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Lori you need to stand your ground with her and tell her it's between you and her son the minute you stand up to her is the minute she will respect you

Ashley your heart will never change for your ex no matter how bad he will ever treat you as you are having his baby. Do you think may be you could try things with your old ex who isn't the father?

Lana don't worry about him you don't need him you can do this on your own and to be honest I told the baby that I'm pregnant with now to leave and never come back cause I can be a better mum on my own rather than have the ha__sle of him around being a pain.

Lana18, you are the only one who can make the decision. What ever decision you make is entirely your business. If you want to keep your baby then be prepared for the reality that your ex boyfriend may not ever be there for you and your child. So that will make it difficult financially, etc. Many of these men don't deserve the t_tle of MAN. They are weak, selfish cowards!! I am also pregnant and alone. My boyfriend also disappeared when I became pregnant. He doesn't answer phone calls, etc. No communication at all. He made it clear that he does not want to be a father to his child. It hurts a lot. I'm sure you're hurting and confused as well. I'm keeping my baby!! But I'm a lot older than you and have already finished with college and all that. You will need to have support from family and friends. You will need help with baby sitting, etc. You mentioned that you do not intend on having an abortion so right now you should be preparing yourself for motherhood; Working, saving your money, finding out about a__sistance for young mothers in your state and making a plan to continue on with school...even if it's one cla__s a semester. Remember that you also have option to file for child support, hopefully the b___d has a job! Just make sure that you get sole custody. I still cry almost everyday because I think about having a child who will not know his father. It's not the ideal situation for my baby but it is reality. I will love my child and have positive male influences (not boyfriends) around him. Remember that many mothers raise children alone...and you can too. But try to prepare yourself properly first because these babies are innocent so we have to try to give them the best life possible in order for them to become productive adults. It is possible also that your boyfriend may have a change of heart and become involved somehow. He may not be involved completely but he may come around every now and then...so your baby will at least know who its father is. His family may also step up to the plate and help you a bit. Although, I would still plan on him being a coward and hiding like what my ex boyfriend is doing and he's 38yrs old!! Hopefully your family is around you and is supportive.So try to stay focused and decide exactly what you want to do. It may seem like a stessful time for you right now and maybe a few years to come, but it's not the end of the world. Keep in touch..and good luck. Women are strong!!

I sit here reading everything that's going on, and I'm speechless. How did this get so out of control? What happened to the days where our virginity was something to be proud of? I mean no offense to anyone, but it seems like playing the dating game is getting to have a very high price for all of us. But I guess it's a choice we all make. I'm at 26wks and as the baby moves more and more [:P!!!!], I realize that it's my decision that was the mistake; this baby has absolutely NO fault in it. Yes, I have no money, no job, no boyfriend, and no idea what's going to happen, but I know i'll be OK. We're not the first ones to do this girls! And we sure won't be the last. As for the father of my baby ~ screw it. I don't have the time nor the energy to deal with all the heartache he gives me. Yes I love him and believe that he has rights, but I just figure that it takes 2 people to fight and I'm done playing that game. If he wants to be a part of this baby's life then he better grow up first. A baby is not a toy, it's a LIFE. A very precious life. And I know we're ALL strong enough to survive the pregnancy (talk about hormones!), and then provide our baby the best we can.

Ashley, to have someone who looks past our flaws and still likes us for who we are is someone to hold on to...with BOTH hands! If your other ex (the one who's not the father) would willingly love this child as his own, I suggest to see where a relationship with him could lead. Just bare in mind that the memory of the biological father will never leave your life. You now have something physically of his. But a willing father is ALWAYS a better father than one who feels you trapped him into it. Lana, if you know for sure if there's other girls in his life, then think long and hard about how much he means to you. And if you feel that you don't love him as completely as you figured, then leave. If he's betraying you now, there's nothing stopping him from doing it later. I know that from experience. Here's my story, I hope it helps: My ex and I slept together at the beginning of our relationship, but then about a year later I put him off. We were "good" for nearly 4 months when I finally gave in to him once more. He had been texting and hanging out with a different girl for about a month before and I just really wanted him back to being MINE. The weekend we were intimate he told me that he would give up that other girl if he could have "this" back. By "this" I knew he just wanted the s_x back. I felt so betrayed when I later found out I had gotten pregnant from that night. I figured I would give him the benefit of the doubt and try to keep the relationship, but I found out that he had started texting with the other girl soon after I told him I was pregnant. And he was proud of it! I left him right there, cuz I just knew that there were better men out there. I knew I deserved better. Besides the baby deserved way better!

thanks i actually think i should do that too! it'll make me feel better! thanks for the advice!

thanks for your offer but that's something i can never do! i may be young but i understand responsibility and i'll give this baby more love than anyone or anything but i understand what you are saying! i am pursuing my education adn working to save money and i have help from his family so it will be difficult but thats my responsibility.

wow thanks alot for the advice i really am trying!

omg i just saw this and idk if the post i put you'll know i replied to u but i'm sorry i did not put your names but i jus wanna thank you all who replied for your advice it actually made me feel better like i have some more support. knowing that other people are out there and they are going through similar situations and are doing well it's giving me inspiration that i can do it! thanks again everyone!

Lana you are definatly not alone and we are all here to support eachother that's why this forum is fantastic. You will be fine I had my daughter when I was your age and did everything on my own and I can tell you now to be honest for me life was not that bad or hard as I am about to do it again on my own with the baby I am pregnant with now. I acheived so much when I had my daughter so having a child for me never stopped me in acheiving anything in my life I actually feel that having my child has given me way more chances in getting to where I want to get in life. I am not going to wish you luck cause you won't need it. You will be 100% fine and you are going to be a wonderful mother.

Oh and also lana you never have to justify yourself to anyone especially not strangers.

You can do it lana18!!! Hang in there...Sounds like you will be just fine!!

Scarednlonely thanks alot i really needed to hear that!

Monchy73 thanks!!!!

I had a one night stand on hols on Aug 17th and haven't had a period since and feel sick, tired and sore b___sts and just well pregnant. I've missed 2 periods now and just know what the test will say. I only have this guys address and not even a phone number. I'm going back to Edinburgh on 31st October and will be probably 12 weeks or so by then, I don't think I should tell him he probably won't believe me and I haven't been with anyone else since. Anyway I'm 34 yrs old, got a good job buying a new apartment and now probably am over 7 weeks pregnant - not in my long term plan. I've met a new fella since and don't know when I should tell him I'm expecting someone elses baby. He has a 10 year old daughter from a previous relationship but I really like him and I'm doing a test today and It will confirm my suspicions cause I'm usually like clockwork and have my period every 29 days and it was day 14 of my cycle when i had the one night stand. Help please advice needed. I'm going to keep the baby anyway I could never have an abortion.