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Well, i basically have been reading all these different stories of everyones different experiences and decided to share my own. I am going to be 21 in a few days and am 15 weeks pregnant as of today. As the story goes I was off and on living with the baby's father for about a year and a half. I was very much in love with him and stuck by him no matter WHAT. Halfway through the relationship he even told me he was bis_xual and was scared that I would leave him, even than I did not. So since earlier in our relationship there was a time when we actually tried to get pregnant and I have never gotten pregnant before and I was convinced I was not fertile. I of course shared this with my ex and I guess he took this as a good thing and therefore we acted like I couldnt get pregnant. I always told him that I did not want to have a kid if I wasn't together with the guy and that I don't know if I would keep a kid if i got pregnant. This was my thinking before finding out I actually could get pregnant.
Me and my ex went through a horrible month and I come to found out he had a boyfriend, yes a man on the side and I wasn't very happy bout this. I wanted ot leave him yet I had no money to move out yet. I still loved him with all of my heart and tried to get past it but I coudln't. We got into a couple of physical fights and one day we just broke up. Because we had such history together, I thought this was just a phase and it was going to pass. I was wrong. A week after we had broken up I was 3 days later for my period. Like every other month I was late, I bought a pregnancy test thinking this is going to be a negative like the many times before. Wrong again. The test was positive. I was histarical, I didnt know what to do. To make it worse my ex popped his head in the bathroom when he heard me screaming only to say "Get rid of it."
I was heartbroken, I didn't know what to do. All that day he would say that I didn't deserve to have his baby. That I tricked him and I lied to him. That our whole relationship was a lie because I wouldn't get rid of this baby. We ended up getting together that day, maybe cuz he thot he can trick me into having an abortion. It just got worse after that day. Telling everyone that i tricked him. When the truth was I would swear this baby was conceived one of the two times he forced me to have s_x with him when i fought him. I was so scared I had no where to go. He would threaten to kill me than kill himself. He would wish I would die of a complication and take the baby with me. He even offered to get back with me if I got an abortion.
I ended up moving out and to his sisters house for 3 weeks before I moved back with my parents. I tried to be nice to my ex and gave him opportunities to come to doctors appts. All he would say is Im going to take you to court to get custody of this baby when its born because you will not be a good mother.
Now I have cut him off and havent spoken to him for almost 2 months. Yea there are days that I wish things were different. But I will never give up a living thing that is part of me for a man or anyone. I have plenty of support from my family and friends and I do not need him in my life.
Ladies, please be strong, even thought I hurt almost everyday. I try to keep my head up because I have to do it for my baby that is coming.
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