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I am 31 weeks pregnant and I too am a single parent. The father said in the beginning he would be there for us bt slowly he began distancing himself from me. I finally told him to leave us alone and I will do it alone. It is better to have the support from friend sand family than to have someone who really does not want to be there. I knew from day one that I had to make changes in my life and my mindset to be strong and not depend on the father. It is unfortunate when the guy does not take responsibilty for his actions but you will be fine. Do not stress yourself because you don't need your baby in any type of distress. Pray and talk to freinds and family. Once you hold your baby in your arms, your entire att_tude towards life will change. It will not be easy, but you can do it. Good luck!

I am 4 months pregnant and ever since we found out the husband has been distant at first, then we fought and he moved out of the bedroom and sleeps on the floor of the cat room. He says he ahtes me but was going to stay with me for the abby. i told him that that wouldn't work. We were actually talking for the past couple of days and then he went out with his friends last nite till 3 am and drove his ex girlfriend home. I hate being alone and that's all I've felt since this started. I love my baby and try to think of the baby and pay attention to them when I start to get sad but sometimes it hurts so much. He thinks its ok to stay out till 3 am with his friends... He says they're just friends. I don't think he's a cheater but it just doesn't seem right. He always says he wants support and has given me none through this whole ordeal. it hurts when I sleep and it would be easier if he was there but he doesn't care. Don't sign anything Steph and don't feel alone

Steph you are truly brave. My husband told me today that if it werent for the baby, he wouldnt stay as there isnt anything to salvage from our relationship. I am utterly devastated and feel alone. But I feel a little selfish after reading your post. I should be stronger but I cant manage - even after reading your post. I spent most of the night looking on the net to see if this is a normal thing for men to feel... if it does make you feel as though youre not alone, there are many women even in my small town that have had their husbands/boyfriends leave while pregnant. Some even have a few kids together! Im truly shocked. I always imagined pregnancy to be such a wonderful bonding experience. I know Im a handful and on top of it - hormonal but Im still shell shocked at 8 1/2 mths. I feel so alone and unloved and seriously think that it would be better if I didnt exists... but I must exist and carry on for the sake of the baby girl that grows each day inside me. I hope you can continue to be strong through this journey, I wish I was there for you as I wish someone was here for me

I am 18 weeks pregnant and feel just the same as all of you. My boyfriend is in med school ( a job full of ethics) and left me because I am ruining his life... He told me when I decided not to get an abortion I decided to be alone. He annonced to all of my friends and family that he doesnt love me and that I am trapping him. Although I told him he is more than welcome to leave if he is okay with doing so. I feel like less of a woman ( a pretty funny feeling while doing the most womanly thing I can do) I cry myself to sleep and live on prayer. If it wasnt for the baby I dont quite know how I would continue. It really is surprising to know that I am not the only one out there and as much as I love to know I am not alone I feel terrible for the other woman in this position. Thank you all for being so brave and writing. Dear BrownBrown you can chose to exist or live.. It is not called happeness it is happinessand you have to make you happy. You will be just fine and you are never alone.

Wow! I am surprised at the response that you have received by asking this question. I got online only to find the same type of support you are looking for. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for only a year. I am 17 weeks pregnant and he asked me for space. I think he's actually cheating because maybe he doesn't find me to be the same spontaneous fun person I once was. Whatever the problem is, I am terrified to be going at it alone. And I don't think I can do it. And all I want is to find a solution to make him come back, but I guess you're right when you say we can not force them to do anything they do not want to do. I just wish being pregnant were a little easier. I have never been more stressed out in my life and I know that it's not good for the baby but I don't know what to do to "chill" any suggestions?

HELLO LADIES I HAVE A QUESTION MY SISTER AND I ARE WRITTING A SCRIPT ABOUT SINGLE PREGNANT MOM, MY IDEA IS FOR A REALITY TV SHOW CALLED "IAM SINGLE PREGNANT AND WANT A HUSBAND" ITS A SHOW ABOUT SINGLE PREGNANT WOMEN WHO ARE LOOKING FOR TRUE LOVE AND HAPPINESS AND WANT TO FIND A NICE MAN AND FATHER FOR THEIR CHILD. IT IS A IDEA I HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT FOR SOMETIME HAVING SEEN MY FRIENDS END UP PREGNANT AND SINGLE I JUST KNOW THERE MUST BE SOME INTEREST IN THIS TOPIC. I HAVE THOUGHT MAYBE THE SHW CAN GO LIKE THIS 10 SINGLE PREGNANT LADIES GO ON DATES WITH NICE FAMILY ORIENTED SINGLE MEN WHO REALLY ARE LOOKING FOR LOVE AND FAMILY AND ARE WILLING TO BE A LOVING HUSBAND AND FATHER. THERE WILL BE PRIZES LIKE A NEW HOUSE FOR THE COUPLE WHO FALL INLOVE AND MARRY BEFORE THE BABY IS DUE AND ANICE WEDDING WILL FOLLOW. TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK PLEASE.

You are most definately not alone. I felt the same way. My husband of eight years that I have a wonderful 2.5 yr old with wants nothing to do with this pregnancy. He is not a dead beat at all...just decided that work, pubs and clubs are more fun. This coming from a former minister...so it can happen to anyone! I walked away from God a long time ago...but he has been there and I continue to lean on him. He is the true father that will take care of all needs if we let him. He opens doors...we just have to stand up and walk through them with our heads held high ladies! If Mary Magdaline did it...so can we!

