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I have kept up on this site over time because I like many women on this site was pregnant by a married man. We have had more ups and downs than I care to count. I had given up on him and for the most part moved on with my life leaving him to work out the issues in his. Now after over a year after the affair has ended and virtually no contact...he is back. He has moved out, they are finalizing the divorce and he has taken 100% resposnability for our daughter. As far as he and I go that is going to take a lot of time to repair the damage. He really is trying though. He has visited my family to make apologies and everything. For now I am avoinding getting my hopes up and stay busy appreciating having my daughter getting to know her father. So much for just being the piece of a__s that so many angry women were willing to call me. Many blessings.

You women make me laugh...I guess you really feel good about being a homewrecker. Of course he is coming back to you his wife kicked his sorry a__s out. My God woman have you no shame...You feel good...that is what you do..feel good may God bless you honey!!!!!

Your response is so typical. Some women on here need to realize this site is not for hurt wives to lash out at strangers for actions they condemn, it is for support from women in similar situations. NO one said our situations were morally right. So relax. I didn't wreck anything things were a mess and couldn't get better. That is not my fault. He left her...she and I have discussed the whole situation. While we will never be friends, we are civil and she said she thinks I have been more than resonable through out this whole mess. She, he and I all know the truth so think what you wish...and I deserve to be happy about my daughter having her father in her life.

dear sharing, I agree that the wives bashing us on here seems bad. But we do have to remember that they are hurting and no matter what words they throw out there it is usually just venting until they can process. And yes some are just ridiculous with their comments but in time hopefully they will come to terms with their feelings and be able to properly place their hurt. I do wish you luck with the father, and I commend you for being reasonable with the wife. I don't think there is any other way to be if we are truly looking out for our children's best interests. Of course it is always easier when the wife is willing to work thru things and able to accept a situation that we cannot change. Best wishes....

Better get used to what you are going to read on this site..It is what you are going to have to live with for the rest of your life. You let the little site tick you off you will be mad all the time. You know I bet your family is really proud of you!!!

Instead of facing their real problems, some people are just happy to find someone to blame. Nobody is in any position to judge you. Let them work out their own issues. Do what's the best for your daughter.

I have been involved with a married man for a year and a half. We were/are very much in love. I hated the fact that he was married but he eventually decided to leave her. He is a captain of a cruise ship and I worked as an entertainer on the same ship. We had several amazing contracts together. I have never felt such a magnetic powerful love. After our last time together, he was supposed to finally leave his wife(intimately) and 4 days before he went back home to Norway(im from Canada) I found out I was pregnant. He went home and confessed he didnt have the strenfth etc to leave his wife...it would kill her etc...he expects me to get an abortion and I have never been so torn. Im 35 and dont know when/if this will ever happen again. She hasnt got a clue that I even exsist. I fel sick about the whole thing. Part of me want to just erase all trace of him becasie I am so in love and hurt but I am appalled at the idea of an abortion and already feel so connected to ths life inside me. Ive never been so confused. This will also greatly affect my carreer. Its the hardest choice I have ever had to make. I know he is angry and shocked that I am even considering keeping it but I ca not let go at this point. I do atill have time...not much...one week...I dont know what to do. I know I need major coucilling on healing from the trauma of this relationship.

I started seeing a married man, who is 15 years older than me, about 7 months ago. I fell in love so fast and even though I knew it was wrong, it was so hard to walk away. He ended up leaving his wife (there were no kids involved because he couldn't have kids) and we decided to be together. However, I didn't know about his issues beforehand (depression) and it has gotten really bad. I found out I was pregnant about a month ago, and I find that because of his sickness, I have been going through this so far alone. Im not proud by any means of what I have done, but I just wanted to let you ladies know, that u need to be strong for your baby, because no matter what, they are the most important thing!:)

What the hell are you thinking..why do women believe so may lies..did you REALLY think he would leave his wife..98% never leave their wives I can not believe so many women do not mind being the 2nd one. You should want to be #1

dear "same as you"...in posting on this site you will find at times words can be cruel but there are also those of us who are trying our hardest to move forward knowing we cannot change our situations. I am in a situation where I am having a baby from a married man, but am not with him. He and I have both made the decision to not be together. This is a very difficult situation and I am now 6 months pregnant and have come a long way since I first found out and every day is often a challenge. I agree that therapy can be a positive thing, I will tell you that everyone involved in my situation attends therapy and it helps us all in our own way. You will get tons of advice, mine for you is to try to not be alone with this. Allow yourself to reach out to another or others you can trust. Then try to seek within your own heart and self as to what you believe and feel you can handle. Abortion is a personal choice, and I hear your conflict in your words. Only you know what is best for your own life and body and I wish you strength in your quest for the answer. Best wishes, and keep posting if you need more help!!!.

well it has been a long time but im back..To same as you: I also have a 11 month son from a marriage/mistress relationship..it will be a long road ahead should u decide to keep the baby, but it is a road that you can take.. This child is as much apart of u as it is him, don't let his actions make u so something u will forever regret because if u have an abortion and it is based upon how he has acted, done or even said then u will regret it...I speak from personal experience, I was so confused and messed up after I had my son that I kept sleeping with his father and I ended up pregnant again..I aborted this child because I was angry at him and me, but after the deed was done, I wanted to take it back, because I should of kept the child and said d__n him, I kep the first one.. only you can make the decision, you will be called names, talked about and put down by others on this site, but there are onle like me, and " me too" who wil offer support.. We all make mistakes in our lives and we learn from them, I wish you the best, I will leave you with quote: Even Out of Mess God Will Bless...

to the 17:55 post. Im sure that we make a lot of people sick. Thats why its comforting to have people that have gone through the same situation as us:)

Some of you people are so rude. Dont come on the thread if all you're going to do is insult people telling their story. Obviously these women realize that they made mistakes, but they don't need a bunch of fake b___hes who have never made mistakes telling them they are whores!

Thanks Rheanna, i could of not said it better myself. to here somone who is not in the situation understand and not judge by realizing we all make mistakes helps me to know there ae true people in the world who forgives..thanks again

You know what gets me is that you women are looking for sympathy (support if that makes you feel better) but you all really should have thought about what is to come and none of you did. OR..maybe you did and like a previous poster said..praying the guy will want to be with you. sorry ladies (if you want to call yourselves that) all you got was screwed. I guess you could not find the "support" among you friend and family so you had to come to the net and find it. It is a shame to be what you are i feel sorry for the poor babied that are being brought in a screwed up world as it is then to have the parents to be such dumda__ses.. You "ladies" have a wonderful day!!

What about my daughter.....How I am I suppose to tell her her daddy has another little girl? My boyfriend cheat with another woman that knew she had a women. I don't only blame her he is a wrong as she is. But I just wonna know why my daughter has to be hurt cuz.....To grownup made big mistakes. She just couldn't have an abortion cuz that would be right. Like it was right to be sleeping with someone else man.