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Angery wife, no one asked you to leave your husband because he cheated but dont get upset if he does it again.Once he gets a taste of it he'll go back to it.Not every woman wants these men to stay the night so we dont usually think about why he cant stay the night.How can you think that we got pregnant so he would leave yall and come to us.We know that even if he did leave yall that there is always a chance of him finding someone else and leaving us for them so, dont for one minute think that we got pregnant just to steal him.Im sorry your so mad.I never thought that the guy i was with was married and if i had even the slightest clue i would have not even looked in his direction more then once.

I agree with "preggo mommy". Not all women who find themselves pregant by a married man want him for themselves. We are pregnant, and if we carry to term then we should not be punished for allowing a life conceived to continue. There are decent mothers in this world, no matter the situation if we have these children and are willing to raise them that does not mean we will ill on the wives. Yes some women I guess (or rather am being told) do wicked things to the wife, but it sounds like preggo mommy, myself , as well as others are the exception. The thing we do deserve is for the father to be responsible as he too created this child. If he chooses to stay married, then so be it. And if we don't want him for ourselves for whatever reason, then why call us names for choosing life?

To preggo mommy and me too: just except the fact that you all are tryflin you women knew d__n well those men were married so why get pregnant get up off that excuse that you got pregnant on birth control, now you stupid women are stuck with these babys and believe me if i'm still around that baby will know from me that there mommy had an affair with with my husband and they shouldn't of been here point blank.i'm gonna continue to have my life and live comfortablely and i d__n show ain't gonna take care of no d__n baby, don't get me wrong my husband is truly to blame for this but he's gonna pay like hell right now he's so scared that when he come home that we'll be gone (his family) all he can tell me that it was a big MISTAKE i've stood by me husband in every situation he's been through in life but this right here i won't, and i can't help him so he has to make a choice. next time you chicken heads do your d__n homework when it comes to mens, and yes do you wish the mf could stay the night especially if he was d__n good you will be punish,.and you child will suffer what goes around come around,one day you will get married and when you least expected the same thing will happen to you and you will feel those hurting PAINS that the wife has felt. so don't think for one minute your off easy for giving life your not and i hope you get everything that you got coming to you because you all are TRYFLIN and i have no pitty for you so stop running off at the mouth.ENOUGH SAID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

angry wife!! perhaps you may feel "stuck" in regards to the baby in your situation and I pity that poor child!! But I am not stuck, nor will I ever be STUCK with a child. There is no such thing, children are the most innocent in this life and they should never ever be punished for situations they cannot control. For your sake I do hope a day comes when the bitterness subsides or that your husband does not allow that child near you. But never fear, as the child grows up it will be smart enough to figure out what is really going on around you. But to purposely tell the child they were not wanted, they were a mistake, is just spiteful!! This will NOT benefit you at all. Maybe now your anger is telling you as much, but you too will end up hurting. I am not going to continue this bantering of yours. The only thing I hope for you and your life is that you really do reconsider causing such mental harm to an innocent child.

to understanding: back to you response on july 25th yes i'm calling her a b___h and you too because your the other woman yes men tell lies and that's just to get into the panties,when men go out and cheat don't always think the wife ain't doing her job at home that's not always the case honey, you other women always seems to cater to the married mans ego, believe me honey i'm gonna be just fine with or without him and i don't have no d__n baby to tie me down.

to me too: i will ever hurt a innocent child nor do i wish harm because i have kids myself, but i will never be a part of a child that my husband conceived by someone else during our marriage. i'm not gonna sit here and pretend that i'm ok with it hopefully god will stray me away from me husband because i know i deserve better it just he's been a part of my life for so long, so to answer you question i don't wish harm on no one,just don't include me in that life.

