Problem With Baby S Father
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I am 26 years old and 18 weeks along. My ex and I have been on and off since a week after we got together (boyfriend T). I broke up with him for being clingy and overly sensitive. I found out I was pregnant and assumed it was the child of an abusive ex bf (boyfriend H) I dated before we met. So I left the state to get some help from my family. When I found out it was boyfriend T's baby I told him and now he wants to be in the baby's life. I thought I would give our relationship another try for the sake of the baby but after a few weeks of talking on the phone I hear the same old clingy and sensitive guy. He has been hanging the fact that he was suicidal after I left , over my head constantly. I just don't think I could deal with him being my boyfriend again. My question is, now that I have started a semi relationship up again, how do I tell him to back off of me while still being in baby's life AND without sending him into a deep depression again.
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Woah...... ok if he is TELLING you he is suicidal then chances are he isnt. My brother was suicidal for nearly 2 years and not ONCE did he ever say he was suicidal or admitted that he tried to kill himself, he was alway "just messing around".... so dont put too much pressure on yourself over the whole depression thing. You need to worry about you and baby and being in a relationship you are unhappy with will only stress you out and stressed mumma means stressed baby and we dont want that!!!! Tell him you want him in the babys life as its father but that you dont want him as your partner. He will obviously always have a special polace in your heart being your babys father - and tell him that. But im sure he knows it wont work in the long run - this "suicidal" stuff is his way of trying to manipulate you into not leaving a relationship that even he knows wont last. Do whats best for you and baby - everthing else comes second. Good luck with it all.
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