How Can The Father Do This To Me
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Hi there, I am 20 in two weeks time and 18 weeks pregnant. Up until about three weeks ago my partner and i were happy about the baby, granted it took me a fair while to accept this shock but i now feel happy to be pregnant and was thrilled to have my boyfriend as the father, I should probably mention that he is divorced and already has a gorgeous 3year old boy who i get on amazingly with. I moved back to my parents house to earn some good money as wasnt earning when living with my boyf, but his past is not good with commitment and it has come to light that the last 3weeks he has had feelings for other women and struggles me not being there, so i was about to move back with him determind to make it work, when it all fell apart and he has finished it with me. I am absolutely devasted and imagined my life with this man and many more children, its been about 5days since we ended and we speak everyday but i cnt seem to see a light of getting over him-i still deeply love him despite him hurting me and want to make us work for us as a couple but also my poor little unborn child. have any of you felt like this? does it get any easier? ino its very early days but i still feel incredibly strongly that i want us to try work again, meanwhile she shows he is upset to me but is also pursuing feelings he had for other women, ino he sounds like hes taking me for a ride but despite this i stil lovehim and want him back. how do i get on with my life?my parents and twin sister are incredibly supportive but i just want him!!
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Hi Katie, I am really sorry to hear your story. You are definately not the only one feeling that way. My partner of two years left me half way through my pregnancy and i found it very hard to deal with. I also moved back with my parents and they are very supportive, but like you i just want him. Yeah its hard and i know its hard to believe at the moment but it does get easier. I still have my bad days but i had to just let everything be and believe its all for the best. I can understand you still love him, i still love the father of my child. Does he still want to be apart of his childs life? My suggestion to you is to keep in contact with him, but focus on yourself a lot more and your little baby. Spoil yourself and prepare for the beginning of a new life with excitement and love. Good luck Katie, my thoughts are with u
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My prayers are with you, Katie. You are not alone. I was in a similar situation as you at one point. Heartbreak can affect everything, I know. I makes you depressed, physically sick, you can't listen to music without thinking of him, every tiny little thing, i know. I'm so sorry that you, and all the other women out there have to go through such a heart wrenching thing at such a vital, delicate and beautiful point in life. Remember to keep your baby in mind. When you grieve, he/she grieves. When you stress, he/she gets stressed. It will get easier. It will take time, and probably lots of time, but you are a strong woman and you will overcome this. Thank God everyday for the blessings he has bestowed upon you. Pray for the burden to be lifted and for you perspective to shift. Good luck to you and hold your head high. With a new baby on the way, there is a lot to be happy for!
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