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your situation is a tough call because I can't see you leaning more one direction more than the other . Knowing that the baby will be with you is a guaranteed promise but the boyfriend is not under the circ_mstance also says that he may not be around in the future even without the baby . I think your issue is focused on your current enjoyment of being with your boyfriend . That is what you say to give you the most comfort even though you would like to have his child someday .... unfortunately that time is now . You can either be strong and equally careful in trying to lead him closer to your way or as much as I am against abortion and the mear thought just makes me cringe you could keep that limited time option open. Best Wishes and good luck . I hope it will all work out .

I don't think your situation is a loose, loose. Clearly you have to make a sacrifice either way, but once you get over the bad part, you will be very happy. I've had an abortion before, but my decision didn't have anything to do with a man. I don't believe you should let your boyfriend play such a big part is something that will affect YOU for the rest of your life. Whether you have the baby or not, he can up and leave at any point in time. if you decide to get an abortion do it because you feel it's the right thing to do, not because your boyfriend told you to. Now I'm preparing to be a single mom, hopefully within the next 30 days. I'm so excited and even more scared, but the love I already have for my baby is a million times more than anything I've ever felt for a man, including the father of my baby. I've had some very sad and depressing days over the pa__sed 8 months and thinking about my baby is the only thing that got me through it. no matter what decision you make, remember that there is always light at the end of tunnel. but you have to get through the darkness to get to the light. so don't focus so much on the bad part of the decision you have to make, focus on the good stuff that will come later. good luck and take care.

I agree with dew. I am a single mom, 8 months pregnant. My sons father left me alone and very depressed right after i got pregnant. I considered an abortion, even scheduled the procedure but couldnt go through with it. Just the idea of hurting something that is a part of me made me sick. You need to put him aside and do what is in your heart. Not one day goes by that i wish things would be different for me and my son but they are not and knowing that I will have a beautiful son in the next month or so keeps a smile on my face. I know you cant see the baby now or touch it but it is real. That baby will love you regardless of if he is there or not. It is ultimately your decision and I feel for you as I have been there. Is your boyfriend really worth it? I mean please dont let him sway you either way, this is a decision you need to make for you. Good Luck and try to stay calm.

i was with my boyfriend for 6 years, when i got pregnant he told me to get an abortion, i said no and he kicked me out of our house. I also went through a period of depression, but now i know i did the right thing, i kept my baby and moved back in with my mom. the baby is due on dec 10 2005. A boyfriend should be there to support you through this time not make you feel guilty, he is being selfish, you dont deserve this. I have had a abortion before and i am totally pro choice, but make sure you think about it long and hard before you make any decisions. Your in a tough spot, but trust in yourself and you will amke the right choice, but dont let what he wants influence your descosion, this is about you and what you want. so good luck,

remember it takes two to make a baby, he is in this just as much as you are. if he abandons you during this stressful time, you have to ask yourself if the relationship is really worth saving?

ur boyfriend tells u that u are destroying his life by having this baby . i have not meet ur so called boyfriend . may be i don't want to . he sounds like a really selfish inmature little boy who is only thinking of himself . if he didn't want u to get pregnant in the first place , he should use condoms. dump him and keep the baby . u don't need him .he sounds like a nasty piece of work to me .he gets u pregnant and expects u to make a choice between him and the baby . if he really loves u , he would stand by u whatever u choose to do . he is not a real man . he does not love u .he would not make u choose . he has not grown up yet ! i have had 2 abortions and i still regret having them . u will never 4get the pain . that pain is still with me even 2day . u will have that pain with u all the time until the day u die if u decided 2 have a abortion . good luck .

You will love your baby soooo much more than you could ever love your man! Trust me! I love my child sooo much more than I ever loved that SOB that walked out on us.

thank u so much everyone for ur input, ur kind words were sorely needed. i spoke to him again today just to get his last bit of input before i made my final decision. it amazed me how selfish he really is. he actually said all he cares about is his money and himself in those exact words. i was completely shocked. how could he have changed so much with a sentence :i'm pregnant. just a couple of weeks ago b4 i told him he wrote me a card telling me how much he loves me and how grateful he is for having me in his life, it made me cry. now he doesnt care? well the convo we had today was all i needed i made my decision i'm keeping my baby. its not seeming like he's gonne be there for me either way so at least i can be there for my child. its going to be hard but my baby deserves a chance at life and i'm gonna give him or her the best life i can with or without its father. thanx again ladies!

