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No your child has every right to know it's grandparents and father. Dont take that away from your baby. Did your ex accept the child as his (ie is his name on the brith certificate? is he poaying child support?)

I would go and at least meet her, see what she has to say-who knows? you might find that she could be an a__set to you later-baby sitting and what not. But if you have a bad experience-then you don't have to see her again. I would respect her-so she will show (hopefully) the same for you. Maybe she'll lay into her son for being a loser and not taking care of his responsibilites. You could form a relationship with her-and treat her son like the child that he is. Tell her that he said that he doesn't want you in his and his family's life-and if there is no hostility-welcome her to be apart of the child's life-she could only respect you for that. But if it goes bad, then I'd just leave it at that. Good luck to you!!

My ex is saying everything to keep me away from him and his family. I'm not sure what he's been saying of late, but he's gone back and forth -denying the baby and then not. I never put a name down on the BC and I'm not gonig after child support.

This is ultimately up to you for now, but I think that babies deserve to know their grandparents, just as grandparents deserve to know their grandchildren. I no longer speak to my ex and haven't in a long time, but whenever his mom calls and asks me to bring my daughter to her house, I do. She also comes to my house sometimes to visit my daughter. It's actually really nice that she makes that kind of effort... especially because her son doesn't. Maybe you should give his mom a chance too. Just something to think about.

Your ex has no right to tell you what to do. I would have a conversation with his mother. Maybe she has decided to be mature about the whole thing. Ignore that selfish man and speak with his mother. The worse that could happen is you decide you don't want to deal with her. The best that could happen is that she acts like a wonderful grandmother.

Could his mother just take the baby away from me?

I wouldn't respect / obey anything your ex has to say because he hasn't shown any respect for you. In my opinion I would meet with his mom and see how it goes. It might have just hit her that this is her grandchild and she needs to be the mature adult and make an effort to be in its life. I don't think she would have any chance at taking the baby from you. Plus the baby will need/want to know the other side of its family when it grows up even if the dad doesn't want to be involved. When I had my first child the father would never tell his parents so it was left up to me to do the dirty work and I finally broke the news to his mom when my daughter was about 2 months old and she was great, way better than I expected. She is still very active in my daughter’s life and we've had a great relationship despite the fact that I'm not involved with her son. I say try it and see how it goes. If it's a bad thing you don’t have to do it again.

That's a quick conclusion to jump to and worry yourself over. I'm sure that's the furthest thing from her mind. She just wants to see her grandchild. Don't read too much into it. You've never even met the woman. She could be the sweetest person you'd ever want to know and it just so happens her son is a complete jerk.