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Hi, I'm going thru something very close to what you have gone thru. I'm pregnant at this time and was in a commited relationship with the dad (living together and planing on getting married) I found out I ws pregnant (unplanned) and he couldn't take this and is now moved out. It has been broken my heart. I don't want to do this alone and considering not going through with the pregnancy. But finding it very hard to have an abortion. I already love this unborn child but I have any family or close friends to help me, so I will be truly doing it alone if I have this baby. I don't know how I can have an abortion and live with myself. I wish you all the luck in the world.

My boyfriend left me when i was 6 months pregnant. Now i am 7 and i still feel a great sense of loss and betrayal. But you are smart for saying you just want to get on with your life. I was an emotional roller coaster and i cried so much and the doctor told me the stress was keeping my baby from growing. But since i cut off all contact with the father, my baby has caught up to the ideal weight and size. You are definatly not alone, but it will take you possibly years to completely move on since your child is his.AT the time i am writing this you probably had your baby already.

I also found out i'm 12 weeks and am alone. I don't know what to do though.

Hi steph my babys father didnt really tell me that he didnt want anything to me or the baby but he was selling drugs and I tried to get him to stop if he really wanted to be there for me and the baby because he has already gotten caught twice before and he will be going away for a long time but he didnt and now we are all alone and Im only 16 and its really hard to do this alone you know?youd think that if he realy loved us he would have thought about that but he didnt and now he will be gone for at atleast 10 years I just dont know what to do...o yeah Im 5 months and this is the most emotional part of my pregnacy Ive had and its so hard so I know what your going through but Itll be ok though because a bay is a verry beatiful thing and if he dosent want anything to do with it then thats his loss because there will be a man that will come along and want to take care of you and your baby but keep your head up till then sista!!!

Wow. I can't believe how many people are in a similar situation as I am. When it happens to you, you feel so alone and like the only one in the world to be pregnant and without a partner to enjoy it with. Steph, no no no. Don't sign a thing no matter how much pressure and manipulation you are under. I know it's hard not to cave - I'm 10 weeks pregnant and my BF has not spoken to me in three weeks, when I told him for the final time that I could not do what he wanted me to do, which is have an abortion (well, he calls it a "procedure"; his Catholic self probably can't bear the guilt of actually seeing it for what it is). I feel so sad and angry. He blames me that I got pregnant, and even suggested that I masterminded the plan to "ruin" his life and "trap" him. I'm 34, college-educated and a solid, loving Christian. His mere suggestion that this is anything but an unexpected crisis for me as well makes me want to kick all of his teeth in. He was out of work almost all of 2004 so I supported him and his young son to the tune of nearly $15K. I stood by him during his crisis; he's no where to be found in OUR crisis. Thank goodness I have prayer and the most amazing family and group of friends because I don't know that I could do this. The hormones and the morning sickness and the fatigue are extraordinary. To have someone who loves you right there to help you out would be so wonderful, but if that's not going to happen, then at the very least he should have financial parental obligations. Steph, you're smart to want to stay away from him if he's making you more stressed. I will pray for you and all of the women who have written into this site. I have true faith that this baby is a blessing, and a part of God's plan for me, whether its father is in the picture or not.

I am almost 14 weeks pregnant. I found shortly after leaving a bad relationship. I either must go on alone or go back to an unhealthy relationship. I'm already a single mom so this is a scary path. Hope everything is going well for you Stephanie

I'm going threw the same stuff. I'm 32weeks along and my fiancee said it was to stressfull and i should leave and come back after the baby's born. Now he's changed his mind and wants us to come back. I moved home to Iowa from Virginia. guys are mean and they dont understand what we go threw. I hope the best for you and wish that everything works out. Good luck anyone want to chat iowagurl1225@yahoo.com or lovengurl23@aol.com

To ~S~......you hit the nail on the head when you said "he's not helping to make me feel any different". I am finding that since my boyfriend has screwed up twice already, I am left with no choice but to think he doesn't want to be with me. Because he isn't do anything else to make me THINK he wants to be with him. The words come out of his mouth that he wants to be with me, but his actions show that he is still a little boy searching for something. I have no idea what, but he's searching for something that I obviously DON'T have to give him.

That's exactly it "Sis" talk is cheap, actions are where it's at. The same with my boyfriend. He tells me he loves me, he tells me I'm special, he throws out little indications and hints that we are going to be together and he'll even say something like "when I marry you......." in a conversation but WHATEVER! I want to see the actions that follow behind those words, and until then, I can't help but to feel that it's not me he wants, or I'm not good enough for him, or I'm not what he's looking for. That feeling will not change until he does something to change it. I can't change it on my own, if that was possible, I would have done that long time ago, but it's not up to me, it's up to HIM! The reason my boyfriend cheated was because he said he was selfish. He said that I have something he truely wants in a relationship and that other woman has something he wants. I don't want to be with someone who only loves bits and pieces of me, i want to be with someone who loves ALL of me!!!

