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I broke up with my guy of almost 6 years. Things had been really bad. Right before he left I remember one night having what was almost like a dream that he kept touching at me. And I had been getting mad at him. I woke up the next morning not remembering this, but when I went to the bathroom I was really wet, like if he had had s_x with me and it was his c_m on me. I asked him if he had done anything and he told me no. That was the only time before he left that something might have happened. It has been a while now and I missed my last period, so I went and took an at home pregnancy test, it came back positive IMMEDIATELY. I have no doubts that I'm pregnant. I know this is a difficult place to write this because you are all pregnant, and that tends to make us ladies hormonal. But I feel like I need to do an abortion. I already have two kids by this man and they are all I can handle. The idea of carrying the baby to term just to give it away is difficult also, who knows what kind of life it would have. I only would trust the way I would treat my child. But it isn't something I can deal with right now. I'm talking to a new guy and I'm terrified of what he will say if I tell him. But I need to talk about it to someone. I just found this out today. I've got alot on my mind, and just figured I could come here and write this and you all might read it and respond to it in a way that might help.
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I think that abortion is definately not the answer to your problems. Im sure raising 2 kids is hard enough, but have you thought about open adoption?? Therefore you could still stay in touch and they would know there brother/sister?? Just a thought. I know that I could never abort my baby, but rather could do adoption, knowing that my child will have a good up bringing and be giving what I wasn't able to give. Its totally up to you obviously but I think in your heart you know what you want to do adn what might be right for you unborn child and your other children. Good luck to whatever you decide to do.. :)
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How can anyone determine what is definately not the answer for her???????????? Misty, if you feel you need to abort it is solely your choice. It is your body and your choice. It really doesnt matter what I believe or feel towards abortion the fact remains that you know best! Good Luck
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I am so sorry to hear that you're going through this. I don't think anyone can tell you what to do, you have to do what's in your heart. You should think carefully about the pros and cons of any possible option. I am not convinced that sunshyne's recommendation of an adoption is the best plan, especially if your children are older and if you think they might get confused, angry, or insecure that you are "giving one of their brothers/sisters away." As for the other guy, I understand that you need to talk to someone about everything, but I would suggest speaking to someone who is more impartial, professionally trained, and has access to resources. The fact that you're afraid to tell this man about your pregnancy tells me that he is not equipped to really help you cope with everything that is going on. So, what I would suggest is that you speak with a family planning counselor about what your options are. A family planning counselor will be able to give you objective advice and help you make a decision that is good for you. Your local planned parenthood offers resources such as family planning services for free or at very low-cost, and they have access to other community resources, as well.
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Oh. I also want to add that, as you described the conception process above, it sounds to me like you were raped. Regardless of whether you're in a relationship with someone, if someone is taking advantage of you and having s_x with you when you are not fully conscious of what is occurring, it's rape. So, you should mention that to the family planning counselor as well, so that she can direct you to appropriate legal and psychological resources.
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Ok I did say in the beginning that it wasn't the answer, but then I said it was up to her and she would know what was right for her and the baby... and the rest of her family.. My god man.. sometimes you can't speak in here without getting trampled on. Your gonna do what you want to do anyways Misty and knowing what different people think might or might not have an impact on what your decision is. How old are your 3 kids that you have now??
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