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jazy , i would just like to say that if you have never been married, then you couldnt know the importance, and the sanct_ty, and wholesomeness that comes with it.

and just to clarify, i have messed with a married man, and i didnt think any thing of it untill i was married myself, it changed a whole lot.

Hi there, I have read through these posts. I think it is a disgrace for a women to sleep with a married man. That is probably the lowest of all lows you can do. One day it happened to me. I met a man and it was the old ‘we are separated’ line…I am not going to get into detail. If you are involved with a married man, just let him go. Why break up a marriage? You might think "he" is the one cheating but you are doing just as wrong - being an accomplice. I don't mean to come across as judgmental. But think of the man's kids, wife, they don't deserve to be hurt. In addition, how can a man truly respect 'you' when he is cheating on 'his' wife and you are letting him. If he cheats on his wife and family, he will do the same to you. I felt horrible, confused and very ashamed of what I did and I still feel very ashamed. I hope it never happens to me, my boyfriend or future husband to cheat on me. This married man, he still calls me and I still tell him to stop calling me. The sad thing is he doesn’t seem to think there is anything wrong with it. Now that you are pregnant, just try to move on. Leave him and his family out of it. You are young, you can meet a man who can offer you something better. I know it is hard…. especially him being the father of your child, but think of this, if he leaves his family for you, he will be breaking up a ‘family unit’. You have a chance to start a new family with someone else. Leave his family whole, in one piece. I know, easier said then done. You are only 29. There are many of other men out there who will be happy to be with you. How do you think his kids would feel if their daddy was not coming home but left their mom for another women? You have a beautiful gift coming, there will be many men out there who I am sure will give you more then just broken promises. God Bless you..

Baps- ur a hoe.. why dont you find something else to do with your life.. I feel sorry for you people on here that you have nothing better to do but sit on here and talk trash about people... You people dont even know what your talking about so geta dam life and shut teh hell up... I'm so tired of you people sitting here and blaming the women for everything why dont you look at the men... You act like we are out there jsut looking for MARRIED men no were not... then are the ones that come to use to why dont you talk to your husbands... I think thats pretty rude to say that you want someone to die like that... get a dam life and go bother someone else..

jazy-i never said that it was all the womens fault, however it wasnt as if the men lied and said they werent married, also the men are not posting stupid stuff about what should i do since i got a girl pregnant while i was married.if you didnt want to get bashed then you shouldnt have even posted such a thing on here because you should have known that women were going to bash you. i however do not agree with what baps said, that was totally wrong to say and i would never wish something like that on anyone, so i am sorry that she went that far because that was wrong.

Wow.. it is truly amazing how ignorant people are.Anyway Madison, im glad I read your comment because I am in almost the exact same situation as you. For the past 2 years I have been seeing a man that I work with. He is married as well and for anyone that wants to comment go ahead b/c I know it is wrong and it wasnt and isnt something I ever wanted to happen. But it did and that reality. He is a good man with three kids but is in and has been in a unhappy marriage for a while now. He loves his kids and is scared of hurting them. His wife found out about me and they fight alot about it, but he just denies it. He has been there for some as much as he can throughout this pregnancy and has done everything to help. I know he loves me no matter what anyone says. I love him & I know eventually we WILL be 2gether. For now its hard, but I try to understand. Things happen for a reason and God is giving us this baby together for a reason! Stop hating on Madison... everyone makes mistakes and she is at least responsible enough to keep this baby and do the right thing. Unlike half of you who dont even know who the father is. Things happen....everyman is different and every1 deserves to be happy.

Why do you guys say "you didn't mean for it to happen?" RAPE is something you don't want to happen, MISCARRIAGE is something you don't want to happen. It's not like you guys ACCIDENTLY screwed a married man. If you knew he was married, regardless of how unhappy he was, you were in the wrong for gong after him. And I'll say this for the zillionth time, THE GUY IS TO BLAME AS WELL. But if you women would not be so willing, they wouldn't be able to cheat. And for anyone to say that the reason men cheat is because of problems in bed are obviously stupid. Men cheat because they can. Just because a guy eats at a restaurant doesn't mean his wifes cooking sucks. And what makes you guys think these men are going to leave their wives? If you have been with them soooo long, and they love you soooo much, why don't they leave their "unhappy" marriages and be with you guys? Why would a man who LOVES you sooooo much deny that you mean anything to him? There are sooooooo many men on Earth, why do you guys go after married men? Does it turn you on to know that you could be tearing apart a family? Do you guys get off on the idea of your "boyfriend" going home and screwing his WIFE when he's done with his booty call? And for the record, I know who my kids belong to, they belong to a married man. This married man is married to ME. Concept that kinda makes your heads spin, huh?

Nope my head isnt spinning... Sorrry!! I am happy that you and your husband are doing well. Thats great but unfortuntely thats not how everyone's marriage is. PEOPLE make mistakes! NO ONE is perfect. All I know is no matter I will love and take care of my baby. F.Y.I.....his wife isnt gettin any from him... SORRY! and it doesnt turn me on to think that I am ruining a family because Im not. OBVIOUSLY they were having probs way be4 me. Get over yourself sweetie.... for you to even read the comments about girls being pregnant by married men is funny to me... you must have some interest in it?? whats wrong maybe you think your hubby's cheating?? or maybe your just bored on a Saturday night....your rude!!!!

