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Disgusted, You know, you really should try to act a little more your age. Unless you are a teen. In this case i think im just going to go click the poor taste and once theyve blocked you from posting anything else on this site, i will congradulate you on your immaturity.

Wow, I have been reading all the posting and I'm amazed at how common this situation is. I have been married for 9 yrs with a 3 yr old son and my husband had an affair with a co worker this year and got her pregnant. We have never had any problems like this that why I was so hurt. I knew something was going on at the end of last year, he just changed. He started receiving several calls on his cell phone and I someone gave me an idea to look at the detail billing on the cell bill so I did and I was amazed at the same number showing up all times of the day and night, he also started putting his phone on vibrate which he never does. So I called information and asked who this number belonged to and BINGO, I knew the girl because my husband was sick with cancer at the beginning of 2004 and she came to visit a few times. I was amazed that is was her because she is very over weight and unattractive but I guess looks isn't always the case. I called her myself and I was very nice and asked her why she calls my husband so much and she said, " we are just friends, if I was f_ _ _ing him I would tell you" she was very ghetto and outspoken I would never picture him messing with someone like that. I told her if you guys are just friends you should call our house and we all can be friends. I also begged her to stop calling my husband before something happened we all would regret but she just said, "whatever" and hung up on me. I then confronted my husband about it and he said, I don't know why she calls me so much, I don't want her is fat and nasty (ya right). Anyway over the next month they still talked on the phone and one day I could not find he and I knew the apts she lived in from calling 411 information, so I drove over there and rode through the parking lot but I didn't see my husbands truck so I felt bad but as I was exiting the gated apts, guess so was entering them......I got out of my car and asked him why I was crying and so hurt, he said he was only going to give her a ride to work but it was 12PM and they didn't have to be to work unitl 2PM, I wonder what was going to happen them 2 hrs. Anyway we when home to talk and he begged for forgiveness but I told him we needed some time apart so he moved in with a friend. Over the next 2 months we talked and he would come get our son and we decided to take it slow and try to make it work. One day he called me so upset and told me how much he loved me and I knew something was wrong, he admitted to having s_x with the girl and now she calmed she was 3 months pregnant. I can not explain the hurt I felt, I want to die. I called her and now she didn't want to talk but remember what she said before when I called just trying to save my family " if I was f_ _ _ ing your husband I would tell you" ...LOL, now she was scared of me. Well another month went by and guess what, I found I was pregnant also because I was still sleeping with my husband feeling like I had something to prove to him. The girl ended up having her baby, on my birthday, ( what a great birthday present) but she had it to early and it died. Now I am 5 months pregnant and my husband wants to work it out and pretend nothing has happened but it hard to do. I'm nothing trying to put the blame or guilt on any of you women thats out there messing with married men, I want to say is think if it was your husband and the situation was flipped. We have want the american dream, a handsome husband, beautiful kids and a nice house with a dog running in the backyard and when you have worked so hard to build this and someone come along and threaten this you can't help but have some type of disgust for this person. Work towards having your on man and on family...NO SIN GOES UNPUNISH

Wow, i guess it goes to show that men dont just cheat with women who are skinny and s_xy lol. I know its not an amusing subject and im sorry for the ladies who have had to go through this pain and hurt. I wish everyone luck and i hope everything works out for the best for everyone.

no they don't just sleep with skinny, s_xy women, they looks for the lonely women with low self esteem that will do anything for a few minutes of fake affection ...lol

Well i'm back, I had just been reading these posts for a while because it was real interesting to see in the month or two I haven't posted how many negative posts there are. TO "trying to move on", I do not see anything funny about saying women have low self-esteem because they ge tinvolved with married men, because every situation is different, but as I was reading ur post and u said the woman was fat and ugly, well ur husband liked something about her, so I do not see how it is funny to out her down. If u read and really comprehend the other postings, u would understand that sh*t happens and since u obviously have not made any mistakes I think you just might be Jesus. LOL..anyway to "me too and !!!" I have misses talking to you. My son is now 9 months ols and his fathert is still around..he continues to try and play the game but I thank God after all the hell I wwent through I am able to take most of the emotional trauama I had and tell him to go to hell...For all the ladies who are pregnant by these men..BE STRONG.. i have been there, endures it, cryed, laughed and still life goes on..These men are being protected by the wives because they are lying and not being truthful to them and protected by "us" if we continue to see them.. Also for the women who are wives and say that u and husband was seperated..why are u angry at teh other women, u were seperated and he chose to find another relationship..I implore u to not mistreat these womwn because u do not know what they were told, do not let them disrespect u, but if u and ur husband was truly seperated then he is the problem...I was the woman and he was "Supposedly" seperated..they are still together and I do not care but she does not want him to be apart of my son's life..so everyday he sees him she doesnt know..that is c___p..but I do not expect her to just love my son but he did not ask to be here...anyway everyone have a good night and I will continue my motto: EVEN OUT OF MESS, GOD WILL BLESS!

