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don't give up. i got pregnant at 20 and apparantly a baby wasn't in my older boyfriend's plans. the relaionship did not work out but i got a great daughter out of it and worked hard to provide for her and myself. you have lots of friends on this forum.

Courtney... your 25 year old boyfriend is a selfish ASS... he's just saying anything to you right now to make you feel like you shouldn't keep the baby. The line of you destroying his dream to be a great father is a bunch of BS. If he didnt' want to be a father he shouldn't have been having s_x. God had other plans for him, and his time to be a father is now. (My ex tried the same thing.. he constantly whined because he's 27 and didn't want kids till he was 31 and married... well too bad, you got me pregnant, so you're gonna deal with being a daddy... right now) You say strong, girl and don't let ANYONE make you feel bad for giving your baby the chance at life. Be proud of yourself, and trust me, one day your baby's going to thank you. (I have a cousin who was almost aborted... she thanks her mom all the time that she gave her the chance at life)

You are right there with me. I'm about seven weeks along and the father has made it clear if I keep the baby I'm on my own. He's also tried seriously to sway me into not having this child. However, its a life and I will not be the one responsible for ending. Thankfully he has not asked me to sign anything, I'll deal with that road later I imagine. Anywho all we can do is hang in there and hope for the best.

Hi Steph, I understand where you are coming from. I ended up pregnant at 19 and the father left me for another. I was heartbroken and scared. But I overcame it. I was thinking about freeing him too but my grandfather told me not to. He said that he helped make my daughter and he should help regardless if he was in her life or not. When my daughter was 6 months I took her father for child support. You need to stay focus on your growing baby. The hurt will eventually go away and you will be left with the most wonderful little person. Your child will make you a stronger women. Keep you head up and be strong. Don't give in so easy into "freeing" him. He has a responsibility regardless if he wants it or not. God Bless & Be Strong.

Message to Courtney - Don't let him make YOU feel like the selfish one. YOU are the one who will carry the majority of the guilt should you terminate this pregnancy, not him. Trust me, I heard all of this and more in my first weeks of pregnancy. He is going to pull out all of the stops to get his way right now. Shut out the noise and go with your heart on this decision, not his panic and selfishness. If your heart says that termination is the right decision, at least you will be comforted to know that it was YOUR decision, not made simply because you couldn't take one more moment of guilt and pressure from someone whose nights out at the bar are in jeopardy. Shame on him. Keep the faith. I'm in week 16 and mine has just decided that he wants to be a good dad to our baby, but nothing more (at least with me). If you read my earlier posts, you'll see that this is quite a roller coaster for me and many of us...But all we can do is know that God has a plan, and trust that it will all be good and worth the agony in the long run.

Hi Steph! Don't feel bad, I am in my second pregnancy and the father asked me what I thought about adoption! Yes, he was able to "accept" the first, but now he doesn't want the second. I basically did it on my own with my first ... with the help of family of course. He was too young to be a father and wasn't ready ... so I had to do all the growing up. I just want to let you know that as long as you have family, you have nothing to worry about. As a matter of fact, you're probably better off doing it alone. Just think of the kind of relationship you are going to have with your baby .... He is missing out on you and your baby. Yes, it will be tough at times, but when you are feeling down ... you just look at your baby and won't have a choice but to smile. Trust me ... you won't regret it! By the way .. Congratulations!!!

I am 17 years old and 5 months pregnant im not letting my baby's daddy get away with it, its his baby too weather all he is going to do is pay child support so be it! These boys need to start taking responsibilty and stop leaving us alone with OUR baby's

Hey guys! I am also pregnant (as most of you who post on here are). I am currently 15 weeks pregnant & am also doing it on my own *with the exception of my family* It's tough to be by yourself, but i was prepared for it the day i found out...I used to be such a social b___terfly & now it seems like i am in "hiding". All I do is WORK eat sleep & the oca__sional shopping trip..it gets lonley but sometimes when I get really upset I try to think about all of the much worse things that I could be enduring, it helps me feel fortunate. My best advice to you all is to enjoy your pregnancy for all its worth-appreciating every phase. It's difficult at times ( i am guilty of this!) but it helps to think about it from this point of you. There are several women who cannot ever have children....

i am 5 weeks along and i told my ( now ex bf) that we are having a baby he told me good luck and that i will have to raise it on my own i am 17 and he is soon to be 22 i don't know what 2 do:( guys are f**kers

Hey Shae...Well...needless to say it is especially hard to not only have a baby on your own, but to go through the pregnancy without the significant other there for support & joy. I know you are only 17, but even myself being 21 without someone has been depressing. I still feel entirely too young to give birth....it's even harder to watch all of your friends live there life as you normally would be.....however, i truly believe things happen for a reason & that everything will work out for you. You have to be tough. MAJOR PROPS to you for having this baby while being so young & not having "his" support. it takes a big person to do that. In the end it will be worth it-any baby is a blessing & I truly think that both you & I will be alright. My best advice to you about your ex is to let him be....either he will come around or he wont. For now, you need to focus on you & that baby. Stressing will solve nothing. My "ex" is out of the picture..living states away..I am still not that far along & I have come to realize that I really dont need him. I pray you have good family support b/c it makes the world of difference.

