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sometimes we make choices in our lives too quickly to see any future damage and harm that can be done. i know. ive been there...countless of times. the drinking and partying is done to numb any pain that we may have. unfortunately, it isnt one of the best decisions in the world..especially when eventually s_x is involved. but the life youve lead up to now is the past. you cant undo what youve done. if any1 could, things wud seem to be much easier. however, i blieve everything happens for a reason. it may hurt and be confusing and be even depressing...especially to know your x doesnt want anything to do with you. but in that regard, u have to understand he is with some1 else. now what you have to do get your mind straight...@ least for the sake of your baby. yes, this child is part of that other guy, but more so the baby is part of you. u may not have ever thought ud b where u r right now, especially pregnant by a guy you dont love, but nonetheless that is what is at hand. n u can make the most of it n love this child and learn to appreciate urself and do better for urself...o fall back into another hold, end up resenting your child and hating your life. i dont think thats something u want to do. if youre not happy with the situation or urself, change it. i know its easier said than done, but when u really want sumthin u can do it. ur not happy with the father of the baby, leave him. that doesnt mean prevent him from seeing the child, but in order to make that baby happy, u have to b happy. as for ur x, yes its going to hurt for a while, but with time u will get over him. just have confidence and take control. u do have control even though it doesnt feel that way. :-D

sovi, thank you so much for your reply. i could really feel the kindness in your words. thank you! i dont want to resent myself or my baby, and will try change my att_tude.

ur very welcome. blieve me, things will set into their place.

I have been there and done that girlie! Partying and drinking to forget about things in life...but I didn't end up with a baby. I know seeing your ex move on must be tearing you apart....and being newly pregnant probably isn't helping much with the emotional factor. But don't despair. You are bringing a child into this world, a child that is a part of you and that is something to be happy about. Things happen for a reason honey...I don't think God would give you what you couldn't handle. Take care, eat healthy and try to get enough excercise. Surround yourself with family and friends. Keep busy! Maybe look into some couseling to help you deal with your sadness. Life will fall into place for you, you will see. Good Luck

Thanx, melissap, I must admit that since this has happend to me it has definately drawn me closer to God. I dont know if He ment for this child to be born this way but, i need him to help me handle the mess i've made of my life. Trying to get over the x is sooooo difficult. i wish i could just forget! my mind is like a battlefield!

Forgetting is hard...that's why you need to keep busy. Focus on the arrival of your llittle one. Maybe enroll in school?(if you aren't already doing that). Life goes on sweetie....you might think you want your ex right now. But what you are really wanting is the relationship you had before, which will never come back. He has changed, you have changed, you both are taking different paths.Go where life takes you. Take care and keep your chin up!