TO THE WIVES:There obviously a lot of opinions on here from a lot a differnt view points and I would like to know how you think a woman in my situation, as the other woman, should act, do, etc. I would also like what you think your rights to the baby are, and if you think you have an resposability to the child. I am not being sarcastic or anything I would really like to know. I honestly feel that all things considered I have been more than fair and now she(the wife) is is the wrong for her behavior. Please tell me, I would love to hear your opinions....Thank you!

trying to move on.....I truly feel your pain, I am in the same situation my man cheated. It hurts more when it is not an appealing woman like what the hell. The way i deal is everything happens for a reason. And I feel like if this baby is his....IT is GOD way of getting me out. We have had a lot of ups and downs but I always hold on.....

New2Motherhood - I think that you have done all you can. If he does not want to be a part his babys life that is his loss. He is going to miss a lot. One day he will have to answer why he did not want to be there for his child and that is going to all be on him. You have left the door open for him, you have asked him if he wants to see his baby. He is the one making the decision not to..... I do not feel like I have any rights to my husbands child, but I do feel like I have a resposibility to make sure she knows that she is loved and that she is no differant than our other children. I never want her to feel like she is not part of our family. I want her to feel at home with us as well as with her mom.

Understanding...Oops I must strike a nerve, sorry..I was not "LOLing" about the low self esteem part but I guess it doesn't matter how you took it and no I'm not jesus and I don't calm to be perfect I have sinned and made big mistakes in my 30 yrs of living, I just ask you to put yourself in the wives shoe and try to image the hell we go through daily. And about the comment "my husband must liked something about her" ..yes I agree, he liked that fact that she had a hole between her legs and she let him enter it..LOL..hey he's a man...you would believe the things he says about her now but like you said there's no telling what he was telling her. Lisa...I feel your pain also, I don't wish anyone to have to go through this. Everyone is telling me I should get pa__s it since the baby did not live but that hurts me even more to know a baby died because of this situation. Just stay strong and keep the faith, your right god does everything for a reason. New2Motherhood...I don't feel as a wife in this situation I would really had any right to the child but as the child got older I would have tried to make sure it was a part of my son's life, so he would know he had a brother or sister out there. I feel the baby has nothing to do with the parents mistake so I would have been very fair.

To "trying to move on" well i guess i did take it the wrong way but I do fel that u have some sense of understandind because you did say, that i was right, you nor I know what your husband was telling the other woman. Also I hope you can get over the baby dying, u seem to be truly upset about it, but everything does happen for a reason and it is weird to here you feel for the other womans child and it was ur husbands. u must really have a kind heart, I am sorry that u had to go through any pain because 'I' as the other woman have beared so much pain also no one likes to be hurt..Question for the wives - if you and ur husband seperate, is it considered an affair if u say u are seperated, I ned to get a clear understanding of what seperation means in the married world..because when I think of seperation I think of no longer together and either partyh can so as he/she pleases..so what be mas at the other woman who was brought into the situation by the "seperated husband"..

separated is not divorced!! It does not mean the man/woman and go and do as they please as you say. Separation is exactly what it is - it is living apart to settle differences, not an automatic "I'm single" card. They are still MARRIED and it is an affair. Color it anyway you wish, you had an affair with a MARRIED man.

well 'js" i never knew the definition of seperation for a married couple so calm down..I have never been maried or even questioned the thought of seperation..but it is funny to think that people who seperate get divorced..so i will take it as that and i do not need u to point out that he is maried, I am well aware of that fact.thank you.for noticing..

The wife in my situation is CRAZY! Seriously, I am not just bitter she really is. I want him to able to see his child but she won't let him unless she is there. She is not able to be the least bit calm when that happens. I mean I have a five month old (at the time 3 months) and it was 10:00 at night and we are at a mutual friends house who also have young children and all she can do is yell and complain about her feelings! That is what happens everytime the subject even comes up. So she thinks they should just get to have the baby for the weekend. In my opinion that is c___p! You don't get to play house with my daughter because you are not mature enough to handle the situation. But he calls and wants to see the baby behind her back and Im torn everytime on what to do. WIVES... what do you think....Is the wife in the right just because she is the wife (that is how she see's it)and how should I handle it from here.

New2Motherhood... Can I ask you a question? I mean no harm by this I am just looking for opinions also..Is the only reason why you will not let you child go over there because she is crazy or because you are a little mad at both of them. Do you not want the wife with him when he sees his baby? I am just trying to see how you are handling this.

Also, what happens if you all go to court and the judge says your baby can go over there for the weekend.

new2motherhood...I am the wife I wouldn't let my baby go over there if it were me just the same as she wouldn't let her child come with him 2 your house. I can only speak 4 me I don't wonna see the baby he can see the baby when ever he wants if i stay it will just have to be a general place that me cuz I don't trust her nor him to be alone at this point. Anyway I have a 7yr old daughter if he decide to be with her I would not seen my child there either people hurt can do some crazy things.