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reply to help fast, you do sound conflicted. Unfortunately you feel the pressure to decide right now!! Your fear of others a__sumptions are valid but there does come a time when we move past them. I have other children who know I am pregnant and this is not their father's child. Other friends of mine do not approve of the situation that got me here, but I had to not let those opinions rule my life. I know I can love my baby for who it is and give it a chance in life whole heartedly. I did not keep my baby to keep the father present in my life, I have often wished he was not the father so I did not have to deal with these things. But he is, but I have also chose to not let his actions and behavior dictate my life and how I live. I am in a rough spot lately, where I too have some pregnancy complications. Again all you can do is continue to try to search in your heart and soul for what the right decision will be for your life. As for the father's involvement in our child's life, only he can make that choice. He tells me that he will be, but it is too early to tell. Whether he is or not my baby will be loved for who they are. The father will be missing out should he choose to allow his wife to force him to not be part of his child's life.

to me too: thanks for keeping in touch - i am torn - i do feel pressured - im 16 weeks pregnant - the baby is real - heartbeat - all organs - he is a boy - thats why i feel pressured - i cant wait any longer if i terminate - its already beyond late and its bad - really bad - i wish these reality's hit me sooner im not thinking straight - are you married?

to help fast, yes I am married but have been separated for over 2 years. I do not know the future of my marriage, but the past few months ending my affair and dealing with this pregnancy has been enough to deal with.

to me too - wowo you have your plate full!! and three kids? im sorry what you are going through and there is light at the end of every tunnel - things will get better and for your sake i hope they do quick - i wish you the best - thanks for helping me out

help fast, one more thought for you....there are other women on this site who have previously terminated should that be the decision you choose there is support here for that too. Or perhaps there is another forum, just don't do this alone!! Seek others in similar situations which ever one you find yourself in. I do wish you the best in life, and I hope you realize you are not alone!! There are so many who are able and willing to help. We all learn from our mistakes, but going through them must not be alone!! Thinking of you and hoping your day finds you peace soon!!

you are truley wonderful - i hope that i find peace as well i hope i can make a decision and be sure - thanks for your help - i will be on line seeking help!! thanks again

Im not trying to insult any person but I will insult abortion, Unsing words like "terminate" etc. is really a way around saying what it is MURDER. Im sorry but that is the harsh reality. On special on TV just did a story on a 2 year old little girl who was born at 19 weeks! Meaning, that is a very real little person and just because it is still on the inside does not make it okay to kill. I may sound harsh but it is the gruesome reality! These precious little babies deserve life. Do you think if given a choice if life of having a weird family situation or not living at all that they would choose death. I really doubt it. I to have considered abortion even being so against it. I sat in the parking lot crying and crying about what to do. Driving away and having the baby is the best decision ever I ever made. I know the embarrasment of it...I look to see if other woman are wearing rings or not, I freak out from time to time about the mess I am in, I feel like woman that know the situation no longer trust me Like I am always on the prowl for someone elses man. The list of stresses and obsticales is long and annoying but I swear doing what is right and accepting the situation and the baby will outweigh the negative 100 times over. If you really do not want the baby try looking into adoption. And if you say it would be to hard to give the baby up maybe you want it more than you realize. I mean to cause no ill feelings, I just REALLY love babies ;)

to please understand - first off - i am far from saying that i dont want the baby - the only reasons im looking to terminate are because of the situation - there will be MANY people hurt by this including the baby - and adoption is not an option for me because i DO want this baby - just not in a situation like i am in - what about his wife and kids - what about my parents who wont speak with me or forgive me - what about the child wondering why his daddy chooses the other family - what about me finding companionship - i know this baby is real and alive ive seen him - im just trying to do the right thing for everyone here and im soppossed to leave to go start this procedure and i am procratinating - i have been for months now - this is my fourth appt - and to be honest - while i was growong up- i had a tough childhood and i can recall very clearly wishing i was never born - i dont want my child to feel that way

