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Congratulations. Are you going to move in with the baby's father? It sounds as though you are doing fine. Take prenatal vitamins or check that your diet contains enough folic acid (folate) to minimize the chance of birth defects. Cut out the smokes and alcohol. The doctor won't care if you wait until missing a second period before checking in. Why not call your mum and break the news. By the time she gets home she will be over the shock and will be making plans for the future. GL!

shes not having a good holiday so cant do it dont want her to hate me i dont smoke and i dont drink much and wont touch the stuff now i have found out anyway as for the farther he has a gf and hes 20 and altho he says he will stand by me i worry becuse i dont think he full understands if you no what i mean hes said that he wont be as good as dad as he wants to be becuse he wont be there everyday im gonna try and tell my arnty today am so scaed but im worrying to much and im a real stress head on a normal day need a hug i think

I see what you mean about the father, but good friends are few and far between - keep him in the picture. Tell the aunty you need her advice about something - how to break the news to your mum. You do really need to share the news with someone - it will reduce your own stress level. HUGS!

my arntys really helped took me out for food and shoping i fel alot better about things thank you for all the advice hopfully will get a anpointment with the doc tusday thank you :)

It helps to have a good support system. I know being single and pregnant is a scary thing. This is my first pregnancy & my husband left me. He is already dating somebody & I feel he isn't going to be around. I just don't want you to feel alone in your situation. Take your vitamins & eat healthy! Take Care & Good luck!

my suport system is a bit shaky at the moment my mum and her bf keep telling me that i wont cope on my own and that i cant look after myself let alone a baby but they dont really no me very well the farther dont want tell his family that im having his baby but he wants to help to bring up the baby and i really want my baby to no there nan and grandad and arnties and dont really want them growing up around lies can you offer me any advice to this thank you for your message it is a very scarry to be a single and going throu this but we have to be strong :)

Women seem to be stronger than men in these situations. It seems that you have told all the parties concerned, and that must be a relief, even if they are not all supportive. Make no mistake, it will be difficult and you will go through some moments when you doubt yourself. If you can tough it out, in the long run I think you will be happy with your decision. Smile at all the relatives and say "I am sure you will be there to help when the time comes - thank you so much!" Good luck!

I'm sorry that your Mom & her boyfriend aren't more supportive. I am not so sure about the father actually being there or not to help raise the baby. I know he says wants to be there but he hasn't even told his family. I really hope he will be there for you & the baby. We definitely have to be strong! Only time will tell how things turn out. Have you had your first prenatal appointment yet? Have you looked into programs for single mothers? There is a lot to think about and it can be very overwhelming. Remember to focus on yourself and the baby. It's ok to be selfish right now. It took me a while to realize that. Even though you don't have a great relationship with the baby's father, you can have a decent relationship with yourself. How far along are you?

hi its been a while since ive been on family have kinda settled down im 21 weeks now i have been seeing the dad on off its not good for me as he still aint told anyone on his side but i feel i might be close to telling his mum myself if he dont hes still with his gf as well but has told me hes gonna tell her i dont think he will but im hoping his mum will talk some sence to him i love him so much but that dont matter anymore the baby is the most inportaant thing at the moment the dads so young minded and quite selfish but i think thats cuz hes scared he dont see anything from my point of viwe and how scared i am just keeps focusing on his gf hes only said our bump (baby) 2 times in the last 21 weeks hes gonna be an amazing dad just wish he would sort things out so i aint stressed no more

You are past the half way mark and doing well. You should be proud of the way you are handling things. Your bump should be up to belly b___ton level by now, and of course you have been feeling movement. Do you visit with the mom of the father any - lunch or shopping - she should be noticing pretty soon. Does your hospital allow fathers in the delivery room? If you can pull that one off, it will bond the father to you and the baby in a way that no other event can. Keep in touch. We are on your side!

yes i see his family like almost once a week they no im pregnate they just dont no its his im angree that hes not told them but i no how scared he is as well i no i have said i would like him to be in the room with me then he can see how much pain i will have gone throu to bring bump into the world as well witch will hopfuly help him to grow up a bit ye i have felt lots of movment its like a bag of marbles rolling in my tummy well funny

If you want to sell the delivery room piece, just stress that bringing this baby into the world is as much his effort as yours, that just having him there to hold hands will mean so much to you. Don't talk about the pain part - that will just scare him away.

Well, even when my husband & I were together, he told me he couldn't be in the delivery room because he is very squeamish about all that kind of stuff. I would like him to be there but I really don't know if he will or not. I don't want to push him into doing anything he doesn't want to do. He really hasn't been helping me much anyway. He is in his own world but at least my in-laws are very supportive of me. I think his family needs to know that you are carrying his child though because that child is part of their bloodline whether they like it or not. Now, whether they decide to help you or not is another story. I am 33 weeks now & I understand how you feel. I try to rely on my network of family and friends. I pray everyday and just try to take care of myself. It's so difficult to go through pregnancy without the support of your partner but I know people have done it. Try to be strong & healthy in mind, body and spirit. Your baby is counting on you! Babies are a blessing.