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First of all let me say that I am so sorry that you are going through such hell! I know that it is easier said than done but you need to get away from him right away. I know a little about what you are going thru. I was with a guy for 9 years and all of a sudden he starts calling me names...that lead to pushing me around and the next move was him beating the hell out of me. He almost broke my dang jaw! After that nite I took a protective order out on his a__s and we have went to court where he was ordered to stay away. When he didn't he went to jail. Luckily we did not have any babies together. I am not sure how things are handled where you live but I would only hope that there is some kind of law that protects you against this violence or some kind of help center that you can turn to. Please don't abort your baby. That is not what you want. You must find a way to get away from him. If he truely loved you he would never raise a hand to you and believe me they don't change!

How old are you? Are your parents still around?I know back in the day if a boy was an a__s to me my Dad was quick to jump their a__s. I had to pull him off of one of my X's that beat me so bad I could hardly stand! My Dad was in my driveway with a gun to the guy's head and I was scared to death that my Daddy would go to jail. Can you go stay with your parents or at a shelter? I am not sure about the UK but we have alot of them here. I hope to God that things work out for you. Oh and if you do not want to, do not abort your child. Abort his a__s instead. Be careful and keep us updated please.

If you care about your baby, you need to get out of this situation, and call the police. Let them know whats going on, you can get a restraining order. You'll probably get temporary emergency custody, but then you'll have to go to court with him, and if hes abusive Im sure you'll get custody of your child. You need to get out thought. Please.

It's hard but you have to live him. He will nevere change. I was there. Do it for you baby.

My boyfriend is abusive to, i know first hand what you go through when no one is around. Look, i am pro-life and your baby should be the topmost priority. If you love him, truely love him and want to keep the baby, you should move out. I love my boyfriend Eddie and even though he hurts me and i feel like i want to leave it is like he pulls me back in. Your baby should not grow up in an abusive home. Leave, make him get conseling or something, but don't let your baby be around him tell he changes. If you have to let your sis/friend/mother take care of the baby, i am sure they will understand. It is hard enough being in highschool with an abusive boyfriend. you could probebly talk to a consel to . that is what i did and it made me feel a lot better.

LEAVE YOUR BOYFRIEND RIGHT NOW- FOR THE GOOD OF YOUR LIFE AND YOUR BABIES LIFE! Go to a councellour, report his actions to police loose contact with him completely. If you want more help please email me r0xychick_@hotmail.com good luck be strong!

I'm in a similar situation, but the guy isn't really my "boyfriend" even though we've been together for 3 years. He definitely won't committ to me and sleeps around. Recently I've been telling him that I'm looking for a real relationship and telling him about my dates. This was a big mistake. Now he's gotten me pregnant. He did it on purpose. I suppose so I could be his s_x slave forever. He's also been physically with me before. Twice in the beginning (but then I stopped mouthing off and because very subservieant). Then a third time he didn't touch me, but threw a gla__s bottle of pierrer that broke everywhere. He was obviously angry because I had stopped taking his calls and answering the door. I don't know what the best thing to do is. ALl I know is that your boyfriend sounds like mine and that they use pregnancy for control. Also, the leading cause of death among pregnant women is MURDER.

Ok, here is advice you NEED to follow..no woman should ever feel threatened by a man, you need to take action to get away from your abusive b/f if he keeps threatening you, go to the police, they can help you, do not let him make you fear, if he says he'll hurt or kill him self if you leave then say.."thats your choice" but never blame yourself. Or He says he'll hurt you... don't tell him anything, just tell the police he is threatening to come after you if you leave, let them handle him, you just leave. you did nothing wrong, he is sick and needs help. But never fear a man if you do you will always fear everyone who threatens you or tries to harm you, take care of you! take control of you! GET OUT you can, it is a CHOICE and if you stay you will surely be hurt and or killed..once an abuser always an abuser....your child, that is a choice also...if you make the wrong choice make sure you can live with yourself. YOU can be strong, You need to be strong, noone should ever have to fear, and No you do not love him, it is only a fantasy you are living in,you like all the things good he does for you and the way you can be together, but the bad outweighs the good by far, trust me....there are places that will help you, but first step, you have to make a choice, either you want to help your self or you don't. If you don't help yourself, then noone to blame but yourself

