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You have read where I have said that people like Nicole/wannabemommy and Cheryl/bctraveler seem to be trolling for kids. No matter what the situation EVEN when it clearly states the person is not interested in adoption, you are almost certain to see a post from one or both of these people. Which one are you?

Most of us don't dislike adoption but your methods leave much to be desired. All we are saying is lighten up and show a little CLASS.

I decided to break this up so I could address all of your points. Maybe we won't pitch in the whole $30,000 but the adoption tax credit does offer some ( I know it's small, maybe a 1/2 of that) relief. To recap using your figure of 20,000 to adopt domestically minus up to $10,000 dollars in tax credits equals about $10,000 you would have to foot on your own. For some one who is uninsured, $10,000 is about how much they would pay to have child. This doesn't include money spent on maternity clothes, missed days of work due to pregnancy related illness, unpaid maternity leave, prenatal vitamins etc.

I also know that it is possible to adopt domestically for around 10,000 or less especially if you go through foster care, but you want a brand spanking new white baby I bet. Those are extremely rare, but there are many children who have special needs that are more than ready to be adopted. I am sure I don't have to tell you that special needs does not apple to children who have mental or physical disablities. It also applies to non white children. So if you really want children, you would be exploring all of your options.

I am sure I don't have to tell you that special needs does not ONLY apply to children who have mental or physical disablities.

The "God giveth" quote is out of pure spite, and maybe you should talk to some one about your issues of bitterness. It's not healthy and certainly wouldn't endear anyone who was really considering giving their child up for adoption to pick you. It only confirms what some of us have intuitively felt about your other posts, that is you care nothing for the mother to be, your only interest is in the child she is going to have. We are reading that loud and a clear, and IT IS THE ONLY PROBLEM WE HAVE WITH ADOPTION POSTS.

Well said whoever broke it down part by part. I have three kids and so i suppose Im the one you are talking about. Do you think that having a child is the ONLY blessing in life. Some people find blessings in other things and in doing things for others. There are some who are great foster mothers and see giving love to others as being part of their blessings.The treatments that you have been on cost money..so you have spend money that you could have spent on adopting a child. Like I said over and over ....I can see where adoption is a good thing but yall be jumping ALL over the young girls that come on here for help and thats straight vile.

I am sorry about your situation but this is a support system for mother's to be - not for adopting babies.

I dont know who the ladies are your referring to but I am neither.I have never posted on this forum but this time. There is an adoption tax credit and if you go to the IRS site and check it out its not a exact refund ,it's merely a credit ,you dont get all that money back. And as for the state ,yes thats where I had my homestudy approved.And in this time they lost our folder 3 times,changed our caseworker 4 times and im not exactly sure how many times they changed supervisors and by this time was done we had to redo our paper work due to their negligence.No I dont just want a spanking new white baby ,as I am not white myself.And we agreed to take sibling groups ,special needs and older children.Finally we found a little girl with a feeding tube ,we wanted her but by the time our caseworker sent our file ,the pool for prospective parents was full.Then once again we tried for a school age child and she seemed to have alot of emotional problem so the supervisor called us about her .10 minutes after we agreed to take her ,they called back and had been mistaken she was already placed.So telling us to explore all our options is rediculous.We already have. And no the god giveth quote wasnt for spite it was merely saying just because your blessed doesnt mean kick someone who isnt.And god does giveth and can take away ,if you ever carried a baby and then watched it die before it was even time for it to be born you would understand this.If I had kids I would deffinately not be telling people who were trying to adopt mean things.I think thats whats truely unhealthy. And as for my "other post" this would be the second. I do care about the birthmothers,the birthmother of the child I am in the process of adopting has become one of my best friends. No children arent the only blessing in life but they are one of the greatest.I have fostered children and they were taken away of course and reunited with their family.And as far as helping people, you dont know me and would be surprised at who I am and just how much I do help other people.

If you are neither of those people and have not been here long. You have jumped to conclusions about us being "adoption haters" . You should probably look around here a bit more before presuming to know what is going on.

most of you all have children and you think that we are so bad for wanting to give a teenage girl an option? why? i mean it isnt our fault taht we arent able to have our own children and we want to! i mean our clocks are all ticking away while there are people out there that are having children and dont know what they want to do with them! so yes, when they say something about not wanting to take care of the child, or not knowing what to do with it, we all jump at the thought of possibly being able to take it in! we arent predators! we are just women wanting to have a baby and are unable to! is that so bad??? wanting to give a child a home and love is bad??? then shoot me dead right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree with you walk a mile. I am very lucky I was blessed to have 3 children. I believe people who adopt are incredibly caring an I also believe there is absolutely nothing wrong w/adoption if only more people had that big of a heart to take in these poor children that do not have anything.

Look to the left. There is NOTHING about adoption on this site. I mean it says a lot that women that want to adopt come here. They dont post on any other thread but for this one. They dont post on the 3rd trimester or any other one ..they post predominantly on single and pregnant..what does that say about the intentions?

To those looking to adopt...have any of you looked into foster care? I am not trying to be rude, but I think that there are so many foster parents who are horrible, who have taken to locking their "kids" in cages....we need more good foster parents, and I know that occasionaly you are given the option to adopt.

Stop wasting your keystrokes. These people obviously can't read or are too lazy. They WANT to see us as "adoption haters" it plays into their "oh boo hoo I 'm a victim" image. No matter how many times we say we aren't against adoption, but disgusted by those who seem to be trolling the board for children. They just can't seem to get it.