angry wife!! You have really got me riled up and normally I can walk away from things, but you are being so spiteful but won't admit it. You telling this child they were concieved from and affair and should not be here IS punishing a child. Hurting their heart and soul is also being mean to a child. You are right you do not have to be around this child, nor do you have to like it. But for petes sake, why ruin their lives with your anger and hurt?? You post on here how evil we are, how we are lying about birth control , yadda yadda. Yes we made mistakes, but the point of this site is for ALL of us (wives and other women included) to be able to vent, explore our feelings, and find strength in numbers. So if our mistake is being with a married man yet finding ourselves pregnant for whatever, don't you think maybe you too are making a mistake for taking out your own hurt and disgust on others you know nothing about. And constantly condemning our children? Any number of us could have terminated, but that is not something we believe. We are not having this child to hurt anybody, it is the exact opposite. We are women enough to realize things did not go as planned, but having a child is by no means a tool to ruin anybody's life. We are choosing to have these children out of love, and as you certainly have read none of us are with the married men any longer so it is not about getting him back. And again I repeat, maybe you feel burdened or tied down. But we do not!! Sure we can feel sad, or alone. But we are not tied down by a child, should we have felt that way we would not be the kind hearted people we are who are choosing life over death. Can you please try to look in your heart and properly place your anger? Anywhere but the child is fair. I can take you coming on here and saying unnecessary and resentful things to women but our children whether from a married man or not do not deserve your spite.

To Angry Wife... I dont know if you have read any of the posts, but i too am a wife whos husband had an affair and got the other woman pregnant. I know how much it hurts, believe me i do, but i really do think that you are misplacing your anger onto people who you know nothing about. I can only say this now as it has been many months since i became aware of my situation and if im honest i felt exactly the same as you are now. I have had to decide what i want out of my life, and my choice is to stay with my husband, and even though i want nothing to do with his child (at the moment anyway) i do not want to be the person who stopped a little boy knowing his daddy. We all make our own decisions (thats how we got to where we all are now) but you really need to think about your future with your husband, i can completely understand you dont want anything to do with the other woman or the baby and that you dont want your husband to have any thing else to do with them, but in time this will end up coming between you and your husband and even though this is all his fault he will end up resenting you for not letting him be a daddy to his baby. I know it all seems that everything has landed on your shoulders and maybe it has, i know thats how i feel, but making the right decisions now will help you move on and be happy with yourself inside. This is the hardest thing i have ever had to do, but should my husband ever have the chance to spend time and help raise his child i will not stop him. I may ask him not to see the other woman (have her mother there when he picks his son up) and i may not want the baby in my home, but he can always take him somewhere that i know my husband will be faithful (his parents home). The women on this site may have had affairs with married men, but they have all felt the aftermath of their actions, and it is these women who have helped me realise that every situation is different. They are the women bringing up children on their own and we are the women who still have our husbands and our family (children). You also need to think about if there is ever a chance of rebuilding the trust you had in your marriage, if you realise that you dont, then maybe you would be happier in the future if you didnt stay married. I hope this doesnt come across like im having a go, thats really not my intention, i have only said this as it is what i myself have had to do. If you need to talk to anyone im here.

To Angery Wife,It really p__sed me off to hear that you would do such a thing to a child! You better hope the lady your husband knocked up is nothing like me because when my 6 year old came home and asked me what a whore was and said she told him he was a mistake and she was going to get rid of him,i took a trip to her house. She got her a__s whipped then when she called the cops i sat on her couch and waited on them.When she realised i wasnt going to jail she shut up talking all that trash.I asked her not to say nothing to my child that it was my place and when i thought he was ready to hear what happened I would explain it to him.I wasnt going to lie if he asked.She had no right saying anything about me and she is no victim as some of you other wives. Usually when a guy cheats its because hes looking for something thats missing at home.In your case he was probably looking for someone who would be nice to him.You sound like a real b___h yourself.Or maybe you werent good enough in bed.I dont apply that to all women though.Some guys cheat for no reason but i think you drove him to it.You dont deserve to have children if you feel you want to hurt an innocent child like that.Get some counsoling and stop trying to say its his fault when you are on here making it clear that you blame us because your husband is a sc_m bag cheater!!!

