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these sorts of posts just irritate me...(although i think i'm irritated by everything lately! haha) the fact is, this is a pregnancy forum and most of the women on here are seeking advice, comfort and support. lectures like this one don't do much except make people feel bad. we should be supporting eachother here. if you feel so strongly about condoms and their efficacy, promote their use on a birth control board. many of the girls (and they are girls) who frequent this board with questions and seeking advice are young, pregnant, uneducated and scared. they are looking online for support because they are scared to face their parents, boyfriends, whoever. do you really need to give them the same lecture that they're already avoiding? how about some support here. pregnancy is scary. mistakes happen. i hate these soapbox tirades.

Amen Ella!!!

Thank you ella you totaly hit that right ont he nose!!!!!!!!!!!

You are so correct. I have never understood why it bothers some people so much what other people do and say especially when it has nothing to do with them. She states "why dont some of you start taking responsibility for your actions" and I dont think they would be here wanting advise if they were atleast attempting to be responsible.

I agree the condom excuse is old, but it's not always an excuse. That does happen as many have posted. However if you are already pregnant it doesn't matter how you got to that point. All that matters is that for some reason these men or boys don't want to step up to the plate and take their part of the responsibility . If you are a lady continuing your pregnancy then I feel you are taking responsibility for your actions...by bringing a life into the world that you are soley responsible for.

I think a lot of you are missing the point I was trying to make. I agree that whats done is done and that taking care of your child is taking care of your responsibilities, that's not what I'm saying. Yes I agree that women come here for support, but that's not always going to happen and when it doesn't, when someone responds and that poster doesn't like it, she is quick to either change her story or to blame the father or the condom. You can support a women but you can also be honest with her as well, meaning if a women comes on here and says I sleeped with a married man and now I'm pregnant, I can't justify telling her "oh poor thing it will be ok" No, what I want to tell her is "ok you got yourself in a situation lets work on that and once we figure everything out then lets look at the other issues and whats going on to make you treat yourself the way you do. If a women is getting pregnant by a married man or if a women is getting pregnant by a man who is worthless, then she needs to look at herself and figure out why she allows herself to be treated the way she is. If she doesn't then the likelihood of the situation repeating itself will only continue, then what do we have, single mothers raising kids by how many different fathers. I don't think that's a positive thing for a child. Please don't get me wrong I'm not saying that this happens in all situation, I just feel that as women we need to support each other but we also need to be honest with each other without attacking each other.