I am going through the feeling of having every single little internal organ bein ripped out of me. I am all knots and nerves and lonely. I was with my bf for 7 months, and it was an up and down rship but there was a huge connection and so much love. Yesterday he'd told me hed had enough of petty arguin and wasnt willin 2 carry on, I practically begged him back, but he doesnt want me. I came home feelin groggy and decided to do a pregnancy test that really should of been done sooner and found im pregnant. I told him but he doesnt want to be involved and wants me to get rid of it. I have absolutley no strength and I need back his love and support. I feel sick to the stomach and so alone. I cry for hours and im scared this will be hurting my baby. I am about 6 weeks pg, but I cant go thru with a termination, I just want him here to share the special moments, is their any advice ne one could give to help? Thinking of all the mums out there and wish you all the best of luck xxxx

Oh no, you are definitely not alone. I am 5 weeks along, having just found out last night and all the baby's dad wants to do is blame, blame, blame. He hasn't once asked how I'm feeling, he is completely and utterly selflish and although I have given him the opportunity to walk away (without owing me a dime) it seems he is determined to stick around and just treat me like s**t, subsequently treating our baby like s**t, too. Having him around treating me poorly is more lonely than actually being by myself and feeling empowered to make independent decisions. Are there support groups out there for these kinds of situations?

Hello ladies, I am reading this site for a few weeks now. It gave me so much strainght eventhough there are times where I am feeling depressed and lonely. My boyfriend let me down when I was in my 8 week, I got so terribly sicke that I needed to go to the hospital as I could not eat anything. I threw up every 10 minutes and lost over 10 pounds. All he did was coming to the hospital and talk me into an abortion. He tried everything like promising a great relationship afterwards.Or he forced me to make a decision-he or the baby! I realize that every man who goes so far is a fake and not worh the stress. I did not give in, he lives in another city and all of sudden decide that he will leave Europe and go to US. Also I found out that he was messing with another girl who sponsored him, she even claims they are married! We have not been very long together but he never told me openly that he does not want a relationship and now he is not ready unless he finds the very "special one" and get married, he talked about how I "trapped"him and how stressful this is for HIM. I can not and should not hear that. I need to see what I will do about child care as I only have a month and then he is gone. In the beginning I thought I should let it be but with time I am realizing how hard it will be without his financial support and it's his child to!!I am trying to get back to life and looking forward to my baby. Its such a wonderful gift we should all feel blessed and dont make it dependend on a man. Men come and go, nowadays there is no guarantee anymore. Girls, if you feel lonely drop me a line, I can use support.My email adress is:silena77@hotmail.com. Keep your head up, I'll keep you in my prayers!

Dear Steph, I am also twelve weeks pregnancy and the father of my baby, who was my boyfriend for one and half years, up until last week was pushing me to get an abortion, crying and promising me to start all over with me again, introducing me to his parents and his relatives (he never did the whole term of our relationship) as he was not sure ever if he would marry me and didn't want them to warm up to me. So, I have told him to get on with his life and leave me alone and now he is out of sight, doesn't call anymore. His mother called me (and I made him promise me to tell his mother - even in this case) and told me that I am making a "mistake" it will be a problem for me. He will move on and I will be left with a problem. And, I told her to stop using that word and told her that we don't share the same philosophy of life as like her son and so it is better we are all on our own paths. I am taking care of myself alone, eating well, being positive. I now see that no one in this world is with you, only your family and that is it. Love is just a second hand emotion. I like to believe it is true but this guy was exactly the guy I was waiting for in life and look what happened. He kept saying things like this kid is winning over him - he was acting like he is in a battle with the kid. Shame on him seriously and I don't understand why I loved a man with such potential. He has his own apartment, family all one minute away from him and I am left alone in Europe living with a roomate, sleeping alone, with saddness at times. I have decided to go back to North America, that is where I come from. I wish all of you girls happiness. You all are wonderful beings for doing the right thing. You are not being selfish. In time, life will bring its real fortunes and offerings to you - the first is about to be received anyway (the baby). Love to you all. Nam-yoho-renge-kyo

You are not alone.... I am 19 weeks and the father left when we first found out. It is hard and you are brave to accept your role as a single mother. I have been on my own and trust some days are very hard but you will be okay and just think of the wonderful life you will have with your baby. Good luck to you!!

I was with the father of my unborn child for over a year and within that time had two miscarrages by him. the last one was right before christmas. the night I told him he broke up with me. next, that following week found out he was interested in another girl and was happy about the miscarrage. we stayed sepparated for about a month. I got back on birth control and we ended up back together for about two weeks. broke up again. stay'd friends and that led to "friend with benifits" I got pregnant while on birth control and concived on feb 29. At first he wanted nothing to do with me or the child to be. And he still cant decide. Hes came to one doc. appt. and I told my doc the situation before he came into the room and she said that she would go ahead with the U/S just to see if it would set off a spark in him. I thought it would but it hasn't. Im so stupid, Im still seeing him for the s_x once inawhile, thats it.At least I know hes clean. No Aids or Std's. hes been check and also again recently. I moving out of state at the end of the month so at least he'll be out of my life and I can get over him completly. Its really hard when you think you know someone and the two of you have shared so much. you really love them and they turn out to be garbage even when you think you've finnally got a good one.