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Heya there dani-elle19, I don't really know your whole situation, but I read your last two posts and think I have a pretty good idea of what's going on. I would say it's ok to hang out with him, just don't dote on him or anything like that. I'm guessing he's freaked out by the pregnancy and right now he's probably pretty darn confused and scared and uncertain about the future. So if you hang out with him just take it easy on him - he will eventually start warming up to the idea as he works the kinks out in his mind and you will definitely be able to tell when he's more comfortable with the whole thing. Hope this helps. :) Also, if you get the chance try googling some info on pregnancy and fathers/dads... there are a lot of resources out there that explain all the stuff that guys normally think/go through during pregnancy, and will help you understand what's going on with him a little better. :)

DONT CALL HIM I know it is hard, it's more than hard, it kills you inside, but it's for the best. You are smothering him and he needs space. Give him wide open space and he will return, welcome him back but don't embrace him to tightly. If you continue to call him he will run farther and you will distroy everything you have. Take it from experiance. GIVE HIM SPACE!!

you know i have to wonder if his friends are telling him the same advice lol. that would suck. my advice, and you don't have to take it if you don't want, of course, is to plan something for friday for you to do. i wouldn't go all out on the sandwich, but you could take him his beanie and lunch and just keep it short and sweet. just say "here you go. i thought you might like some lunch oh and here i forgot to give this to you earlier" (referring to the beanie) and then say "well, i'll talk to you later. i have some errands to run for today" or something like that and then keep yourself as busy as you can. pamper yourself even. make him think yeah you're thinking of him, but not to where you're obsessing. but that's just my opinion. up to you what you'd like to do. good luck though and let us know what you end up doing.

how come u never acknowledge or thank the people who've replied 2 u?

merciii: she doesn't owe us any thanks or any kind of acknowledgment. mind your d__n business. she doesn't need some a__swipe like you nitpicking her forum etiquette. she's pregnant and going through a rough time right now and she can read this if she wants and when she wants. why don't you take our advice and leave these forums? or at least choose a different personality and come back later, box.

and hell it's been 1 whole day. why are you in such a hurry? someone light then end of your tampon or something?

THANK YOU!!! everyone that has given me advice thanks a million. This is a really hard situation. And Teddy finch thanks for sticking up for me :) i have been going thru a rough time merciii so excuse me that i didn't get on here in a couple days and say thanks but if all you have to say is rude comments i think it'd be best if you just didn't say anything at all. But as to everyone else thank you. i decided to give him his space, and he called last night. Told me that he is moving to monatana in february and if i don't go i'll be seperating him and the baby and it'll be all my fault and i'll be a bad mom. i personally feel like he's blaming everything on me and tearing me down. i kinda think i should pick up my feet and just move on. i can take care of this baby and move on with my life i don't need someone to keep tearing my down. i will call him when i'm in labor and when he wants to see her of coarse i will let him. he's jsut kinda making me really sad so... uggg yeah

Oh dear... sweetie, do NOT go to Montana if you don't want to. Don't let him bully you in to going. I have been put in this same spot before, although not over a baby, thank goodness (with me it was "if you don't move with me it means you don't love me"). Decisions such as moving should be made by BOTH of you, not just him, and just because you disagree with him does not mean you don't love him, don't care about the baby, etc. If he moves without you the only one separating him and the baby is himself. "i kinda think i should pick up my feet and just move on. i can take care of this baby and move on with my life i don't need someone to keep tearing my down." Right on, sister. "he's jsut kinda making me really sad so... uggg yeah" *hugs* I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let him bring you down with this. Like Teddyfinch said he is probably pretty scared right now... let's all hope that he comes around, and if he doesn't, it's his loss, not yours. :)

Thanks Teddyfinch and xvkx !! it really helps knowing im doing the right thing. the latest yet is when he told me that when i call for labor that he's only there for the baby. its just like what the heck you are 22 and acting like this? i mean come on...so i know i will probably feel really guilty but the birth of my baby is something excited and it seems like he'll just be bringing me down... so im not sure about that...but yeah he keeps telling me you are the one makin the choice for me not to grow up with the baby because u wont' move to montana . mind u he moved out of our apartment and left me 3 weeks ago saying he needs his space to get his life together. MEN.... seriously