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Ok. I know no one has posted here in several months so I hope someone will see this. My boyfriend just told me he cheated on me and she is pregnant and keeping the baby. I don't know what to do, we've been together for five years and we were planning to get married. To those who have gone through this from the wife's perspective please e-mail me directly as I really would like to know how you got through it: fille_de_coeur@yahoo.com Thank you in advance!

did you make sure it isn't Katy? LOL

Hi Ladies, perhaps you can help. I am a soldier who's wife had an affair while I was away on military duties. She became pregnant. We are trying to work things out, and I have told her that I will love the baby. Question: Should the SOB (Next door neighbor) pay child support, and do you think that would give him any rights to contact the baby in later years??

BlueJayed, I think the situation is much more complicated than you may think it is. My boyfriend had an affair and the girl is pregnant and there are a lot of problems I had not thought of. But, I can try to give you some insight into the rights/responsibilities of the Bio-dad (aka SOB). First, since he is the bio-dad, he can request a DNA test from the court and get visitation set immediately or in 10 years or whenever he wants to. If you don't want him in your life, then don't file for child support. If you file for CS then it is much more likely he will want to see the kid. However, CS or no CS, the kid is his and he can demand visitation and there is nothing you can do about it. If you want we can discuss this further off-forum. I've learned quite a bit in reading about this. e-mail me at fille_de_coeur@yahoo.com if you want to talk.

do neither. the only reason that you are not hurting his family is because they dont know.I may be younger than you but i do think that being in an affair with a married man never works out like you are telling me.End it it is better for all involved dont lie about the paternity that is not fair to the child either but at the same time you are not telling the world your buiness so i dont think it would matter about paternity.

Keep the baby, Katy, do something right for yourself. This may be the best thing in your life. He will have to deal.

You realize this posted was started in October of 2004? I'm sure whatever is done is done so why keep posting?

Dont go get an abortion if you dont want to. Even though it was wrong to be the other woman, and you will probably ruin his life,his wife will HOPEFULLY up and leave him and take their children away, he may end up having to pay child support and wont be around to help you or even want to see you or be with you or really could careless about you and your child. The choice is YOURS. Your baby deserves the opprotunity to know who his birth father is.

PEOPLE THIS POST IS FROM 2004!!! WE ARE 2006..STOP WRITING TO THIS PERSON SHE PROBABLY DOESNT EVEN READ IT ANYMORE OR REMEMBER ABOUT IT..GET OVER IT!!!!

i know how u feel a little bit im 29 and pregnant by a married man he is happy about the baby tho our relationship started a few years ago and its a little differant from yours but i wish u luck but no matter what he says keep ur baby

go with your heart if you want this baby have it even if it means you dont see this bloke again if you dont want it get rid .. it is totally your desicion though you need a good long hard think about it