Hopefully my story will inspire you to do the right thing. I had been going out with my boyfriend for about 2 years. At the beginning everything was great - he did everything for me and we were the perfect couple. Then he began cheating and when I confronted him about he and became violent. Then I knew I had to be strong - I left him and moved on with my life. However, the story's not over... he pushed his way back into my life telling me all the things I wanted to hear a few months later. I forgave him and everything was ok again... but just for a few more months. As time pa__sed, things got progressively worse - i was pushed down stairs, thrown through a wall, broken bones, fractured skull --- and i still kept telling myself that things would get better. About 7 months ago I found out I was pregnant. He was excited and everything was great - but only for a short time. About 6 weeks ago, he lost his temper... now, I am no longer with child. He struck me with such force that he caused a miscarriage. If you want to know the worst feeling in the world, its to lose a child. Now, with the help and family, friends, and counselors, I have been able to leave him. It has been almost a month and a half since I've talked to him and although I am still coping with the loss of my baby boy, I already feel my life getting back on track. PLEASE, learn from my mistakes --- don't go through what I went through. He will not change, ever.

You don't hit in true love. personally, if you don't leave your an idiot. And again personall, I'd like to take a baseball bat to his d__n head.

these people are right, get out now. dont tell him you are pregnant, and if you have tell him you had a misscarraige and move away from where ever he lives!!! get the police to help you if you must, because you cant live like this. i grew up with my mum and dad fighting all the time and my father belting me all the time, eventually my mother would join in. dont become like my mother, dont let this man crush your spirit, get out now!!!

stephanie Im almost in the same situation. Ive been living with my boyfriend for about a year. He has hit me alot of times I have alot of bruses in my body. But let me tell u I also have a baby with him he's only 6 months. Im so confuse I dont know what to do either is really hard.

LEAVE! My boyfriend was violent with me too. I thought I loved him so much, when I got pregnant my maternal genes kicked in. I got rite of my ex. I figured if I raised my child around him than my child would grow up violent. Leave him so he can't find you. There are so many men out there for you that aren't going to hit you. Women have been taking care of children since the dawn of woman. Men are techincally just sperm donors. Just do what it right for your child before your child grows up thinking its okay to hit a woman.

Stephanie, Would you want your baby to go through that? Leave its the only hope for happiness for your future. God is the only One who will give you strength to leave him. There is only one more chance if you guys seek proffesional help, but most abusive guys wont admit they have a problem and aren't willing to change. God bless and do whats right for you and your baby not what your heart tells you.

Hi I am/was in the exact same situationan as you. My ex would hit me verbally abuse med, he also killed my dog and destroyed my car. I am a wreck emotionally finalncially and spiritually and am 6 months pregnant. When he found out I was pregnant he got worse, he bashed me and used me even more! He threatened to kill me unless I had an abortion, yet something inside me just couldn't do it, its just more violence and control. However because I was pregnant I felt so vulnerable to him, and that't what they want, they thnk they can get away with anything. Anyway I moved to my parents and have taken out a restraining order against him. Its hard still everyday. Keep us posted

Its easy for everyone to tell you not to stay, and to get out, and leave... Dont get me wrong, thats what you should do. But theres more to it than that, when you heart is involved. But now that a child is involved, you are thinking for 2. Not just you. There are lots of places you can go to get help. And Im sure you will. When you leave him, you will go back to him a number of times before you realize you dont need him. You have to be strong within yourself. You have to want better. And deep down in your heart... You have to tell yourself, that you dont need him... Good luck Hon....