I have posted quite a bit recently on this site, and I actually do find it somewhat therapuetic. I am normally a very easy going person, who does not get riled up. I can relate a lot to women on here who are pregnant or have children by married men. But on the other hand, I do realize more and more how much hurt the wives do feel. When I have posted to the wives on here, I hope you realize I truly am sorry for the pain in your lives brought on by the affair from your husbands. There is no way I can bring myself to apologize to the wife in my situation right now, and I don't know if that is something I am going to strive for, but not because I am okay with what has happened but because at this point I cannot comprehend her words and actions. But what I feel I do need for my own self is to stop feeling such spite towards her. Her pain from the discovery is causing her to wish wicked and evil things on me. I have never been disliked so strongly, but that is not what I feel the most pain from. The pain is from the ill wished on my unborn child. I do not know how I would act should I find myself suddenly aware of my mates choice to love another woman at the same time as myself behind my back for years. But what I want most for the future and sake of my unborn child is to find peace within myself in regards to the wife. She wishes me to terminate and even lose this child. Adoption is also another way she feels her husband should push me to pursue so that this child will not be a "burden" in her life. Wishing me to specifically lose this child is so evil, and I have not been able to comprehend such thoughts. The fact is the affair has happened, and if she does believe she can live a "normal" life as long as this child is not alive is unrealisitic.

This pregnancy is not easy for me, and there are times when the stress is causing me severe cramping. I try to stay focused and calm, but the truth is I worry every day that the wive's wishes of me miscarrying may come true. I am no longer seeing the husband, the second I learned I was pregnant it was over for me. Before I even was able to tell him. Basically upon learning of pregnancy my entire lifes focus changed, the thing that matters most is taking care of myself as that affects the health of this child. As well as the life of my other children. I am not trying to pull this man away from his marriage, he wants to preserve his marriage and by the way he has reacted to me being pregnant I have seen a whole new side of him. A side that tells me I am better off now only focusing on my own family, that being me, my 2 children, and this growing life inside me. The only thing he needs to do is decide what part if any he wants to play in this childs life. He has recently stated he will be a present father in my childs life. And whether or not he is able to do as much, I have absolutely no intention of interfering in his life. What he tells his wife, is up to him. The only thing I truly pray is that in time she will learn and find it in her heart to accept this child is as much her husbands as the child they already have. And that if she cannot accept this child, she make it acceptable for his to see this child if he chooses. I cannot allow my child to be in an atmosphere that is not healthy or positive for them. It is easy to come on here and tell others how they are wrong, how they have destroyed lives etc. But I believe like myself other women on this site are confused daily and are just trying to do the right and best things possible for our children.

to whom ever have something to say that is the way i feel right now you other women have no idea how devistating that could be towards the wife,i will be honest with you if i was the other woman and i got pregnant ain't no way in hell i'll bring this child into this world , i know everybody is different, and for (me too and preego mommy)you just wants pity and this is my house and if i'm not ready to accept his child then no i don't have to. yes i'm very angry that you women could be so nieve i just wish the best for a'll ya'll chicken heads! and eventually i will leave my husband because this is something i don't wanna except,and i don't have too,so next time you other women do your homework when it comes to men.

ANGRY WIFE!!! Pity I don't want, if I wanted pity I would not go thru what I am going thru for the sake of my unborn child!! Pity would be me asking others to feel sorry for me, and demanding the father stop looking for a way out!! No maam, this is not about pity! Chicken Head?? Come on, we are grown women. I choose to find strength and positive in a very akward situation giving a child a chance at life. This life they were given, and I am now responsible for seeing move forward. You choose to come up with juvenile and immature phrases and names, well if that genuinely makes you feel empowered then so be it. I am empowered by my ability to move forward, not sit and lick my wounds about what coudl be labeled a "mistake" by others. I refuse to call my child a mistake, a circ_mstance of my situation yes. But never ever will my child ever feel they were not wanted, not accepted, not loved, or not a beautiful loving precious child!!

again to angry wife, you tell us Other Women to do our research/homework on our men. Do you really believe it is possible to know what a man will be like, act like, etc. in the future? What about you, did you know your own husband would do such a thing? If you did not know how the HELL should we kn ow??

to be labled as a mistake is what my husband has told me and his mother so he does feel like it was a mistake,and in your situation by getting pregnant by a married man was a mistake so you can label it the way you choose once again i hope you ladies and your baby have a wonderful life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

to (me too)if your messing around with a man everytime you call you get no answer,voice mail, or phones always off red flag, your unable to go to his home red flag,quickys red flag, just don't be so nieve when it comes to mens