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I think you should tell both guys they might be the father.If they both want to be in the room then it may be a good idea so whoever IS the father wont miss out on it. What ever you do DONT tell either one they are the father because it will b__w up on you later.Its better to be open about it then to lie. Who ever you are comfortable with having in the room. I had alot of people in the room when my daughter was born.

i think that i would be honest and tell both men that they could be the fathers. if you lie it will catch up with you in the end. it could be either mans so the best thing is to be honest and tell the b/f that you slept with someone else and that theres a chance that he may not be the father, but that theres a chance that he could be. and leave it up to them what they want to do about it.

I dont think I could be confident in the dates either. They are way to close for comfort. I do agree with your obgyn though, the earliest u/s is usually the most accurate, because of the growth spurts babies take during the time they sit waiting to enter the world. If I were in your position and didnt know, I would choose a close friend or a relative to come in the room with me, and then after the baby is born and u are able to do a paternity test , do it. That adds less stress for you right now.. while the baby depends on your body to stay calm and cool. Good luck with your decision, youve got a big one to make. Im sure whatever decision you make will be the best one. Keep your chin up!

i know this forum is old but i'm now 35 weeks & really scared. I thought I was fertile March 9-13...but my 6 week ultrasound said I was fertile from March 5-8..hmm...?!

I would go with my heart instinct and who I HONESTLY think the father is first of all, and keep him in the room. Two people who could possibly be the father in the room would be too much drama and too much stress on you. Besides, you don't want a whole lot of people in your birth room when you are going into labor or having contractions, and neither will the doctor. Worry about how hard/easy your labor will be, and how much support you need throughout that. Then take that next step, get a paternity test just to be safe and so you definately know, and let it be that. Don't stress about it and let it get to you. I know this has been on your mind a lot throughout your pregnancy (cos of your posts lol). But just remember that you need to worry about YOU and your BABY first. And who knows, you might not even want anybody in that room once you go into labor. Anyways, I hope you get through this and good luck! :) <3

As you see from the dates they are only one day apart, March 8-9th!! So it is no use in guessing who the father is. Did you tell both of them already that they could potentially be fathers...?

Yeah, I told my ex, Alan. He's been in and out of my life throughout the entire 9 months. He has his own issues but says he wants to be involved and care for the child, if Carter is his. Dylan, (March 16th). Says if the baby is his he will pay child support, and that is that. I barley know him. I feel so ishy about putting myself in this kind of situation, and it was totally out of context for my personality. I had my DNA and Alan's DNA (because the chances that it's his are higher, and because Dylan REFUSED) taken, and then the baby's DNA will be taken from the cord blood...and I should find out if Alan is the father by the time Carter is two weeks old. I'm scared, but me & Alan both know there is a chance that Carter might not be his. I just don't know how to forgive myself, too.

pink-i too think that the ex has a better chance of being the father. if you were already pregnant from what i hear the morning after pill doesnt work if you are already pregnant.but who knows sometimes things happen that you cant explain. but the 2nd guy used 2 condoms and it was after your fertile period so i th ink that it is a slim chance that it is his. let us know what happens. good luck

well - i must say my EX is a JERK!!!!! Anyone else have a jerk for an ex? (either recently, or before DH )

whats happened hun? this may be irralavent but did you cheat on your bf with the other guy? Personaly i ould ONLY have the person I felt comfortable in the room for the birth, if i didnt feel comfy with my dh in the room then ild tell him to leave. its your choice. I also think its your exs baby

yes, i did cheat. i feel sooo horrible! he was the "love" of my life, and we were together 24/7 and he took on my daughter as his own. that happend back in march and i'm STILL depressed, and VERY angry at myself for doing that. I cannot belive I let a little "too" many drinks ruin something so wonderful. After that, my ex turned into a jerk to me...which I guess I don't blame him. I probably do deserve all the c___p i've gotten. *sigh* I guess I just don't know how to forgive MYSELF for doing something so stupid. Kyes- do you have myspace.com by chance?

Why don't you just tell your favorite guy, the one you like most and that will most likely stick around, that he's the father? I bet it is your boyfriend anyway, cause that was your fertile period, and the 1st u/s is probably the most accurate cause they go by how big the baby is. It might be a little smaller later, but I doubt it would be bigger than it should be so early on. I would bet you anything that the 1st u/s is the most accurate.

ok thanks. no, both potential fathers are jerks.

i would not tell him when i delivered and just have a family member and act like it all happen to fast and call him right after the baby is born when u know what your dealing with and what your going to do

innocent - thats what i think i'm going to be doing. I'm only having my grandmother there. :) xxxx