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I was dating a man for a year and when he found out that i was pregnant he immediately suggested that I should get a aborption. However, I am a strong woman and said no! He said that he would leave me if i wouldn't; yes it hurt for a minute but i thought for a minute that he was not a strong man no ways and could not have the strength to be the man I needed in my child's life anyway. So to your Mama bear let the man walk; dry them tears up because it is time to be a mother.

My opinion---I think it's the man to blame not the women.If he's going to cheat he's going to cheat..you women make it seem like it's ok what they did to you and that they are going to stay with the wives...like they say it's cheaper to keep her. I think the husband's get off way to easy and all the blame is going towards the other women....blame your cheating husbands for breaking up the family....

You did the right thing to dump the man. What he said and did showed he did not really love you. The man I was involved in immediately suggested we got married after he found out I was pregnant. Unfortunately I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. We both felt sad and shocked... But we are going to be married this year. I am happy for you that you are strong and you have a healthy baby. Take good care of both of you. Happy New Year!

I totally agree with byrdie, this woman, after a while KNEW he was married and did not give a second thought to his wife whom had kids with this man already...how would any of you feel if your husband had someone on the side? I am sure none of you would like that kind of disrespect towards you! In her complaints, i did not hear one time that she felt bad for his wife, no remorse...she called that poor wife out of spite..I guess her idea of an honerable man would be for him to leave his wife and children for her! Now she has his baby, and he did not even claim it...this is the way I see it.....Mamabear spent 2 years sleeping with someone elses husband, invading someone elses life, she knew what he and she was doing was wrong, so the only advice I could ever give someone like her is treat other women the way you would want to be treated! What goes around comes around, she was not going to get the noble peace prize for what she did...she is no better than he is, she cannot be shocked by the outcome...the jerk was cheating on his wife, did she think he would respect his mistress any better...if she thinks so she is blind!

I agree with "toall", the truth is some people are coming on here and casting their smart remarks to the wives about, "it's not their fault that our husbands are running to them". and we should have been satisfying our men...well you know first of all how we satisfy our men is not your place to fix..he is NOT your husband to satisy, our marital problems are none of your business..if it was our husbands would have told us about their mistresses, the second thing nobody likes another woman to sleep with their husbands,boyfriendsetc., I keep reading about you mistresses all depressed about the fact that these men don't leave their wives, if your saying it is cool to sleep with someone elses man, then you should not care about whether he leaves his wife, you didn't care about it before, if commitment really mattered to you mistresses, then I would think you would have the common sense to find a single man that won't keep you hidden, not only that , if it bothers you that we are as you say being hurtful and mean, then think about what YOU are doing to the wife and her family, she has put her trust in someone, and you along with this guy have betrayed her, stop thinking about us saying hurtful things when you don't have a leg to stand on...you have hurt someone, not the wife...I for one would not want to end up with a man that cheated on his wife with me, and I could not lower myself to sleep with someone elses husband for the simple fact that he was not mine to begin with, and I would not want it done to me, and trust me when I was single there were hot men that were married men that would hit on me and try to discuss their marital problems and I just said no...I guess it goes along with decency and maturity...too bad we all cannot have that.

You knew what you were getting yourself into by dating a married man! You got him by default, and now you have just put another woman in hell by telling her that YOU are PREGNANT by her husband! That is a low b__w to go to his parents, and childish if I might add, since you are just as much to blame as he is! Good for you for keeping your child, that is the right thing to do, but did you really think that he would leave his wife when you were only booty on the side?

You knew what you were getting yourself into by dating a married man! You got him by default, and now you have just put another woman in hell by telling her that YOU are PREGNANT by her husband! That is a low b__w to go to his parents, and childish if I might add, since you are just as much to blame as he is! Good for you for keeping your child, that is the right thing to do, but did you really think that he would leave his wife when you were only booty on the side? DON'T COME LOOKING FOR SUPPORT AND PITY WHEN YOU WHERE IN THE WRONG! I pray that this child is not hurt in the end.

I guess the mistresses have nothing to say, yeah our men are running to you, for the side piece of a__s, but are you going to spend time with his family? oopppsss, forgot you are hidden, if you were really that important to him...I guess he would have left his wife....and just think he does not even have to pay for a hooker, you give it to him for free!!! All he has to do is tell you girls what you want to hear...how terrible his marriage is, oh and how he plans to leave his wife etc. common women, grow a brain...

yes i do spend time with his family, and so does our son..the only one u can blame is the woman but if not that woman then another one because these men are liars and dogs and will keep trying to cheat until they succeed. He has not left her and u better believe i realized i do not want him to because if she knew what she really had, then oh dang she would not be happy..u women are mad at the wrong people.....

uummm, I think to be mad at our men and the women on the side is indeed the right people to be mad at.

