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just tell him and say that if he doesn´t want this baby he isn´t going to be never a good father! the truth is always the best!

I found out i was pregnant on new years eve even though i had been using contraceptive pills. I told my boyfriend 3 days later and he went beserk. He told me that there was no way either of us could look after a child even though we both have good jobs and supportive families. I was so upset that i agreed to an abortion even though it felt morally wrong for me to do that. I was so upset that i thought about jumping under a train on my way to work. I told my boyf that i couldn't go through with it but he said i had to and that there was no other choice. So i gave in and we booked the abortion but i ended up running away just before the due day because i knew if i let him force me into it i would regret it. He was really angry when he found out i wasnt going thru with it and told me he would never see or speak to me ever again. However i told my mum and she said i made the right decision and stuck by me. My boyfriend eventually phoned me and came to see me and is now resigned to the pregnancy, he even came to my 12 week scan and was bowled over when he saw his baby on the screen. Now im 16 weeks pregnant and im really glad i didnt listen to his threats even though we are no longer a couple, im going to have a baby and that will bring a lot of joy into both of our lives im sure. So be strong and stick up for what you believe in and i think things will work out ok in the end. It has for me.

WHITNEY...I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD JUST KEEP THE BABY EVEN IF YOUR BOYFRIEND DOESNT WANT IT! REMEMBER THAT YOUR BABY IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO YOU RIGHT NOW AND THAT YOU SHOULDENT DO SOMETHING THAT U KNOW IS WRONG JUST BECAUSE SOMEBODY ELSE TELLS U TO DO IT!! I THINK U SHOULD TALK TO YOUR BOYFRIEND AND TELL HIM THAT HE NEEDS TO STEP UP TP THE PLATE AND BE A REAL MAN! TELL HIM THAT U DIDNT CHOOSE FOR THIS TO HAPPEN. THAT THE BOTH OF YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE AND THAT HE NEEDS TO HELP YOU GET OUT OF IT THE RIGHT WAY!! GOOD LUCK!!!

you should play the game sheraides and do im pregnant and tell him how you feel and about your past.

well.. i know what you mean and i would just tell him because if he doesent want the baby then that's his dicien you know? it's up to you, you have a chose too. so i would tell him and see what he thinks k

Well sweetheart, the thing is that I was pregnant a few months ago and was going through what you went through. I am also 18 and my fiance was and is not ready in his mind to have a child. So in consequence I ended up having an abortion. I feel that my abortion was the biggest and most terrible mistake of my life; so I am glad to hear that you are not considering that option. As it turns out, I am pregant again, dispite my efforts of using birth control. I feel it is a second chance for me to do things right. I am being very clear with my fiance that I will not have another abortion. To be honest I had no problem telling my close friends and family that I was going to have a baby. But my fiance was a completely different story. I was terrified to be honest, because like you , i had made it up in my mind that I was not going to give up my child. Basically the way I told him was that I dropped little hints here and there to kind of mentally prepare him for the news so that it would not be a total shock to him when I told him. And when I finially told him about three weeks after finding out myself I laid it down and told him the situation, I told him that it takes two.... and that I would not give up my child. I carefully explained my reasoning...and in your case I think you should stress what you said about not growing up with a father. Make him feel just a little guitly. I garuntee you that he will not be so happy about it. But if you can keep him there throughout the pregnancy I can promise you that when he sees that baby of yours for himself he will grow up so fast. I wish you good luck...and please make sure that you get all the prenatal care that your baby deserves. Even if you have to raise this baby on your own, it is a blessing and you should let yourself feel happy. plain and simple don't stress cause it really isn't good for the baby.

I know how you are feeling I grow up with out a dad,i'm pregnat and don't want a abortion or giving my baby up for adoption.if you don't want a abortion don't get one. If your boy is really worth it he won't ask you to get a abortion and he will support you. Whitney only you know what is right for you and no one else. Hold your ground and stand firm and tell him what you want. thats what I had to do stand my ground and till my boy friend and to my surprise he supports me.

i also want my baby to know its dad i do not want my baby to grow up like i have not knowing its dad.whitney till your boyfriend maybe he will suport you

do what you have to do tell him you would like for it to work but if he want you to give the ay up then the hell with him

i think you should tell him that you really want to stay with him but he needs a farther and thats you and you need to be there for him/her and just tell him from your heart how you feel about having this baby.

its your body and your child growing inside you.. its your right to do what you want and if he doesnt respect that give him the boot

Whitney you go with how you feel.You didnt get pregnant by yourself so he need to just accept that hes going to be a dad and do the best he can for the both of you.

how do these posts get bumped up? this was originally posted over a YEAR ago...

everytime someone makes a comment or posts a reply the topic gets bumped up.

just tell him that you are pregant and let him know that you really love him and you want him to be there with you and the baby if he can't man up and take care of his responsibilities then you don't need any one in your life like that but maybe he'll come around one day just pray for the best and not the worst

I don't really know if you can do this without losing your boyfriend, but the question is, can you do this without your boyfriend? I understand you don't want your baby to grow up without a dad, he/she shouldn't have to. As for the question of whether to have the baby, you already made up your mind, don't go back, you can do it, there is a lot of help out there. If he wants to miss out on it, that is his loss. Some day he will realize, when he grows up, that he could have been a part of something special. If he wants to be a part of thta baby's life, then i congratulate him,( if he takes care of him/her) for being part of a miracle.