ladies i know yall gonna be upset but

Ladies I Know Yall Gonna Be Upset But

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been on and off with my now BF for a year. we started back in march 05. i left him in june. got back with him in aug to leave him again in the ending of aug. i wasn't with him for all these months and for some reason i got back with him this feb. i honestly despise this guy. at this point, there is nothing about him that intrigues or attracts me. i know the person that he is and he is the epitome of everything i dislike in a man, let alone a relationship. i cannot stand him. though i am pregnant now, i refuse to allow him to be a part of this child's life. now you may be thinking, what a b**ch! how could she consider herself to be a mature, responsible adult? but if you knew how deceitful, how conniving, how manipulative this man is, you'd fully understand. he is not type of man i want to raise my child. he has no morals, lacks all religous beliefs, and feels that "everything bad is actually good." i know you're wondering than why did you get involve with him 3 times over. to pass time honestly. and i didn't think in passing time, i'd end up pregnant. he's a snake though and told me had a vasclip on and really didn't. i know eventually i'll find a good man who if he wants to be a good father to my child. if not, i'll still be the best mother to my child.

jg - March 16

Part of being a good mother to your child is to ensure the lines are open for your child to have a loving relationship with its father. That does not mean he has to raise your child and be the major influence in its life, but whether you like it or not your child might love its father more than life itself, and it has the right to do so. Of course you need to protect your child from harmful people and situations, but it could be harmed emotionally if you refuse to allow it contact with its natural father. Why do you value yourself so little that you would get involved with such a man?

frankschick2001 - March 16

I'm not sure what the point of this post is. But if you are just looking for advice, I agree with JG. Your realtionship with this guy is not necessarily a mirror into the relationship he may have with his child. But in the end, that is all pretty much up to you. If he wants visitation, he can ask for it in a courtroom. And if this guy is how you say he is, he may not even bother going that far. But I would be careful, because this man could be a dangerous person. You said in your posting "you may be thinking, what a b___h, how could she consider herself to be a mature, responsible adult?" Could it be that those are words you keep asking of yourself? Your child should know his or her father. I think it's horrible that he lied and said he had a vasclip, but if you know this man is a liar and manipulator then why didn't you protect yourself anyway?

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