To help fast: if you want the baby then keep it, forget what everyone else is doing or how they look at you..Life is not going to be perfect, you might not find companionship without the baby either so it seems like you are trying to live in a fantasy world and to be homest with you, you need to open your eyes and do what YOU want and no one else...You will sirvive, you keep saying that "he" is choosing his other family over your baby, does that really matter because he might be in the childs life...I hope you can see that there can be happiness in your life if you decide to keep the baby, there will be trials and hardships, but what life does not experience these..I have two other lids by a single man, and beelieve me honey..MEN are all alike, they will do what they please whether you are with them or not..so stop stressing over eveyone else and live your lifwe for you..Your parents will come around and if they don't then may be you want to look back on your life and see should you forgive them for not being there for you..I say that because yo stated that you wish you were never born, so something was obviously wrong..Not trying to be negativebut trying to help you see, you do not need their approval..

my husband cheated on me with my friend he threw me and our 3 children out and we are doing perfectly fine and he got her pregnant we still legally married who is the ones really hurting the children are because they dont know what's going they want to know why mommy and daddy arent living together anymore

To not the fool: I logged on this morning while getting ready for scholl ( weekend Cla__s) and seen what you wrote, I just wanted to tell you that i am sorry for what happened to you and really hope things can get better, there is no excuse for what he did, but even those who have done wrong can and do have hearts and compa__sion and wish you the best..because I know what it is like to be hurt and it is not good, thank God I am and have been able to overcome my situation..Best of luck to you and your children

It does not really matter is you have half siblings from a married relationship or if the father was not married. They should not been so rude to you or your mother. What about their father? Their mother put mean thoughts in their heads and that was not fair.

i never would dream in a million years about thier father yes they are hurting but that is there father and they are little bit older so all they new daddy was in thier life they want to know why??? what do you tell them i dont downgrade him at all they just want to know why daddy wont see tehm now

to Help Fast: I'm not sure how many of these postings you have read, I know its too many to read them all but if you look back at my posting you'll see that my husband had an affair and got the girl pregnant and it hurt like hell I can't explain how much it hurt b/c my husband and I were so close I didn't think we had problems that would make him stray but I think what would hurt me more than anything is to lose a child and if you have an abortion thats what your doing, you'll be losing a child and what if God do not bless you with another when your ready. I was told by a old wise lady that theres not time better than the present, if not now, when....it's always going to be something going on in your live trust me. Please do not do it, a baby will bring you so much joy, and I feel you need so joy right now. When I found out my husband had another woman pregnant thats the first things I thought of is "she needs to have an abortion" but I was wrong, she had a miscarriage so the baby did not make it anyway but like I tell everyone I hate a child had to die because of selfish adults. Stop trying to make it convinent for everyone else and have that precious child. I don't know your parents but like "understanding" said when they see that child, they will come around. We know what you did is wrong, d__n no one is perfect, if we all were this would be one boring world. Learn from your mistake and move on. Best Wishes

To "trying to move on", I could of not said it better than that, you have a lot of forgiveness in you and since you are the "wife", i have a question for you..My son's father will not let me go. he shows up at my gym, and trys to act a fool and he told me that he was going to beat my a** if I tried to date anyone else..He said that because I had called his house before and "harra__sed his wife" - all I did was ask for him because we were still sleeping around and I was mentally jacked up. jealous, angry, you name it, so at the time I was like I am not going to let him go home and have a good evening while I sit around and cry, and take care of his baby..so I called house..but I told him if you were truly doing right and not trying to be both our mans then I would not have any reason to call but you were playing games..all that to say, I called house and they fussed all night, I know now it was wrong but I am trying to do things right and he wont let me..so he said because I called him at home he was not going to let me just leave him because "I" caused problems in his home ( she already knew aboutme and baby when I called) so he was going to act a fool with me..I hear him everyday say taht because we have a child together and he loves me I should wait on him..it has been two years and for the last 6 months I have been so tired of him, I need help in trying to make him let me go...if I call wife she thinks I am lying and believes him, the only way I can truly see us ending this is if I do not let him see the baby because he uses him against me...what do you think? I know i rambled on but I am so tired and stressed..

to trying to move on - you have no idea what its like to hear from someone on your end - unfortunately - the world isnt as open minded as you ! i think if it were - it would be a much better place to live! i hear what your saying - i went on friday to try to have the abortion - the dr wouldnt do it - he said that i was moving around to much and crying - i have this friday to go back - i dont think i will be good at this - alone and with no support - thank you for sharing your story - its wierd theres a reason for everything i guess - i hope things with you and your husband got better and are working out - with a woman like you- they should - thanks for the advise - im still not settled in withsomething definite