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I am also pregnant and alone. I am almost 3 months and just found out tonight that my boyfriend now wants nothing to do with me, he said he would support the child financially but we are not compatible! Yesterday he said everything would be great between us if I just had an abortion and we waited until we were ready to raise the child. I told him I couldn;t have an abortion and his feelings all of sudden change towards me! Go figure! What I want to know is why do men think of these things after the fact?? I am so mad right now, and feel soooo alone in all of this. If any of you need to talk I could really use some friends to help me through.

Hey caryn...you will be ok..if you need a friend you can email me on hadiha@hotmail.com

hey i know how you feel...i am pregnant and my ex was supportive when i first found out i was pregnant but then decided he didn't want a kid and left me with nothing and no one...i met someone else who seemed really nice and he was supportive at first too but now that the time is getting closer he is thinking about running too..i don't understand guys at all...hang in there!!

steph dont let him off scott free. he participated in the making of this baby make him participate in the financial support as well!!!!!

wow,...i don't feel so alone- i am pregnant and think i mightt have to be single, my bf has become very controlling, basically saying if i don't stay home and tend house, and work full time that i am going to be a bad mother and should just have an abortion- i am not at all a wild child, and only see my friends on occasion for kunch or a movie, but he makes me feel like i am wrong and a bad person by doing this....i am contemplating breaking up with him and doing this on my own...i dont want my child to grow up hearing mommy being called names, yelled at and put down..........

I'm 7 months pregnant and the father has now decided that he won't help me. He has two children from a previous marriage and now says he can't afford this one. I feel really sad and alone

Reading these messages has been saddening. My story is this, I am a successful 29 year old who has worked hard and owns own house. I have a two year old daughter already from a four year relationship. We split up when my daughter was one. I was extremely depressed and adapting to life alone with zero support from this guy, who'd also taken a lot of my money. Then I met my 'knight in shining armour', a 46 year old business man who was wealthy and had no 'baggage'. He seduced me, bought me expensive clothes, and we got engaged, went on exotic holidays, and he loved being with my daughter. I moved in, sold my car (he financed a new one), and planned the wedding. He wanted a baby. I agreed. Life was sweet and I wanted that family unit so so much. Then he started drinking, not coming home when he said he would, and (when I was 24 weeks) telling me things would not work out, but he loved me, and would try. I gave up my job (depression) and yelled at my daughter if he yelled at me. Then I found old girlfriends numbers on his mobile, and he started going to the gym for four or five hours at a time. At six and a half months pregnant, I was so upset with his distance, that I smashed one of his precious antiques out of feeling so hurt. He beat me so badly I had to go to hospital, and my baby had suffered trauma. He is not allowed to see me and was arrested by the police. I feel so stupid, but the only crime is that I was so open to believing lust was love. He loved my body, youth and success. He then began to despise my need, insecurity and changing figure. I trusted him, and he let me down. And now? I am back in my own home, with no transport, a host of additional bills, and a deflated heart. But, I have (in the past month) regained the wonderful relationship I have with my daughter (she is a delight) and have seen who I can truly count on. It is not a place where I saw myself and I am not happy about my 'reputation' or those lonely nights, but I am excited about the future. I can decide, choose, and be strong. This man will fall. The writing is on the wall, but it is not my place to judge. I have personal faith that God does not give us more burdens than we can manage. I hope I have learned now though, that friendship, marriage and financial commitment have to become before baby-making. Keep strong x

I would never sign an agreement freeing a guy from his responsibilities. I am 5 and a half months pregnant and alone as well. I too thought my boyfriend loved me until one day everything changed. I knew he was cheating but not how serious it was. He had gotten another girl pregnant and he was with me and the girl for almost the same amount of time. He never confessed I met her on accident she was six months pregnant. He promised it was an accident and she meant nothing. For months he went back and forth between the two of us and we both knew, only neither of us wanted to let go. When she was nine months preg. I found out I was 6 weeks. When I was 3 months I caught him with her and he said he needed some space. I am now almost 6 months and I am just trying to move on with my life. Him and I communicate whenever I call, I had to move back home and take the semeter out of school because of complications with the pregancny. He still tells me he loves me and not her. I love him, but I hate him at the same time. I rarely contact him because I am trying to move on without a deadbeat like him. I have faith that we can all raise our children alone if we have to. These men are not worth crying over. If anyone would like to chat you can email me at lylic_21@hotmail.com.