I have to say that you will not regret your decision. There may be times when you regret the man you got pregnant by, but you will never regret your baby. The next 8 or so months will be like a rollercoaster, but the baby will be worth it. Just do what I did and turn to support groups like this one when times get hard. There are many other women out there in similar situations they can offer advise just as they have over the past few days. And what can be more rewarding is to offer advise to others, helping others works wonders on your spirit. anyway, I wish you luck and I think I speak for all of us when I say, feel free to turn to us for support, thats what we're for. good luck and take care.

Rememebr Miss, kids are forever, they"ll always be there. guys come and go. goodluck to you, i am doing alone too. welcome to the single mother club. some men are selffish, hopefully he will come around for you in the end, if not salavee..

miss, i am glad to hear of your decision and congrats! It is going to be tough the next couple of months trust me but you can and will get through it! I am doing it right now and only a little time left. Just keep thinking about that beautiful baby you will have in your arms in only a short time and it will help you get through those other times. And yes we are always here to help you through it, I cant believe I am helping someone else in a situation I thought I would never be able to get through but it has happened!! Good luck to you, and again Congrats on that new little one.

i'm pretty much in the same situation (mine left me at 5mths). anyway, congrats on keeping your baby. i had an abortion once before and not only was it truamtic,but shameful, and thats why im keeping this one, but im getting off topic. remember, it take two to concieve, and therefor two should pay. take legal action when the baby is born he shouldnt be aloowed to walk away scott-free

sometimes i feel strong like i just know i'm gonna get thru this then other times i miss him so much and feel so vulnerable. I find myself fighting not to call him. i try my best to keep my eyes on the prize, my baby, but its so far off. I'm only 2 months along. do u ladies have any suggestions on what kept u going?

this guy just called me. i asked him why cant he just be supportive since this is going to happen whether he likes it or not. can u believe he told me he is being supportive?! i'm like what?! sorry guy i kinda didnt pick up on that!! Was the supportive part when u left me alone on thanksgiving because i told u i was pregnant??? or was it the part when u told me u would leave if i didnt get an abortion??? i tell u the way men think just boggles my mind! he tells me he's been drinking very heavily for the past few day because he has his doubts. don't u think i have doubts?! dont u think i'd like a d__n drink?! they r just so insensitive. at least he has 9 months to get used to the idea this is happening to me right now! sorry ladies just had to vent. thanx for listening/reading.

miss, i can totally relate to you. When I told my sons father I was pregnant he acted like he didnt care. I ask him to take me to the doctor and he was too busy with his new flavor of the week to bother. He goes out drinking every night and doesnt think twice about us. It is going to be hard! I am not going to lie to you or make this sound glorified. I went through hell and still am. I know being 2 months pregnant and knowing that you have so long to go but start focusing on you and the baby. There is so much to do and figure out, things i never even thought of! Do you have supportive parents. friends? That will also help you get through this tough time. Not one day goes by when I dont think about my sons father. One minute I want to scream at him, and the next minute I want him to hold me and tell me everything is going to be alright. Its okay to have those feelings, I mean that baby inside you is part of him. The reality of it is, he doesnt seem to care so why should you? Dont put effort into something that is only a waste of time. The last straw for me was when I went to my ex's house to get money he owed me, I was very pregnant, and he had the nerve to have his new girlfriend walk through the door, knowing that I was coming over. It was a complete slam in the face. The sooner you cut ties the sooner you will get over him and can move on for you and your baby. There will be someone else out there that will honor you and your baby. Keep you head up and know that you can always turn here for help!!

i do have my mom who is my heart and backbone. i don't know where i'd be with out her. she keeps reminding me that she raised 4 kids on her own because our no good father walked out on us so i will be able to raise one. more than anything i'm upset because i was raised without a father and i just can't stand the thought of my child growing up the same way.