Partner Doesnt Want 2nd Baby
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Any advice for me? I'm 35 and have a 5 year old with partner of 12 years. Have been trying to have another for 3 years - 3 miscarriages. Recently had some relationship problems, and had decided to separate for a while - but - found out am pregnant. Partner wants me to terminate as things arent great between us.. Not sure if I can after all those miscarriages. Is it unfair to force a 2nd child on him? I think I can do it alone - but will that ruin everything between us for our children?
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Hi Mandarino. First all I can say it DON'T DO IT!!! It's a blessing to be able to conceive this baby...especially at your age and with your history! Maybe it's the universe's way to fix things between you and your partner. Keep the pregnancy. If you don't, you will never forgive yourself until the day you die, and who knows where your partner will be then?! Maybe he'll be with someone else, making his family there. Maybe he can't accept it now, but he will see it as a blessing later. Men most often have delayed vision...they only have the ability to see things now - especially if they are negative. Lastly, it will not ruin anything for you and your children. As long as you have your children, you will be okay :) Kids have a way of understanding, and being Okay about things in the end. If you need any advise or just want to talk, feel free to get back at me. Good luck!
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This is very funny tayeana that you say this now about men having a "delayed vision" and that they will "see the blessing later." Considering that after a mere few weeks of your pregnancy you want NOTHING to do with your ex....hmmmm what is really going on here...?
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Hey Skyblue, I didn't say I don't understand it...I just don't have to hang around waiting for it to happen! What if they don't change their mind?? It's not fair is what is going on here...I personally don't feel I have to stand for it is all.
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