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Ok please hold with me and I will try to get as much in as possible in as short as possible.
We met properley around 18 months ago when I split from my ex. I have a 2 & 1/2 yr old boy who was only 15 months at the time.
We hit it off and there were instant sparks, there is an age gap but it was never noticeable to us, me 32 her 20 I was good friends with her parents for months before but had never met her.
Things were amazing but we ended up moving in as she had to get out of her apartment and it seemed logical as she was round all day everyday anyway, she adored my son and I was the happiest I had ever been in my life.
My ex started to cause problems locally and stress mounted up, we stopped going out and cut ourselves off from everyone as anything we did was twisted and thrown at us in court. It has been a horrendous year fighting for the little one who through no encouragement started calling her mummy and her parents grandma and grandad and her bro and sis aunt and uncle etc etc.
We had been together about 6 months when she said I was the only one for her and she wanted the three of us to be family and even add to it and get engaged, I was happy but apprehensive at the same time, she had her coil removed and we started trying for a baby. I knew/know she is the only one for me and was thrilled at the thought of us being a family and spending my life with her.
We moved out of the way 6 months in to try stop some of the troubles, this caused more problems as we both ended up isolated and unhappy we split and got back together a hand ful of times, at one point in temper she said she only stayed because of the court battle and my son but when we made up said she was just angry and wanted to hurt me. I am no saint and also said things I should not of.
Just before the last court case (few months ago) we had split bust she came back few days before, I asked if she was sure it was what she wanted and that she should say because i wanted to give the court a true picture of what was going on regarding living circ_mstances for my little one to stop it from being dragged back there. I told her it would not matter one way or another but She needed to be sure, she said that it definitely was but we agreed to move back closer to her parents and we were going to take a step back, she would live with them and spend some days and some nights with us and do the bit of the relationship that we ended missing due to circ_mstances. Unfortunately court did not go our way and we also lost our rented property due to things, we moved in with her parents temporarily about 6 weeks ago until we could find out what was happening with my son etc ( if his mum would move away or stay in the area).
She is very close to her mum and dad and she struggles being away from them (part of the problem when we had moved away).
Four weeks ago we found out she was pregnant, she told me she was happy and exited about it we told our parents and things seemed to be looking up. I proposed to her in a local restaurant on our one year anniversary 3-4 weeks ago. I did not get the words out and she screamed yes yes yes and was crying and jumping up and down, I felt so happy things felt like a fairy tale.
The following week her parents were away for 3-4 days but not to far and we had had a silly row but with nothing really been said on the night time, the next day we were meant to be going out, she got up and came downstairs and things seemed ok at first but then she snapped at me for something and said what time you going to the shops ( the idea was to get some bits for her) and few bits we both wanted. I said I was not going to ( felt really deflated about our row and seemed pointless seems we would have to go another day to get her stuff anyway) Next minute she exploded saying I had to get out the house and not come back until the night time she wanted some space I said I would go but wanted to know what was up first as it seemed like something was bothering her this made things worse so I just went out, I came back on the night and things were a bit funny at first but then seemed to go ok, we went to bed and things seemed ok again.
I had some money come in few days later and she said she wanted to get a caravan near her mum and dads as we were not going on the holiday we had planned the money for because she was pregnant. I thought this was a good idea as we loved it down there last year. So that's what we did, we bought it set it up and things seemed perfect again.
Her mum and dad left for Spain about 10 days ago, we headed down to the caravan after a couple of days for the weekend joined by her siblings and their partners... Awesome weekend laughing joking messing in the swimimng pool, at one point she swam across the pool wrapped her legs round me kissed me out the blue and said I love you so much mr. P. later whilst we were all BBQing she came over again another affectionate kiss and I love you so much, things seem pretty perfect right?
We were meant to be spending a week at my parents as all my family are there this week. We were sitting packing etc and she was saying she was really excited (Tuesday last week) she started getting really snappy and I could not understand why, I asked her what was bothering her and she started having a go at me saying she had so much cleaning to do I should take the little one out while she did it, trying to think of her I said no I will help, she then completely flipped out and told me to get out, I told her she was being unfair not just on me but on the little one also, I said I was not going to go out until she at least spoke to me about what the h__l was going on (prob not the best move I know) she said fine she was going and picked up a bag, we had a huge row and she walked out, during the row she said we had not slept together in a month because every time I touch her, even just her hand ( although she is always grabbing my hand) it makes her skin crawl she does not and can not look at me like that anymore. She got really nasty and said a load of things that I don't know if she said to hurt or means them, she said she cried when we got engaged cause she felt like she was throwing her life away and she just did it cause she wanted security and did not want to be branded as a young single girl who got pregnant with nobody standing by her. She said cuddling me, holding my hand, kissing me and telling me she loved me at the weekend was just because that's what you do when you're with someone.
She said at first she did not want to see or hear from me but discussed us having shared care of the baby but then got really angry on the phone again, I did not contact her and switched my phone off for she day to resist temptation, we ended up talking yesterday on the phone, she was being calm then out nowhere just started screaming down the phone, she sai why are you calling me stop contacting me and slammed the phone down. I text her just saying unsure why you were chatting fine and then all of a sudden got annoyed, take are of yourself please and contact me when you are happy to discuss the baby and appointments etc.
She text today saying I have taken some money from the joint account but will replace tomorrow, I have not replied, i am devastated confused living out of a caravan with my 2 and half your old, I love her so much and just want us to be together as a family and certainly don't want our child coming into the world in a broken home.
Her parents are back on Tuesday and they know as she called and told them on tuesday, her dad called to see if I was ok and said to go round Tuesday next week when they are back so we could all sit down and sort it out but she has told me not to.
Could this be her hormones mixed with Ill timed row, I don't want to stop fighting for her but don't want to anger her or stress her out knowing how had she is finding being pregnant anyway. Sorry for the novel I don't know where to turn or what to do or what to do now, she has being going out until 2, 3 in the morning the last few days are posting it on her wall which is unlike her, i know she is not drinking but am worried about the toll it is taking on her body. All I want is to look after her and our baby, stand by them and us be a family.
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