No, actually my sisters EX husband cheated on her throughout her marriage, and I'm quite interested in what thoughts go through "the other womans" head. I'm curious as to why you guys try to justify it. I have seen my sister torn apart over the guy who she loved because he was screwing around with a girl who knew he was married and had a young son. Now granted he married the other woman 3 days after the divorce was final, they got divorced 3 months ago. They were married less than a year because he screwed around on her too. Now, my 6 year old nephew is being taken to all his daddies girlfriends houses and my sister just recently got over him. I have seen what happens to the families when men screw around. And I hate them. I also hate the women who seem to think it's all okay because "they weren't happy." If you must screw these men, why not wait until they are divorced?

hi im debbie and 4 months pregnant by a married man hes my neighbor and he also keeps telling me hes leaving her and his 3 kids and he has left and came to live with me but he still always runs back to her its terrible my pregnancy has been nothing but stressful now i wish i can go back and do it over and left him alone before i got pregnant should have took it as fun while it lasted but no i had to keep it going now im in this messed up boat my life is like a soap opera its crazy my child will have 6 brothers and sister between my 3 and his 3 kids its crazy.What i was doind didnt seem to matter much that i was ruining a family and my own because i drank my problems away and he sees this as all normal its been going on for a whole year im about to lose my mind and so is she ...now he is in jail for beating her up 3 nights ago ...he doesnt hit me but he beats her and i dont know if that has anything to do with me any advice for me out there ...im trying to clear my head and take this time to figure out my path in all this before he gets out so i know where i stand ...he says he loves me and wants the baby but then he will run back to be with her and get bored with her and come back too me i feel as tho im on a merry go round and i know its my fault for letting him do this but he told me the same thing im not happy and i want a divorce nd i also was in a 3 year relationship with my fiancee and when i sleep with this neighbor i fell in love with him and i had to let my fiancee and the father of my 2 year old go i left my family and messed it up he said he would do the same 1 year later he still has his family i mean its still messed up but he can get it back together i cant she believes every thing he says ...us women are both nutts...i recommend consiling for the both of us

oh and i forgot to mention that i am 22 and he is 40 years old

Hey baps u hoe I live in Boston anytime u come around my way you just let me know...You are a waste of my time on here.. So shut the hell up and find something better to do bi**h KSosa- I agree with you 100% these people on here or any where for that matter dont understand until they are in the situation People on here are so quick to judge before they even know anything people are on here for advice not to get bashed...I wish you the best.. My daughter is now 2 months old (from a married man) and she is the best thing that has happened to me out of this whole things Debbie- First of all age is nothing I'm 24 and the married man i was seeing was 37.. You have to worry about your kids your kids ALWAYS have to come first before anyone or anything.. If he wanted to be with you then he would stay with you he wouldn't go back and forth dont worry about worry about that baby your carring and your other kids they are the ones that need you more then him or anyone else...If you want to talk you can e mail me jewlskye1024@aol.com keep your head up and you will get throu it...Just remember everythign happens for a reason

madison- i dont think that the way i talk is low cla__s or ghetto at all. i spoke my mind on here and you all are still trying to justify what you have done. i have said that "yes the men are to blame but where are they?" none of them are posting on this site so women cant bash them. also you knew when you posted that you were going to get bashed so why bother posting at all. DEBBIE- i am sorry that you are in the situation that you are in. let me just say one thing to you and that is if a man hits any woman he will do it again. just because he has never hit you doesnt mean that he never will. no woman deserves to be beat by any man. the best thing that you could do would be to leave him alone. trust me on this. i was in an abusive relationship for a few years, and it isnt worth it. you start to feel that you are not worth anything and that you deserve to be hit on and thats not the case. if he hit his wife he will eventually start hitting you when things arent going the way he thinks they should be. Madison-the only thing that bothers me about your situation is that you are still trying to ake it work with him. how long will it b e before the 2 of you are in a deadend relationship and he looks for someone new? i am also 29 and age has nothing at all to do with maturity. i had to grow up fast and never had a childhood because my mother cheated on my dad and they both left. she had 8 kids and none of us have the same dads. i dont even know which one of her flings is my father. you think that you dont wreck lives when you sleep with a married man then you are wrong, because i am proof that it does wreck lives. when my mom and dad both left to be with other people they left all of us kids, and for years i thought that it was my fault that i had done something wrong or that i wasnt good enough for them. my dad died and my mom i now do not speak to because of this. if it hadnt been for my aunt and uncle taking all of us kids then we would have went into the foster care system..and you know what sometimes i think we would have been better off because everyday of our life we had to hear that we were going to be sorry pieces of trash like our mom and dad. so dont sit here and tell me its 2006 get over it people cheat and theres nothing wrong with it and noone gets hurt and poor me look what ive done c___p because it does happen yes and it does wreck families and the KIDS are the ones who pay the price not you not him and not his wife. the kids have to live with it everyday of their lives. you have no idea what it is like to grow up in a broken home evidently or you would never have done this to someone else. i am not here to judge you because it isnt going to do any good..i am here telling my story hoping that you see what really does happen when a family is broken.

i never understood why us females get all the name homewrecker but we didnt crawl on top of ourselfs and get pregnant alone ....he 2 is a fault just as much as us...but the wifes always take it out on us and not there men ...that is why they do what they do...

First of all my daughter is not a BASTEREd.. If any one is its you for even talking about an innocent little baby like that.. People like you dont deserve to have kids.. You are nothing but a waste of my time on here why dont you go find soemthign better to do with your life... Second of all I believe everything happens for a reason and there was a reason GOD wanted me to have my little angel and that is what she is she is a sweet little angel... You are very rude and have no cla__s or respect or morals to even talk about a baby like that.. so you know what i have nothing more to say to you nor do i care what you have to say...

i agree with mommy 100%. i think the reason you ladies havent found a nice man to take care of you and love you, is because you have no respect for yourselves. if a man knows that you will sleep with them and they are married, then they know you are completly a " booty call". if you turn him down, men will start to respect you. sometimes you just have to say no. and i really hope you ladies take care of the dirty mouths on this thread before your little ones hear it.