Dear Steph, I am going through the same thing. I feel alone and sad, but don't want to affect the baby. I try thinking of names and figures some that I like. That made me happy. Everyone tells me that once the bay is born everything will be difference and the baby will give me the courage to move on from the betrayal

The father of my baby is married and never bothered to tell me. As I found out the truth, I was already in the 4th month. I can't describe how shocked I have been. Well, right after I wrote his wife, he cut off any contact to me (in over 3 months I haven't heard a single word from him) -although he once promised me that he would help me as good as he can. Interestingly, his wife has now blocked my email, too. She obvioulsy doesn't want to hear and know about her husband's activities. Maybe he has done this before. I just feel responsible to do everything within my power to prevent that other women will be tricked, hurt and used by him in the future. PS: Even as I informed him about the pregnancy, he didn't tell me that he's married. I feel very hurt.It's such an humiliating experience. A friend, who's a lawyer forwarded me this : " If you are married and posing as single, be aware that you could be guilty of fraud and subject to civil and criminal penalties under federal and state law. For each offense, Title 18, Section 1343 of the U.S. Code authorizes fines of up to $250,000 and jail sentences of up to five years." Now, should I sue him for committing fraud ? My email is HalloweenBaby65@hotmail.com

Don't worry! nornaly guys that care come around. Once the baby is born you'll see he will grow up and realize that you are the most important thing in his life and you just had the second best thing.Good Luck & Stay Strong!

I posted my story a week ago (May 15). I'm writing again with the hopes that I can provide all of the scared and overwhelmed people in this situation a little bit of hope and faith, no matter what unfolds. As of yesterday, I was trying hard to continue to focus only on making sure that I'm OK and that I'm doing everything possible to make sure that this baby is growing in as healthy an environment as possible. I'd just about written off having any hope of my boyfriend coming back into the picture, and to be honest, I wasn't sure I'd want him to be back in the picture even if he did come back. Well, he came back this morning. Called out of the blue to apologize over how badly he'd reacted to this news, for all the stress he had caused me, and for running away because he got scared. And, after all of the pressure he'd put on me to terminate the pregnancy a month ago, he thanked me for not listening to him. He thanked me for making the right decision, and asked if we could start over and rebuild a life together. Certainly, this is something that is going to take time and will have to unfold through actions, not just words. But I stand by my conviction that God has a plan for me, and all of the women struggling with crisis pregnancies right now. What that is for me, and for everyone reading this, may not be visible today or tomorrow or two months from now. Have faith, have patience and do what you can now to make you and your babies the top priority.

You are not alone. It seems like when you mention the Baby word all the courage and strength and money they had before seem to dissapear. I dont know if you believe in god, or whatever.. but the thing that got me through this far ( i'm 35 wks) is knowing that god knew i was strong enough, and found me worthy of raising another person. The life thats inside you is planned for, even if it wasnt in your plan. Being a mother is one of the most wonderful t_tles a woman could ever have. there are women out there who would give anything to become a mom, and you are soooo blessed. Keep that in mind. You can do this!!!

Hi Again, I wrote on the 8th of May. I made a decission a few weeks ago to have an abortion and have followed thru with it. It was the hardest thing I have done in my life. I had the abortion just over a week ago, I have very much wondered if I made the right decission. I have been finding things very very hard to deal with since then, and it's not getting any easier. When I went that day to the clinic (alone), I felt my hands were tied and it wasn't my decission any more. I had no support from the father in keeping this child and as I said before no family support to fall back on. I did something that no part of me wanted to do or felt was right. I just felt so alone and as I said I felt my hands were tied. Since then my life has become HELL. I can't stop crying and thinking about my baby that is no more and what I have done. There is no way for me to go back and change things, if I could I know with all my heart I would. I'm very truly sorry for what I have done and finding it very hard to live with myself now. My ex-boyfriend can't seem to understand what i'm going thru and why i'm feeling the way I am. He said to me just today that getting pregnant was all my falt & that I had an abortion because I wanted it and it had nothing to do with him and his lack of caring or support. hearing someone say such a thing when I feel the way I do and how sorry I am just makes thing so much harder and me so much more sorry, because I didn't want to do it. I already loved this baby and thats why it's so hard. I sleep at night with the few things I had bought for my baby every night, I need something and I will now never have it, just the little things I bought to keep as reminders of that poor unborn baby, my baby...

well my baby's father, took of to arizona and now says he's going to come back after I have the baby and steal him/her.