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Well basically I'm working abroad and I was seeing a temp staff member for around 7 weeks out here... We got on like a house on fire. When his time here was up, he went to another country to work and we fizzled out gradually within the next 4 weeks and then i found out he had met someone else over there so we cut contact completely. Until a few weeks ago when i discovered i was 7 weeks pregnant with his child. I had no idea as we slept together the day after my period.. i didn't know it was possible to conceive then! So when I told him he seemed excited and said he was gonna hand in his notice and come straight home and find work near me. We discussed names and everything seemed a bit too perfect... Then i suggested he tell the woman he's been seeing out there cos i didn't really want her in the picture and he seemed cool with that. I told him i wanted to keep it instantly as I had an abortion at a very young age and it has haunted me since, so i would never consider it again. This was all fine with him, he told me to go and get a scan to determine the baby is okay and exactly how many weeks I was and then he would put in his notice... Then he told this girl he's been seeing... he then went quiet.. started ignoring my texts, didn't wanna see the baby's scan.... Then out of the blue he has started sending texts saying he isn't ready to be a dad and cos i didn't give him a choice he doesn't see why he should have to be involved in any way. Then he'll go back to ignoring all my messages and I can't help but send threats about telling his mum... not to wind him up but out of pure panic cos i feel like i need some support from his side! He goes mental when I suggest this. Could i be pushing him away? Why the sudden change of heart? And i dont understand how he can say he had no choice when he seemed happy at first and was the one persuading me to go and see the baby on a scan.. then he just expects me to get rid? Am i in the wrong in any way here? Im going out of my mind i just dont know what to do... I'm 10 weeks now and I still plan to keep it but there's no sign of him coming round. Ive suggested he come home to sort things, but he won't. I've started now telling him I will fight for his financial support even if he chooses not to be in his child's life. He's just so cold, not the man i knew here and it's killing me every day, stressing me out so much and i'm not enjoying my pregnancy at all... just worrying every day that i won't be able to provide alone. Need some advice from people in similar situations.. could just do with someone to talk to really.