Guilty Feeling That Won T Go Away
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Thanks pfcwife for your comment on my last thread! That really gave me a confidence boost! ... i've moved on from the crying every night, now its just that ...well 1st off ever since i was a lot younger everyone says you let ppl walk all over you and i know that i do...so i try to stop it..but i just can't stop thinking that if i were to have done something differently my baby girl would get to grow up with her daddy in her life... thats the hardest thing right now is i am thinking about her and thats all i keep thinking about. i mean he is leaving jaiden (he has another 4 yr old daughter which is from his ex wife) and he is leaving her to go to montana but at the same time he said he'll visit and they are really really close so i guess i don't get it... cuz everyone is shocked he'd leave her..he says he'll visit every month but he has a prior 4 yr relationship with her..when my baby girl is born she won't know him and i just keep thinkin g if you wouldn't have pushed him away if this if that then he would be around and you'd still be together and she'd get to see her daddy all the time.... ahhhh
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you know u can spend so much time on regret but fact of the matter is.... all it does is stop u from taking the next step closer to where ur ment to be. plus its great for the baby to have its father involved but its more important to show ur little girl how to be a strong independant women. i think when the baby is here ull be b__wn away at how much life will revolve around her... and everything else will just flow. its so hard i know and i know what its like to be treated like that ur whole like. which is even more reason to say to urself. father or no father.... im gona pick up and move on and im gonna be the best danm mother i can. and guess what when u put out that positive att_tude positive comes back ten fold. wh knows u might meet someone else and it might not be her blood but he could be the best danm father out. good luck hun ... keep in touch
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i saw a quote once. and i may get it wrong, but i think it means something here. "Any man can be a father. But it takes a real man to be a dad." Well this tool was just a sperm donor. Some day you'll find the man of your dreams and he will be the best dad in the world to your baby. This stage of breaking up takes a long time to get over. And your hormones don't help it any but you didn't push him away. If he had a baby before and he left her too I think he has a problem taking the responsibility. But he needs to help you with this baby, so get him for child support. Maybe that will keep him from having babies everywhere.
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dani-elle19 - At this point you should be only thinking of you and baby. Trust me when I tell you that you do not want a man around you who don't want to be their. Let him go and don't look back. Don't call, don't text, and don't shed one more tear over him. Be strong for youself and your child. Nothing feels better than showing the whole world that you can make it on your own. You may think that he is the best thing for you and your baby but GOD knows best, so ask that his will be done in your life. This may mean that your ex will not be coming back, but it may mean that someone better is coming into your life. Just stand up and be a woman. I know you can do great things! May GOD bless you.
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i wonder how dani-elle's been doing?
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