no you r not, me and my bf just decided to break up, in fact it is the only thing we have agreed on in 2 years i just found out i was pregnant, and he wants to be free. i am choosing to take care and live on with my life with this chid i have been blessed with cause lord knows i don't deserve one. i am in the military, which is more demanding that the usual 9-5 job. if i can do it, so can u

Hey girl, You are not alone. My boyfriend of two years cheated on me and then I decided to give him a second chance and ended up pregnant. He wanted me to aborted it but I don't believe in that. Now I'm 5 weeks and he doesn't want to be with me anymore but he said he'll be there for the baby. I don't know if he's scared or trying to punish me for keeping this baby. Men are something else when it comes to situations like this. Stay strong, blessings will come.

well my husband told me that he wanted a child by me and now that I am 8 weeks he don't want another child and we are now no longer together not just of that but that is the biggest reason. I am scared to do this all on my own but I know that God will help me. I am having to do this all alone and just thinking of being a single mom is tough job but remember womaen are always going to be stronger.

You are not the only one.... I am 21 weeks pregnant, and my bf, is insecure and jealous. We are forever arguingover things that are tedious and he creates these big problems. We live together and he always threatens to leave. i am at the point where i don't care. i have been insulted and put down for the last time, i don't need my child to grow up in that environment. I still work full time and have done everything in my power to secure him, ultimately it's his choice. All you need is strength and courage to go on for you and your child. He is losing out.

You are not alone! I told the biological father I was pregnant and did not have the abortion as he requested. I was hurt, angry, and scared throughout my pregnancy. I got so depressed that I went on ani-depressants. I cried and felt quilty because I was hurting my baby by not being strong. Long story short. The biological father is know in the picture. The day the baby was born he showed up with a bouquet of flowers, a balloon and a stuffed animal. I have accepted him into the baby's life for the baby and not because of my wished to tell him to go where the sun won't shine. He now wants me to change his last name to his, have him for a weekend, etc. Perhaps it will happen to you, but one think Steph. You are not alone. Enjoy this time. Enjoy the pregnancy. Enjoy the miracle that God has granted you. Forget about him and that hurt. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! You have your baby! Once you hold your baby in your arms, nothing will matter. He or she will help you see that He is the one who missed out.

I had a guy lie to me for months, he turned out to be married. He told his wife but she decided to stay. His mother knows but wont discuss it. They all make me sick. I dont want him in my life or my child because hes not trustworthy and his true colors made me sick. I am telling him either divorce papers or your baby. I wont have it both ways. My child doesnt have to think step parents are normal.

No, you are definitely not alone. I JUST broke up with my boyfriend last week, only a week AFTER we found out I was pregnant. I am about 8 weeks. I don't believe in abortion so I will have this baby. But my problem is I have 3 kids already. Ages 14, 13 and 7. I was DONE with having kids. But since this happened and he promised he would always be there for me, I said I would trust him and have this baby. Plus he could not stop talking about how much he wanted to marry me! After his cousin just died, he got depressed and was missing in action for 4 days with my car! Needless to say, I packed all his things and threw him out once I got my car back. In my condition, I cannot deal with a man who is THAT unstable. I need him here for me. I realize death is hard, I've dealt with it but I would never hurt someone I claim to love by putting them through 4 days of hell. I couldn't go to work, I had to rely on others to drive me around, I didn't know if he was dead or alive. Now my trust for him is gone. He wants to work things out but I can't seem to get pa__sed why he did it in the first place. My 3 kids are by a man who was unstable and had loads of problems. I don't need another. I can't believe I am starting all over again by myself, AGAIN. There is no guarantee he won't do this to me again. So I don't know what I'm going to do. But please don't sign anything allowing him to getaway with not having to care for a child he help create. Thats crazy. Quite frankly, who cares what HE wants? Don't sign anything. This will be his problem and show him he can't just make babies and walk away. NO WAY! I made sure to write down all my boyfriend's personal information before kicking him out. I got his work address, social security number, and some other info. Protect yourself and your child. These men can't keep getting away with murder.

Hi, I'm going thru something very close to what you have gone thru. I'm pregnant at this time and was in a commited relationship with the dad (living together and planing on getting married) I found out I ws pregnant (unplanned) and he couldn't take this and is now moved out. It has been broken my heart. I don't want to do this alone and considering not going through with the pregnancy. But finding it very hard to have an abortion. I already love this unborn child but I have any family or close friends to help me, so I will be truly doing it alone if I have this baby. I don't know how I can have an abortion and live with myself. I wish you all the luck in the world.