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The easiest thing to do is to talk it over with your parents.. Being 16 yrs old im sure you are scared and maybe are not sure about waht you can or cannot do.. Do both your parents know?? I mean im sure that his parents will want to see there grandchild?? I hope you have people to stand behind you that's all. Im 30yrso ld and was afraid to tell my parents I was pregnant lol So being 16 im sure is alot worse. Good luck to you both and your baby!!
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Replying to Skyeblue. Yes I am 16 years old and believe it or not people do have s_x at that age. But I guess youre too ignorant to realize this. And yes my friends talked me into giving him a chance. That also happens. He was nice at first but sometimes you're blind to who a person really is. And what I wrote was "When I told him" but apparently you're too ignorant to read as well. Sorry if this sounds mean. But if you're going to be rude to me when you know nothing about me then you're gonna get it right back hun.
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Franny - Hunny I may not be adult in your mind but I have been through more than you can possibly imagine and I am very much able to make my own choices. Accidents happen. And Its not me he has no interest in the kid. Hes happy to have nothing to do with it. But whos to say that he not going to mature a bit more and decide he wants full custody. Things like that happen everyday. Im not risking losing my kid.
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Been There - My child has a great father. Whether he's the real dad or not. Hes amazing. And why is it that because Im 16 I have no idea what I really want for my child. If I were 20 then everyone would understand that there are reasons that my child doesnt need him that they don't understand.
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kscott - thank you so much for answering my question since everyone else seems to think they know more about my child than I do. Isnt that strange.
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Do you know who the father is...?!? You just posted in another thread pertaining to paternity tests, saying that you "have the same problem and that you have to just wait and see" You will have to sort that out before you can think about child support and visitation...Maybe you can try to think twice before you respond so brazenly to people who are giving you sane and solid advice.
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You need to tkae a minute and calm down before replying to these messages. You are a young adult...adult means 18. If you are able to make your own choices sweetheart then your friends would not have been able to "talk me into it". I think maybe that's what was meant for that. He will also never get full custody of your child. I'm also sure that Been There was not saying that because you're 16 you have no idea what you really want for your child...re-read her post. Basically what the majority of people are trying to tell you is talk to your parents and get them to help you out. GL
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Precious Jewel, Yes "accidents" as you say (do you mean your child...?) happen. You post your question on a forum--which isn't the teen pregnancy forum-- and you were given some legitmate (and probably some adult) advice. I hope you are willing to take it to heart. Try not to be too defensive, you need all the help, advice and support you can get. Take care. PS Do you know who the father is...?
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Preciousjewel, Can you explain... a few posts up you say that your child "has a great father, whether he is the real dad or not..." and I just read a post of yours indicating you do not even know who the father is...Maybe your friends can tell you : ) Okay now seriously...I know teenagers hate to hear advice but as you have NEVER raised a child before, I hope you can calmy listen to the level-headed advice you received on this thread. Those ladies did not deserve your blatent rude know-it-all-responses. You are going to need a WHOLE lot more than financial child support to raise a child, so I hope you try to involve the grandparents.
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lunamoo - no I dont know who the father is. And that would be the point. whether the guy im with is the real father or not hes the one who loves this baby. Im not and idiot and I have tons of support from my family and boyfriend. I know it costs money to raise a child even though Im a teenager. And those people were rude to me so yes they do deserve for me to be rude. All Im saying is that just because Im a teenager does not mean Im dumb. I know just as much as any other first time mother to be. And I except my responsibility.
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I didnt mention anything about my parents helping me. Did I ever say that I didnt talk to my parents. I have and they agree with me 100% on my decisions so I must not be a stupid teenager. Yes by law I am an adult at 18 but that doesnt mean anything. I know tons of 18 year olds that are not nearly as mature as I am.
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Franny - Yes I said accident. I didn't plan to get pregnant. But that doesnt mean that I dont love my child so I would appreciate if you would stop with making me seem like Im a horrible person. I didnt realize by posting something here I would get a bunch of stereotypical responses. Instead of treating me like a human being Im just a teen that got pregnant and doesn't know anything. And by the way yes my friends showed me the good side of him and told me to give him a chance. But you all can take it how you wanna take it cause im a teen.
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Well, now that you mention that you have "tons of support from family and friends" and that you have a guy who loves this baby, you have much more than many to-be mothers could ask for! So the original post about child support and visitiation when you do not even know who the real father was an obsolete question/concern to begin with!...Anyway, good luck and if you do need it sometime, now you know where to post for some advice : ) Hopefully you will be ready to listen. Take care.
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I know not to post my questions in this section at least.
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But you have to realize people arn't trying to make you feel stupid but rather they are trying to understand what your questions are about. If you do not know who the father of your baby is then there is no way anyone can get visitation or that you can collect child support. You need to know who the father of your baby is first.. It doesn't make you a bad person because your unsure of the father. but maybe if you break it down and see your date that you conceived your baby it might make it easier to see who the father is. If you don't even want them to be a part of the babies life and just want you and your current b/f to raise this child then just put father unknown on the birth certificate. It can always be changed down the road if the father later becomes a part of your childs life. How far along are you?
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