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Sorry hun, but you don't make the rules on which threads i'm allowed to be on. But for the record i have plenty of single and pregnant friends, and have friends and family that have been cheated on, SO i have my oppinions on woman who sleep with married men. I saw this part of the forum and clicked on it out of interested, and saw this thread. well, since it HAS touched my life personally, i feel the need to respond. So There. For the record, my exam is in december, so don't worry, i have plenty of time to take out a couple of minutes here and there to respond. Thanks for your concern. I'm sorry but i don't see whats sad about looking in other forums. I also go onto the multiples because there are interesting stories there and sometimes i happened to know stuff that helps them, even though i'm not pregnant with multiples. I'm sorry if you have a problem with what i do for a few minutes a day, but thats your problem, not mine.

oh, and can you please respond to the non-retorical question i asked you? no response sort proves my point....

I have stopped posting because it became a waist of time as the OP is offended by air, I hope she doesnt tell her its her fault and she shouldve been keeping her husband happy at home and it wouldnt have happened, like some people think....

Wow Madison 1118, no offense, but why at 29 are you sooo much more knowledgable than someone who is 24? And did you fail to realize that if you post something that says, "I'm pregnant by a married man and don't know what to do," that you were going to get responses that you may not like? And now it just seems like you want to argue with the other women on this thread. It's been awhile since we've heard any news on the situation with the father or even how your baby is doing. Does that mean that your circ_mstances are better and now you just want to prove that you're right? Look, I'm not the type to judge anyone. Everyone makes bad discisions in life. Do I think you were wrong for sleeping with a married man? Yes. Have I done things prior to (or even during) my pregnancy that were wrong? Yes. But you have to realize that this is a VERY touchy subject, and that a lot of women are not going to be sympathetic. And even though I believe there is forgiveness for mistakes and bad choices made, there are still consequences to deal with. You now have to deal with being a single mom. So do I. You got pregnant the first time you slept with the guy. That sucks. But don't you think it would be a better use of your energy to just take care of you and your baby now? You don't need the extra stress. If there is nothing else that every woman on this forum can agree on, it's that your unborn child is the most important thing. We are nothing more than a bunch of strangers chatting online. We can all offer opinions (and boy, do we ever!) but in the end it's you who has to decide what you're going to do about your situation. Good luck. How about we all call a cease-fire?

I don't answer rhetorical questions. I play the hand that is dealt to me and don't live a life full of "what ifs". you are not adding any value on my posting so I would appreciate it if you stopped posted. Unless if it makes you feel better putting people down and being judgemental

mandie- Since it appears that no one is supportive on this forum, it is useless to even say what the update on my situation is. There has been quite some change and I suspect from the replies I've received already that I will be bashed even further.

can you read??? i said NON-retorical question. sorry, but that was a lame excuse. you play the hand that is dealt to you?? it seems pretty clear that you dealt it to yourself. BUt youre right. this is just a waist of time. I just pity the innocent child you are bringing into the world, and hope you decide to impart to it better value's than you seem to have been raised on, before its too late.

TJane- nice of you to add your comments as well.. No, I am not offended by air. people just have nerve bashing when they don't know the situation. I can go ahead and judge you for not knowing who the father of your child was in the beginning of your pregnancy. Hopefully by now you have figured it out and possibly seeked some counseling as you recommend.

As much as we all hope that I am sure it wont be the case as she doesnt see the problem with it, she doesnt see that something is wrong with her and she does in fact need counseling if shes able to be happy with a man that belongs to someone else.... remember... i recommended counseling and i was bashing her, yeh that was so horrible for me to tell her to get some help for herself... how dare i....

Unlike you I can handle the truth, as many problems as I have had and still have to the day I am not ashamed nor am I offended by the truth, atleast I see my mistake in situation and will not make the same mistake again which is WAY more than what I can say for you... Maybe its because I am only 27 but sleeping with a man who has been married for 18 years is no where near the crime of sleeping with 2 men a month apart..... Im sorry Ive hurt your feelings again (obviously I have since you digging through posts that are months old lookin for info about me) but unlike you my self worth in no way depends on your sleazy opinion....

Nice, at the ripe mature old age of 29 she still has to result in name calling to comfort herself....

I have never said that I have not recognized what I did was wrong. And no, you haven't hurt my feelings I only found your post by recognizing your name from mine. I'm sorry but I see spreading my legs twice in a month by two different men kinda gross.. especially since there are many many diseases going around..

Thats what you dont see... sleeping with a married man IS sleeping with anyone he sleeps with, and since hes a cheater you might as well go ahead and say you slept with him, his wife and his other late night f-s that he frequents, oh im sorry did you think you were the only one? I am sorry to hurt your feelings again....

and do you think that the man you were "casually" dating was actually only sleeping with you?? Please..The difference is that I didn't spread my legs for TWO different people in such a short period of time.

Like I said... I see my mistake and it wont happen again, you on the other hand are still defending yours. Ahyhoo, I am off of work now, my last day before my c-section tomorrow, Babys dad and I have to meet to make some plans so once again I am done... Enjoy defending yourself, Lord knows you arent gonna give it up.....

Tjane- its hopeless. I know i'm gonna get some scarcastic comment now, but i don't care-i'm not going to bother with this thread anymore. The truth is, this is totally not who i am and i don't like being this harsh-its not me at all. Its just that after getting off the phone with my best friend sobbing and heartbroken, and then actually meeting these woman online,something in me just snapped. Whilst i don't take back any of my convictions, i'm still sorry for any hurt feelings, eventhough i think it was necessary. So goodbye, madison, I hope you eventually find some nice single guy who will truely love and respect you and your baby, and not share you with any other woman in the world, and that you find true peace and happiness. you can bring on all the comments you want now, i don't care. I'm done with this thread.