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Hey ~C~ Your situation sounds very much like mine, the only difference is that my bf and I don't live together. I'm pregnant with our first baby and in May as well, I found out that my bf was cheating on me. He too gave me the best "I'm sorry" lines but I wasn't satisfied because I knew she was still calling him and for I knew, they were probably still hooking up. The difference between my situation and yours is that my bf had a relationship with this other woman, she had no idea i was pregnant until recently. Well, it all hurt like hell, I felt so betrayed, I was stressed out more than I ever have been in my entire life. My stress practically ran my life. I couldn't eat, sleep or concentrate on keeping myself healthy for my baby, that tore me apart even more. Anyways, things have taken a dramatic change. I have decided to forgive him, as awful as that might sound to most people, I'm not regretting it though. I've told him that the trust is broken and that if we're going to work things out, then the trust must be rebuilt and it's going to take a long time. He's working on it, I can see it and I'm trying so hard to take the love shades off, because love can totally blind you to the most obvious things. Even though I have forgave him, I'm still trying to keep a bit of a distance, just so I can see everything clearly and I guess to protect myself if needed. I admit, it's not a good way to hold a relationship, but really, nothing more can be expected and to be honest with you, I haven't felt much stress in months since all of this happened. I haven't spent my nights crying in bed alone and I haven't felt the need to worry about where he is. To me, he seems a lot happier, more at ease, as compared to when he was juggling me and this other girl, he was totally stressed out. At the time I didn't know what his stress was from. We can now talk openly about what happened without anger or tears getting in the way. He knows he hurt me badly and he knows that this chance I'm giving him, is his one and only. I'm not just saying that to sound strong or anything, I'm serious about it. I've given myself time to think about whether or not I can make it without him IF he happens to pull this on me again and I've told him so. Anyways, if you want to make things work, it's not going to be easy and he HAS TO do something to prove it to you that he's willing to work at it, basically he HAS TO live his life as an open book. If he complains about having to tell you what he's up to, where he's going, what he's doing, you tell him that he brought this on himself, that these are the consequences he has to pay for betraying you. You say you want to believe that his relationship with this other woman was platonic? Go ahead and believe that, but it's not going to help you at all, nor will it help your relationship, your only going to allow him to get away with his lies. You KNOW d__n well it was platonic, whether that day you caught him was infact his first time meeting her or not. If the relationship was so innocent and platonic, why did he have to hide it from you? Why couldn't he inform you of it??? AND if it was platonic, why did he feel the need to even mutter out "I'm sorry" a person who isn't guilty for something, will not apologize for nothing. I don't think there's anything wrong with a man having female friends, BUT only if they are friends and just that. My guy has female friends and I know nothing is going on between him and them, I've met them all, we all hang out together, it's fine, but it's those ladies that are kept in the dark from you, that you need to raise and eyebrow at. Good Luck, I hope things work out for you, if that's what you want.
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