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to confused.......I am sorry but you really are confused, that's not your man until he leave his wife. How long has he been saying he was going to leave her? Yes, I am a wifey who's got a girl preganant now. Soon as my bills are paid I am gone so if she is anything like me you don't have to wait on him leaving her. I want to know what make you think he isn't going to do the samething too you that he has done to his family and daughter that he loves so much love don't make you hurt you own child. That's LUST. Grow-up and get ready to raise that child by yourself cuz wants a cheat always a Cheat. But you probably don't care cuz you were sharing him to begin. For your baby don't stress. To blessed to be stressed. Just get it together

when is the baby due confused?

Dear Confused, as for the daughter I would not push any issues. If the father has not introduced you to her by now, there is a chance he is not going to be honest any time soon. I suggest you just wait for the father to make some decisions. Try to be strong, the father sounds like he may think of you as naive and I just want to remind you to try to be strong and focus on the baby and your life. The fact that the father had such strong reactions to begin with just shows he is still torn in his life. I know you want him for yourself, and perhaps your wish will come true. But the best advice I can give you is to try to put yourself first and not expect any drastic changes from your man. Keep seeking positive support from your family around you, support is very important right now. Keep posting and try to stay strong my dear!!

Confused...If you read some of the early post you will see I to am in a married man situation. I am not with the father and it is definately a daily battle to not dwell on the situation. One minute I want revenge, the next I am strong and confident and then next thing you know I feel as if I would do anything to get him back. It is crazy but one thing I am finally doing is ending my faith in ANYTHING he says. Men who cheat on their wives are liars! And just because you are pregnant now it doesn't change that. I do not know your situation but I know one similar all to well. I also know that a year ago I sounded just like you and today I am single as can be and he is still married. PLEASE focus on you and your baby and stop trying to bring him along. The saying "if you love something let it go, if it comes back to you it is your to keep, if it doesn't it was never yours in the first place" holds true. Let him go...really. He will come back but until he comes back with signed divorce papers in hand and a plan for your life together he is NOT yours.

I decided to break up my ramblings. I don't want my words to sound as if I am chastising you. It just that I know how hard holding for the divorce can be.In my situation there was a lot of back and forth. Then at one point I helped him move out of his house...everything he had there and he moved in with a friend of mine and he was proceeding with the divorce. His, her and my entire family new the situation and after thinking everything was good we were preparing for our life together...looking at houses, wedding rings, etc. Then on Thanksgiving morning he was nowhere to be found. He was supposed to join me at our families dinner and he was MIA. I finally called her cell phone and it was off and I knew. I almost died inside! It took everything I had to recover from that. She had called and wanted to just talk...she was sad and lonely because of spending the holiday without him and he said he just wanted to check on her. Just like that the tables were turned. It is not a good place to be in and I really hope to put up a guard now because the emotional strain during pregnancy is just not worth it. Please know I mean these words kindly and with respect. Take care

lisa- im due on may 7th. you're right, he is not mine until he divorce his wife. however, i can't say once a cheater always a cheater cuz as far as im concerned, the wife cheated on him but whatever right? how do i know that for sure... he could very well be just saying that but ofcourse whe we love someone, we get blinded... anyway, thanks for the comments you guys... i truly appreciate it. i will see him this friday so we'll see what he has to say this time... right now, it makes me very sad and sometimes i cant help but cry when i think about what im going through... we were just so happy and now i am torn. thanks again you guys... i'll keep hanging in here even if im hanging just by a thread.

I'm two months pregnant by a married man who told me he was going to leave his wife so we could start a family together. Well, the family got started and when I told him we were expecting our baby he told me he'd changed his mind. He wants me to terminate the pregnancy because of the shame it'll bring on him. It turns out the conception was the last time we made love. I've been wondering how I'm going to tell our baby why s/he doesn't have a daddy and I think I'll tell him/her that s/he was the last gift her daddy gave me and therefore s/he's very, very special, precious and important. I'm 44 and this will be my one and only pregnancy. It's real scary as I have no support - I'm new to town and my family is nine hours drive away. However, it's exciting too. I'm relieved to hear I'm not the only woman in this predicament. The ONLY charge we can answer "guilty" to is having s_x with a married man - nothing else! Be proud and remain proud - for your and your baby's sake.

TO Another "Other Woman" why did you decided to get pregnant and thought that him leaving his wife to start a family with you would be o.k?

I just wanted to add my 2 cents. If a married man cheats in his wife despite tha fact that he took vows, hes probably not ready to settle down with anyone. Chances are he will cheat on you with what he thinks is a step up better for him. I could be wrong but i noticed almost every one of you said that the man is now back with his wife or you just found out he had a wife once this pregnancy came out. If he got backwith his wife or told you he had a wife when you told him you were pregnant then he probably thinks his wife is the better to be with.

look at all the women sleeping with married men.... one word for you girls. theres enough single guys,, look harder next time....sheesh. disgusted!!!!

What a shame that all these perfect woman with all their knowledge and wisdom were not around when my affair began. Had I only known....

I have a statement I would like to make... my husband and I seperated for about 3 months, we were going to get divorced and than he came to me telling me he wanted to work it out...but..he had to tell me something first.. he got involved with someone and now she is pregnant, as the birth comes near.. she is trying to hold the baby over his head because she wants him back blaming me for everything as far as why her baby will not have a father.. I NEVER said he could not have anything to do with this child, I have a child from a previous relationship and he treats my son like his own. Yes I am hurt but I took him back knowing the whole situation. I would like for someone to explain how visitation goes for something like this...

why does it seem that the other women seem to think that sleeping with a married man is ok... then if they get pregnant want to hold it over the fathers head.. I think it is sad that there are so many lonely and unhappy woman who can not find a man of their own to start a family with.. I pity you

Pity too...what a great day. Thank you so much!

Why does it seem that the married man seems to think sleeping with another woman is okay...then if he gets her pregnant he can just up and leave...I think it is sad that their are so many lonely and unhappy men out their that that keep it in their pants except at home with their own family...I pity the wives of these men!

Why does it seem that the married man seems to think sleeping with another woman is okay...then if he gets her pregnant he can just up and leave...I think it is sad that their are so many lonely and unhappy men out their that can not find happiness with at home...I pity the wives of these men!