you can get your child back because you'll have custody. If you do NOT get custody established in the courts before he takes the baby, he could run off with your child and there isn't a darn thing you could do about it. So 1. Don't let him live with you after threatening you like that, and 2. Get custody established in the court system after your baby is born. Everything will be fine.
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thank you guys so mch for your help we have broken up now but i am still so scared he is going to take my baby!!!! i just hope to god that everything turns out ok
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i think you alredy know the answer to this question... there is nothing worse than having a baby with a man that doesnt want it. unless he can prove that you are an un fit mother ( drugs, abuse, etc) than he cant take your baby. you and your baby will do just fine alone. just give him visitation rights,and let it be. im sure your baby will be happier with one parent that loves her , than 2 parents that fight all the time b/c one doesnt. good luck.
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i also dont understand why he wants to take the baby off me when he didnt want to keep her in the first place???
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the reason he wants your baby is because he knows that he will have to pay child support if you get full custody
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The other reason he is saying he will take the baby is because he can control you that way... he has already started to make you suffer he has you scared and that is a horrible feeling
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I dont think you should be contacting him anymore. He is obviously threatening you & trying to control you. Not worth the relationship. Even though your baby needs a father...your boyfriend doesn't sound like the one to be that.
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This guy has seri0ous issues ..why would you let him threaten you this way. Dump him , you are better off alone he will make your life miserable!
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You should actually get a restraining order against this guy. I mean he's already threatening you. What a jerk! I hope that you decide to not have contact with him again, I'm sure you know him more than us but sometimes it's better to just listen to someone that doens't know ever single thing about the situation because you might be innocent to it. Sorry I dont know if I explained that right. Good luck to you honey... Have a beautiful pregnancy!
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Don't take him back. On the one hand he is saying that he is going to punish you for keeping the baby and on the other hand he is saying that he wants to see his baby grow up. I think his agenda is simply to make your life a living hell. If he wanted to see his baby grow up, then why would he have hateful thoughts toward you for keeping it? Sounds like a psycho.
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WTF? Tell him to keep his a$$ where the hell he is! Friends are more important? PLEASE! If he was mine, he would be lucky to get to see his child grow up! You need to take control of this. Good luck.
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