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..hm where to start.....well lets see I got pregnant almmost 3 years ago by my boyfreind who I was with for almost 4 years at the time ....we were young I was 19 and he was 20 He started acting really strange and we broke up he left me to deal with being pregnant all alone the entire time minus a few times he was around he came when my son was born and we ended up getting back together which was a mistake on my behalf ..we lived together until my son was 6 months he started talking to some girl on the internet all the time and was pretty mcuh ignoring me so I asked him to leave....he ended up moving across the country and only 6 months ago I moved out that way as well..not to be with him but to be with family i had out here. he came over a few times to see his son and we ended up sleeping together I always felt like he was the love of my life and most of the time he was a real sweetheart we had some problems and we didnt know if it was a good idea toget back together but then eventaully we stopped talking ..I called him about 2 months ago and told him I found out I was pregnant again all he had to say was guess ill just be paying more money.....and then told me he had a new girlfreind and hasnt really talked to me since he hasnt even met this girl he goes out with and he is leaving in a few days to go meet her and this is supose to be the time when he comes to pick up his son but instead he chooses to see his girlfriend .....im really confused and stressed and upset becuz i still love him tho i know i can never be with him...i feell like i have so much on my shoulder my second child but a terrible person who i also need to get over and deal with him being with someone else id just like some advice and maybe someone to talk to ..anyways thats all for now
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I am so sorry to hear about your situation. You know, sometimes when we love someone so much, we are blind to all of the things that they have done to hurt us. What would you tell a good friend to do about this if they wre in your sitaution? You would most likely say " F' him. Move on and drop that loser!" Right? Why is it that we can never take our own advice. Whatever you feel a friend deserves, you deserve the same! I can't imagine being pregnant again by someone like that. I hope that you will do whatever you feel is best for you and your child.(and the unborn) Remember, men always have the ability to come and go so do what is best for you. Some men never learn, nor do they ever grow up. If he dogged you once he will most likely do it again. Good luck, and please keep me posted.
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Hmmm who is the "terrible person"... I didn't understand your email. I am sorry but you got yourself into a big mess. I hope you have family and friends to support you and that your lover can become part of his children's life.
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I promise, in time you will look back and laugh your a__s off at how pathetic he is. I left my daughters father (she's almost 4 now and I've been with my husband since I was 5 months pregnant with her) just a few weeks after I found out I was pregnant because he was cheating on me. He still denies it to this day but even his own mom told on him! He ended up doing the same thing on the internet yours did, met some girl and married her after two months, tried to hide it and asked ME to marry him (I laughed) met ANOTHER girl online, cheated on his then wife, and got her pregnant. You have to set your emotions aside for a few minutes and look at it through somebody elses eyes to see how ridiculous it is. I really don't get the whole internet dating thing, but apparently guys are idiots about it. Remind yourself everytime you feel sad or miss him why you can't stand him. Find yourself somebody better because once you have somebody in your life that treats you right, you'll never want that old bs back.
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Mickey im really sorry to hear about this. It is sad when couples go thru these things ESPECIALLY when a child is envolved b/c they suffer in the end. I would suggest to just keep him on child support and get visitation rights (that way if he does want to see them it wont be on his terms) and when the children are older they will be able to understand the situation and then THEY will have to make the decision if they want to have anything to do with their father or not. As far as a relationship i would say MOVE ON. Dont get stressed or place your life on hold for someone who isnt placing there life on hold for you. also...i know you came here for advice...TRY TO IGNORE ALL THE NEGATIVE AND IGNORANT COMMENTS THAT PEOPLE LEAVE YOU. To some people they just come here to criticize b/c there life is a wreck ;-) Good luck hon
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