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To life goes on: you kind of truly sounds like your really sorry for what you have done, and all the lives you've hurted in this

I am sorry and only God knows the tremendous guilt I will carry for the rest of my life.Yes I have forgiven myself, but inside the hurt that my actions have caused will always be there. Thank you for acknowledging my genuine remorse and apology to the wives.

I am 22 years old and have been dating a married (now) 56 year-old for the past three years. I have finally decided to end the affair. I realize that I have too much of a future to waste my life like this anymore.

I am a 22 year old who has finally decided to end my affair with a 56-year old man. I realize that I am only hurting myself.

Dear waking up, I hope you have read many of the posts preceding yours and realize what you may be in for should you choose to stay. Honey you are so young and have so much ahead of you, as painful as it may be for you I do reccomend you do find a way to let go of the married man you are with. At his age and of course being married he can't have much to offer you, and you really do have so many years of life and adventure ahead. This is a good site for you to talk about your fears, as well as learn what can happen when an affair gets carried away.

You are dead wrong becuz man only can do what women allow. My man has another woman preganant she wants to keep calling me cuz he want talk quite calling me she wasn't trying to talk we she was fu---- my man. Of course he denies that she is preganant by him so we will what and see the outcome cuz I will make sure that he has a blood test done. I say Woman stand up for what's right. Stop letting this man cheat cuz it ain't like that ain't let you know up front they have a woman. Yeah I done it before but once he said he was marrying her i let it go.

to unfair....Yeah your situation is different he was lying in my case he wasn't lying to her about me the worked together playing friends. She even did my daughter her before...okay. You my ask why I am I still around while cuz I haven't seen her she says that she is preganant. He says she is crazy and jealous. When that baby is born I will make sure like a said before a blood test is done. I will bounce if it is his, He will have to explain to his daughter (we have) Why this girl she thought was a friend has a baby, that is her brother/sister. He just hurts that I case after he wasn't giving her the attention she wanted she wants to tell me. You are different you are saying you don't need him the same why a would be but she is saying that mf will pay. I just feel like when you know what you are getting into how can you get so angry when the run like sissies. Be strong cuz you don't need a man to raise your child. My man is there and I still do the most part. But she diffently doing this out of spite. I can just here it in her voice when she told me. That's so wrong for that child cuz if it is his, he is so stubborn he will not be apart of that baby life. But that will be there business cuz me and my daughter don't wont nothing to do with it at all. It just hurt so bad to think the one you love will do something like this. Like someone else said it ain't got nothing to do with the woman at home not doing her job. Cuz I am a d__n good woman he is just a cheater and liar. I am trying to get some bills caught up so I am dealing right now. PEACE

I saw a movie last night and it kinda reminded me of this site.Its called"Diary of a Mad Black Woman". Maybe you shoudl all rent it.Its about this lady who was married to this man for 18 years and one day she came home to find her stuuf being packed and thought he had bought her a new wardrobe.On their anniversary he kicked her out of the house and had the b___s to bring the other woman home and come to find out they had kids. Its kind of a comedy,romance movie but i think alot of you will like it.Its really hard to explain but at times it had me on the verge of tears then laughing my b___t off.

It is not the job of random woman to keep our husband in line!!!!! Do I feel remorse for the affair?Yes! Do I wish I had handled it differently?Definately! Do I accept full responsability?ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! And that is what some of these wives want. They want it to all fall in the lamp of "the other woman." It makes it easier that way. But I'm sorry, it doesn't play out that way! I did not take a vow in front of family and friends to be loyal to her! I did not lie or sneak around behind her back. And I am not the reason he was looking to do so!!!! Husbands carry the responsability to their wives - not a stranger! Frankly, sometimes the faithful partner is partially to blame. Not that an affair is ever excusable, but when things are not good on the home front people tend to look elsewhere. You can think I am making excuses if you wish...if that makes it easier to live with a man who did not respect you enough to stay commited!

I don't want you to take full responsibility!!!!!!!!But why NOW do you want the wife to know? Cuz you lonely and depressed cuz, he want talk to you anymore....So you wonna bust her bubble cuz yours got bust....I just say you the one with control over the situation. Why make her miserable, she didn't sleep with nobody husband.....You did But I only can speak for me. As soon as I pimp him get all my bills paid up I will be gone. Cuz HOES like you will always be out there. I can make myself came I love me more than any man that I will allow him to sleep around unprotected. I just hope you know you rep what you sew.

Personally, I do not see how your acceptance of your role of the "other woman" is genuine simple because of the statement directly after. You seem upset at the wife who didn't know about you. I don't see how she is the blame for his inability to stand by HIS word. Hopefully you will realize we all carry a responsibilty to each other--PERIOD. I think it boils down to respect for ones self, when that is lacking you can't respect others. When the "shtuff" goes down some people look for any one and everyone to blame--other than just themselves. I am not talking about guys who lied and said they were not married. But if you have been with a guy for any lenght of time and you haven't met his parents, friends, family, don't have a home phone number, never been to his house, you would have to be a moron not to know something fishy is going on. If you knew he was married before and didn't break it off or have to desire to tell the wife. To tell her after you are pregnant is only done out of spite. Pure and simple.

You know i see alot of name calling on here and i just want to clarify something. If the other women are morons for not knowing he was married then the Wives must be morons for not knowing he was cheating. Hows that for simple science?

Not that makes a lot of since don't it why wouldn't you know your man was cheating....While how about cuz they both was smiling in your face faking friends. Now whose the MORON u fork nowing but allowing it, Cuz you weak... My only problem is why do you have to tell the other woman when things aren't going right for you. That is my question why tell NOW please someone answer that question why did you tell?????????????????????????????.

reply to lisa, In my situation I did not tell. But given there is a child involved eventually the wife would find out. I was asked to terminate, that in not for my life. I gave him the option to not deal, to not have to own up to the fact we only used the pill were not truly safe. We were wrong, I know this and I am dealing with this each and every day. The reality is what we did happened, I am having his child and he does not have to acknowledge but I do. I have not talked to the wife, and even when he has contacted me and talked to me w/out her knowledge since our affair was confessed by him. I don't see the purpose, the issues between them are just that...between them. I am sorry , truly sorry, for my involvement in the pain caused. Our affair is over, and should he want it to resume I can't and I won't. Some women do feel a need to approach the wife, but I gain nothing from it and I only add to the severity of what has been done.

Didn't mean to step on your adutering toes. I agree there are signs when your husband is cheating, some wives get them some ignore them. But as the other woman her signs are glaring red flags e.g. you have been seeing the guy for 6 moths and you don't know his home number or where he lives. How much longer should the line " I want you to be able to reach me where ever I am" last? Especially, when a lot of times he doesn't even answer your call.

to me too, See in my eyes you are a real woman cuz you say I made a mistake I will deal with it. You not making him take responsibility not to say it right that he doesn't but I just think it is wrong to make someone be there cuz you won't them too. Cuz when I got preganant with my daughter me and the were just having casual s_x honestly but i fault like this is my problem either you can be there or not.... oh will me too. thanks for not telling :)