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Maybe it's pregnancy hormones, but I want to go find him and just hit him for you! I don't know if everything will work out between you, personally I would have a hard time respecting a man who wanted me to have an abortion to be with him. I got pregnant when I was 22, and I have a beautiful 3 year old daughter. You're going to be so happy with your baby, even if things don't work out with the baby's father. Good luck.

It definitely could be just the initial shock of finding out your pregnant. That sends a lot of guys into a panic. I can't say for sure whether he'll come around or not, but I'd give it a little time, and I'm sure you'll find out. He'll have 9 months to get used to the idea of having a baby, by then, he probably will come around. At least with wanting to see his baby. As for you two being together, I don't know what will happen there, but I don't know as if I'd want to be with a guy who'd make me chose between staying with him or killing my child. That's just not right. Anyway, just give it a little more time, if he doesn't end up coming back around, then you don't need him anyways. That's just another jerk filtered out of your life. Good ridence.

Well, in my experience it was a little different. My BF was shocked, scared and at the same time a bit happy at first. He did ask if I would have an abortion but I told him it was out of the question and he was ok with that. He came to the first ultrasound and I think the reality of it hit him then. For the next few months I heard very little from him. I am now 38 weeks pregnant and he just came around and told me that he loves me (we never said that before). Point being, you never can tell what is going on in a man's head. They tend to bottle up their emotions on things so life altering. I think it is harder for them too if they aren't around because they aren't going through the pregnancy or even seeing what you are going through. There is always a chance that he will come around and realize that he is just as responsible for this pregnancy as you are but then again there is a chance that he will remain an immature jerk who will shirk the responsibility. Either way your baby is what is important now. Best of luck to you!

could you tell more about your situation? I'm in a somewhat similar situation and i wonder if it'll work out. How many months did you hear very little from him and when you did how often was it? How long were you together? what did he do while you were broken up? what does he say now? sorry for all the questions, i'm just wondering how things worked out. thank you.

I dont think he will come around until you force him to a doctors apointment and let him hear the babys heartbeat or to an ultrasound apointment.Once he sees that baby, if he still deines you then hes not worth it.My boyfriend didnt want nothing to do with my baby until i took him to an apointment and let him hear the hearbeat then he suddenly wanted to show up at the ultrasound apointment to see what we were having.We are now happy.Good Luck

My sons father freaked out when I first told him. We had been together six years and were talking about marriage. As soon as I told him I was keeping the baby he broke up with me and even moved out of state. We never got back together because I was so devestated by what he did but he is a good father to our 4yr old son. He moved back by us when he was two weeks old.

Well my man never told me to have an abortion. He didn't want me to have an abortion. I even made the abortion appointment on his request but he never showed up.I couldn't go through with it without him. Riggghhhttt. I would say if he was pressuring you from the beginning that that isn't really good.