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well i am pregnant by a guy i cant stand i have the same problem i dont want to give my child his last name even if he wants to have anything to do with the baby i dont care i am planing on giving it my last name its your choice do what you want to do

I decided not to give my daughter her fathers last name because he wanted nothing to do with her. After the paternity test the birth certificate could have been changed, BUT I did not ok his last name on there and never got a new one so mine still has my name. The he was ordered child support, but that did NOT give him legal rights to her that is a seperate case he would have to take me nack to court to try and see her.....and he wont

I had my baby last thursday and I gave him my babys fathers last name..in fact i named the baby the name that he wanted even though he wasnt there for me throughout the pregnancy..for me it was a case of the name that i wanted was the same name that he wanted even down to the same middle name. I felt it was fated. I only was going to name the baby something else out of spite but to me i was going to name him the name thatbaby daddy wanted regardless so why be spiteful. Also the last name is important to me. I want my son to know who he is connected to as relates to family name. My kids dont have my last name and i felt they would feel left out if the baby had my last name and they didnt. If that makes sense...i dont care about getting one over on him. When I saw my son..who looks the spitting image of his father(yes ladies its a maury moment) I was like haha...looki looki..what was kinda sad was when i told my baby daddy that the baby was light..he said..thats wierd cause i was dark when i was born and got lighter..yes well babys daddy is light like mark anthony(jlos hubby) and is puerto-rican and brazilian. I am jamaican ..so I dunno whyhe had to cling to the last hope coral..lol. Anyways as baby daddys in a separate state I didnt let him see pictures of the baby yet...because he went on about the dna test for so long he may as well pay that money(or his parents are paying it) and see what I already know. THEN he can see the baby when he knows that he is his,...not before...phew..i shoulda started a new thread for this so point is Name the baby what you want but make sure you do it for the right reasons..and in the usa you have up to a year to change it(well in my state anyways) peace

im not married, but i'm still with him... does it make sense to give the baby my name now, then when we're married have it changed? im not sure what to do, but he gets so insulted by this.

Christine..Dont play games with names. Name the baby after him.

Point to be made, my stepdaughter has her moms maiden name, not my hubbys , well, now her mom got married and took new hubbys last name(she and my hubby never were married,got preg in high school) but she will not give the girlie my hubby name and we won' t sign off rights to her new hubby like she is pressuring for so poor child is the lone last name in all this, just a bit of food for thought,

Carla, I know where I live (Georgia)you have to go to the court house and ask for the papers to fill out to have a childs last name changed, you fill it out and you and the baby's father have to sign it and have it notarized ( they can notarize it at the court house) you then send it off with $10.00 to the address they give you. They will then change the baby's last name and they send you a copy of the baby's new birth certificate,thats what the $10.00 is for.

I am a child of teenage pregnancy. My mom had decided to give me her maiden name when I was born. Now, she has been married for years. I am the only one with that last name and it is kinda awkward. I am now 23years old and going thorugh a situation where my boyfriend of 5 years left when I got pregnant (just two months after we got engage). And I am definetly gonna give the baby his last name because he still goes to my appts with me and wants to be a part of the baby's life. I dont want the poor kid to feel awkward like I do now if I ever decided to get married.

Missy... it's really good to hear that there's actually a father still involved. I didnt give my daughter her father's last name because he wasn't there throughout the pregnancy (in fact he got engaged to a 19-year-old when I was 6 months pregnant) and I figured he wouldn't be there after she was born... even though he said he would. I didn't want her to have to grow up with her last name as a constant reminder of her deadbeat dad. She's now 3 months old and I was absolutely right... he hasn't been here at all and I don't expect that to change. I'm just really glad to hear that you've got someone who's actually being there for you even though you're not together. That's awesome.

April..you know..never say never..he has 21 years to do right by your baby...my sons father hasnt physically seen his son...im still waiting for the dna appointment but now hes starting to get restless saying he wants to know...i could be a b___h but im not going to and i gave my son his last name because like that other poster..my mom gave me her maidenname and then when she got married i was left alone..i hated that..i made sure when i named my son that i was sure that was what i wanted and didnt name him dependant on his father...he was good enough to lay with so hes good enough to name his son after...thats my thought

yeah... mine was just a different situation. I know never to say never... but I highly doubt he'll come around. He's a completely different guy than I thought he was when we first started dating. I lived with him for a year and towards the end I started noticing things about him that really weren't cool with me. I stopped sleeping with him because I felt like I didn't know who he was anymore. He WASN'T good enough to lay with at that point. Well... one drunken night in October 04 things happened and I got pregnant. I told him as soon as I knew and that's when he started avoiding me... in Jan we both moved out of our apt. and back in with each of our parents. He dumped me and I've barely heard from him since. 3 months after he dumped me he got engaged to a 19-year-old (who's controlling and freaks out if he talks to ANY girl). He's now 28 years old and STILL living with his parents with no intention of moving out.. he has NO responsibilties.. never has (his parents baby him).. and I'm sure he doesn't want any now. We even took the paternity test and although he said he's going to be around he still hasn't. I just know that if my dad had behaved this way with my mom I would NOT have wanted his last name... and that's why I gave Alena my last name. BUT... I always said that if he DID come around and proved that he was going to be there for her I would consider changing her name to his. Or when she gets older, if she wants her name changed I'll let her. That's completely her decision.

P.S. The reason I did it that way is because it's a whole lot easier to change from the mother's name to the father's rather than vice versa.

I suppose so.I just feel likt a last name is important and I suppose in the grand scheme of things..it doesnt really matter..our kids could be called Mr potato head and they would still be our children.

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Actually I am going thru this right now. My daughter has her father's last name but now he wants nothing to do with her. I'm working on getting her name changed to mine but I also consulted an attorney about what his rights are since he didn't sign the birth certificate. Unfortunately if you acknowledge he is the father, whether he signs or not or gives his name or not, he has rights. The only way he won't is if he voluntarily signs them over or if you sue to have his rights removed. I'd say just don't let him sign the acknowledgement of paternity and then take it to custody court in hopes of getting full custody. Best wishes.

ummm.. my bby's dad didnt sign anything does that mean i can say father unknown?? when u hyphinate thenames whos goes first?