Am I Worrying For Nothing
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ok... me and my ex dated for awhile.. but we have now been broken up longer then we dated. we have both tried going our separate ways.. but always end up wanting to be together.
we have both recently moved 10 hours away from our home state. not together.. but ended up an hour away from eachother. we've stayed pretty close friends.. im always here for him.. and him for me. well.... we've been "friends with benefits" too. and i just found out that i am pregnant. i told him the day i found out.. and he wasn't to thrilled about the idea. i myself am against abortion.. its against my morales and beliefs... but he insisted upon it.. and when he didn't get his way.. he kinda threw a hissy fit you could say.
i have no family nor friends where i am at. i mean.. i have friends at work and stuff.. but no one i am really close to.
i am really nervous about going thru this pregnancy a lone. he txt me the other day and told me that he is 100% behind me.. but that is all. whenever i talk to him.. he has an att_tude and doesn't feel like talking. i know this was unexpected.. and we are only 23... but i'm handling it ok. with all my hormones and emotions and everything. why isn't he.... is this something i shouldn't think about too much. does he just need time to let it sink in because he's a male. i'm completely fine with raising this child myself. im ok with it. i just dont want me to have to go thru this pregnancy a lone and then when i give birth have him trying to play the father role then. it's not fair! i don't know if anyones been in similar situations. but any advice would help. i feel all alone in this. and it's hard. i don't understand why it is so hard for him to be happy about it. i am. i have a lot going on in my life too... but im sacrificing things. shouldn't he have to too? ughhhh! am i just being hormonal?
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He may just need time to get used to the idea. I would back away from him and see how he acts. He's probably just scared b/c of the responsibility and since you had been broken up, you were not planning on a continuing with relationship. If he is "100% behind you" and knows your feelings on abortion, it should be ok.
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You are not being hormonal- it is scary even when it's planned!!! He needs to step up to his responsibility! I really think space may help.
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men handle pregnancy a lot different than woman do. i suppose its because all the changes are happening to our body and we get to bond with the baby for 40 weeks before it even arrives. for men sometimes it's not really real until they are actually holding the baby, as long as the guy continues to support you i do believe it will work out for the best in the end. just hang on in there.
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well congrats and good luck... like everyone else said... guys kind of get scared and run away... give it time .. hopefully it will work out... i know it isn't fair if he's not there for you now... believe me my ex wasnt either... but it's not going to matter... it's about you and that baby right now
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