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Did anybody not really realize that they didn't want to be with the guy after they had their baby? i don't know if it's a postpartum thing but i keep thinking i can't raise a child with this guy! In the past he's cheated on me ( but didn't go all the way),lied about important stuff,kept things from me and for some reason i stayed because i was stupid enough to but now i think i have developed a more mature perspective on getting into a relationship. I even gave him the government papers to fill out and last month he said they were done and i ask again and say i'm going to find out this month anyway and then he tells me he didn't do everything! He's also told me we're moving in togethor one month and i mentioned it a couple times since, he didn't say anything and not until the end of right before we're supposed to he says no,that he can't afford it. Then at 6 months pregnant he doesn't tell me that he lost his job, well he told me that he was " off for awhile".His mom ended up mentioning it,figuring i knew. Then he got a new one but right before i had the baby apparently he quit that one to and didn't tell me, when he was allowed to stay with me at the hospital i kind of assume though. So when i first found out i was pregnant ( i wasn't working) i said i'd try hard to find a new job but he said no,he didn't want me to be stressed and pregnant and that everything would be ok. So i didnt! Well now i had the baby 2 months ago and i'm ending up living with my parents because of the money situation and i can't keep doing this to them.He hasn't even gotten a new job yet. He also isn't paying child support and i am angry at him everyday and i keep mentioning stuff about getting back to work.he says " he can't get a job when he's depressed because i'm mad at him". He says he's broke. Even though for 8 months he knew i was pregnant. He claims that he just spent all his money when i ask what happened. He's been living with his mom for 5 months now,3 in which he had a job!!i'm tired of fighting about it. I'm paying for everything for her and i'm not even working. How are you supposed to be with someone you can't even trust?I'm protective of my new daughter and if he's not going to tell me something as big as losing his jobs or government stuff,who knows what he won't tell me when he's taking care of her. I was so looking forward to getting to be with my daughter for the first year but i just don't even want to be with him anymore and the only job i can think of where i'll be able to spend time with her is babysitting but i don't know if i'd make enough doing it. Why do so many of us fall for the bad guys? anyway thanks for reading!! Any posts for advice or similar experiences are appreciated :)