Need Advice-pg113328704818
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I am pregnant by someone who I do not wish to have a relationship with. He is a good guy, just not the one for me and he really annoys me. Legally what rights does he have??? Does he have a say in the baby's name?? What about child support?? Although I don't really want him involved emotionally I need him involved financially. I know I cannot have it both ways but am just curious about how much say he really has???
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You're in the exact same situation as me. Yes, he does have rights. And you may not like him, but if he is a good person he'll probably be a good dad, and you owe that to your baby. He is also responsible financially. I went through all of this in the beginning of my pregnancy. I finally have accepted that even though he gets on my nerves and annoys me, he does love the babies (I'm having twins) and they deserve a good dad. We are being mature about it and have the best interest of these babies in mind.
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i know what you mean about not wanting him involved, except for his money. I agree with anne, though. If he is a good guy, then he should be a good dad. And if thats the case, the baby deserves that!! Have you told him that your pregnant yet??
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I have told him. I am just wondering about the name??? Is it up to me or does he have to agree???
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Technically it's up to you. BUT.. if he's making an effort to be there as a faher and is being a good guy to you.. I highly suggest that you let him have some say. You guys might just pick a name that you both really like. Personally, though, I gave my daughter the name I wanted to give her. I didn't care what he thought because he had been a total and complete jerk to me through my whole pregnancy.. (he even went as far as to get engaged 3 months after he dumped me!) So I said screw him, he doesn't deserve say. I even gave her my last name :) haha.... BUT... if he had been good to me throughout my pregnancy... I definitely would've given him say.. and I would've given her his last name.
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I agree with April on this one. If he is being cool about everything and nice to you and doing what he can to help you and make you comfortable, than discuss it with him. If you cant agree on a name, then meet in the middle. One of you pick the first name, the other pick the midde, and draw the last name out of a hat!! Lol.... good luck
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