I stumbled on this site, because I couldn't sleep last night and just decided to surf. I find the posts amusing really... both sides. The bottom line is you can't make generalizations. Some men who cheat are dogs and some are truly tired of trying to make loveless, emotionally abusive marriages work... so they venture elsewhere. Some mistresses are disrepsectul shrews and sometimes the other woman is the one the man should have married (and regrets that he didn't wait for). Some wives are innocent victims and others are selfish, bitter individuals holding onto a man out of spite and pride without being the emotional support the man needs. In every case expressed here there is a unique combination of these personailities to varying degrees. Also, when men get caught, they often immediately deny the mistress. In the case of pregnancy, they may deny that, too. That's usually a man's first instinct. Society still heaps a lot of judgement on cheating husbands, and most men want to be seen as the committed, faithful family man whether that is true or not. But I don't think it's wise for wives to fool themselves into thinking that the first instinct is the final one. You may not have won just because you were the wife, you may have won because the same lack of self respect that caused him to cheat may make him feel that all he deserves is the marriage he's in (if the marriage was not a healthy one). Likewise, I think it's shortsighted and cruel for the other woman to hope for -- let alone plot -- for the husband to leave his wife without ackowledging your inappropriateness in their union and excersing the utmost of maturity in how you will work to minimize this woman's pain in the future. Yes, it is wrong to sleep with a married man. Yes, it is wrong for a man to committ adultery. Yes it is also wrong for anyone -- male or female -- to be in a marriage not fully complying with all of the responsiblities of that union (i.e. making love regularly, giving emotional support, not keeping records of wrong, forgiving). Just like the Bible gives many warnings about the pitfalls of extramarital s_x, it also referes to a nagging wife (read: spouse) as a "dripping faucet" and many other dull, aggravating pains (Proverbs). So I always ask married folk -- wives and husbands -- to be honest about their role in why their spouse may have cheated, for as my father use to say, "it is never 100% one person's fault. "Again bottom line: we should all focus on our own journey (learning to love ourselves enough not to tolerate disrepect from our husbands or any one elses) and not judging other people.

you know you say that if a man treasures the other woman he should have her, gee, I really hope you are this understanding when you are married and your husband decides to screw someone on the side! I notice most of the mistreses say I did not know he was married..or even better I could not stop seeing him out of love...sorry but thats all a crock, an excuse...first of all in most cases of dating a man will usually invite a woman to his place after a few weeks of dating, even sooner..people do spend the night together..if a man don't do that..either he is married or gay...and second once you find this out, you mean to tell me you women fall insanely in love only after a few weeks? It does not take much to find out if a man is married! It is amazing how you mistreses have a million excuses why you did what you did...but I know for sure that if you mistresses by miracle got the married dude to dump his wife...you would watch him like a hawk to make sure he don't do it to you! But you guys what goes around comes around...you talk about we should blame the man, well the dogs you are talking about are the one's you are trying to be with...and if you claim that you love this man..just think about if you were married to him and had memories of children and family vacations and so on and then some stranger tells you that she is pregnant by your husband,I am positive YOU won't come up with excuses...you would be p__sed....you don't seem to give the wife an inch, but you sure as hell think you deserve sympathy.

no judgement ....please All I can say is THANKS.

what are u talking about "thanks"? just wondering.

You guys say there are all these reasons why a man will not leave his wife....bank accounts, children, guilt and so on...Let me explain something to you..when a man is truly in love none of that can hold a man down..if a man is more worried about his money with his wife...HE DON'T LOVE YOU...if a man is more worried about his kids...HE DON'T LOVE YOU... if a man is felling guilty, HE DON'T LOVE YOU.. Bottom line when a man is yruly in love he will move heaven and earth to be with the person they love. Second, in one post a man told a woman that his wife is crazy, yeah that is what he's telling you, if he is lying to his own wife, what makes you believe he won't lie to you? The man is buying time! Third, my brother has had affairs on his wife and I even asked him how come he won't leave her, and he said plain and simple, and I quote "why would I leave me wife for a woman that would lower herself to screw a married guy knowing that he is married? You can't turn a whore into a housewife, if she is willing to screw me behind my wife's back, then how can I trust that she won't screw some guy behind my back, she has already proven she is not trustworthy! and anyway, I could not be with a woman that is stupid enough to believe my lies when it is so obvious, common I don't even spen the night with any of them!" So there you go ladies...right from a man's mouth! You cannot call the wife stupid because she is supposed to trust her husband, but for a woman to KNOW that a man is married and lying to his wife, how can you trust him when it is right in your face!!! Keep convincing yourselves that he loves you!!!

EVERYTHING YOU SAID JUST TOUCHED ME. NOT ONE PARTICULAR THING EVERYTHING JUST MADE ME THING A LITTLE BIT MORE.