Please read this completely through. Ok so this might sound completely insane, and might well be, but here is the proposal. I am very sick of living in the US it is quickly becoming a low brow country sized trailer park. I want to relocate to the tropics. I have access to a house that my family has in Costa Rica. One of the worlds tropical gems, a natural paradise. The cost of living is very low and affordable. As a country they have one of the highest literacy rate and a very exceptional education system. At the part of the posting you may be wondering why I am babbling in this forum. It is somewhat difficult to move there from other countries with the exception of one loophole. If your child is born there they are considered a citizen and you can apply to be one as well. SO if you're in a bad situation or you have no one to take care of you and our child or you would rather be in the most gorgeous place on earth. Message me. I am completely serious. Obviously it may take a slight amount of time to plan out but in reality the only need that would come up are food, and utilities. That I can take care of, I have rentals here in the state that are next to a University, and have a steady in come from that. I know some woman out there would probably love to have it easy and move to country like this one. So before you take back some abusive jerk because you have no idea where to turn.. (On a side note, I have dated a woman who's son I help raise for some time, I am very good with children and capable)

I feel your pain. I have been with my husband for 18 years, married for 4. We have a beautiful daughter that is three and I am 22 weeks pregnant. I was just informed two days ago that he is no longer in love with me (he still loves me, go figure) and his heart is with someone else. I don't know how to handle this. I feel like I am in a bad dream and can't wake up. He has not been in love with me for a while. What I don't understand is why he would want to have another child with me, then tell me he doesn't love me while I am pregnant. I am so worried about the stres and the effects that this may have on my unborn child. Does anyone have any ideas on how to deal with this? He has been the only one I have ever been with and I am so scared of being alone.

I'm shocked to read about so many women left pregnant and alone!! Its shocking!! I'm also pregnant and alone. My 38yr old boyfriend (ex) broke up with me because I'm pregnant. He does not want a child. The pregnancy was unplanned and feels that I trapped him into fatherhood...ridiculous!! A coward!! He simply disappeared one day and I have not seen him since. He sent me an email ending our relationship and the reason why. I am so hurt. I thought we loved each other and wanted a future together. Guess I was wrong. His family is wealthy so they always feel that "people" are after them for their money. I don't want anything from him. I am strong and independent so I know that I can do it without him but I want my child to know his/her father. It doesn't appear that will happen. That is what makes me sad. I have access to his brother and aunt. I will send them photos of the baby as it grows. Now I have scheduled an appointment with an attorney to find out the steps to establish paternity, child support, etc. I'm so disappointed in men that I can't even explain how it feels. I welcome any advice and encouragement :)

Monchy, be happy that you are pregnant before your eggs gave out. Does he have a controlling mother who thinks you are not good enough? You are making all the right moves. Take things in stride, and quietly pity him for being less of a man than you imagined. Keep things as friendly as you are able. I think in due course he will become attached to your child (may be some years away) and you will be proud of what you have accomplished. Good luck!

Can I just say in general that I don't understand why some men feel trapped. Hello? They aren't the ones carrying another life inside of them. They aren't trapped, obviously from what we see everyday they can just get up and leave at anytime. Don't get me wrong, women can to....you just take the life with you. The last year of my life has been horrible. I have had to listen to my ex-husband go on and on about how he felt "trapped" and didn't know what to do when he go his girlfriend pregnant. Requested a divorce instead of talking to me so that a few months after their baby was born they could say they fell in love and he "adopted" the baby. Now he is miserable and feeling trapped again since he has two of us pregnant at the same time. And she is demanding that he cut me and our 3 kids - not to mention my unborn child completely out of his life. If not she will probably move away. So, he is trapped and I am the one who has to make decisions so he can have everything he wants. So no, I don't really understand how a man says he is trapped. You make a mistake you stand up, you own it. But a baby? Never a mistake. It's a choice. It's a life. You embrace it, and if you aren't man enough, you do the right thing - help take care of the baby.

thanks grandpa, i'm glad my eggs didn't give out too!! I'm happy for my child...just wish his/her father was around. But life goes on....

Hi Lorilenore...wow you have a lot going on!! It's just crazy the way these men behave. They are total cowards!! The pain of my situation is beginning to lessen somewhat...still hurts quite a bit though :( I'm sorry you are going through so much. It will be difficult but we can do it without those cowards!!

Hey there to all the single moms out there, I wish I knew what it was like to be a mom. A stepmom is so much different then, being able to raise a baby from birth. If any of you women, feel that you cannot handle being a mom right now and would like someone to adopt your child, please let me know. You can always email me at jenisalazar at live dot com. I check my emails constantly and would be more that happy to help out with medical and other finances. Me and my husband have been married over 10 years and he brought 2 kids in, but they are 16 and 14 and i'm in search for me a newborn or a little bit older. Please email me for further info.

hey I'm kinda new at this whole thing, but my situation is a little different but I'm so confused. I'm 24 wks pregnant and the father of the baby won't leave me alone. (i know it sounds weird, but i don't trust him around me or the baby)I'm kinda at a loss of what to do. I know he has rights but how much should i allow him?