Difficult Decision Waiting To Be Made Help Please
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So long story short.....I am pregnant. Because I have irregular periods, how far I am is still undetermined. I should hear back from the doctor tomorrow. I could be anywhere form 9weeks to 2 1/2 weeks. I have finally told my mom and she is supportive but has her limits. I am a sophomore in college about 5 hours away from home and my bf is at school at home. Because I am adopted I was deeply considering adoption for my unborn, because I am TOO young to be a mother and I can not provide for a child what i really would want to at my age. The thing is my parents refuse to allow me to stay at home while pregnant though they will take care of me and be supportive they have said i will have to drop out of school next semester, move home, get a job, all too much for someone my age with no college degree. I know with that info they are hinting that abortion is the right decision but my heart is so not completely for it. I just know that even if I carry the pregnancy out in hopes of adoption I can not care for myself during that period of time. PLEASE ADVICE.
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What am I missing? Stay at college, deliver the baby during summer break, go through with the adoption, and return to school in September. Your college friends will applaud your decision, some lucky couple will be ecstatic that they did not have to go to Asia to adopt, and you will get on with your life uninterrupted! Best of luck! Read up on ways to avoid attaching to the baby so that the adoption separation is not a problem.
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Barberla - I know this is a stressful time for you. Being pregnant in college is not easy. But, I am glad to hear that you are not listening to your parents about an abortion. That is something that once done, you can never take back. Adoption really is an option for you. You can pick the family to adoption your child, receive letters and pictures after the child is born, and have the option to meet the child when he/she turns 18 (if the child chooses). I'm sure you understand with being adopted yourself, what a gift it is to couples who cannot conceive a child on their own. Also, please know that if you are matched with a family, they CAN help with your medical and living expenses so that you don't have to rely on your parents. I don't know what state you are in, but as an adoption attorney, I am more than willing to answer your questions about adoption. You can email me privately if you wish and I can help point you in the right direction to get help. Best wishes to you.
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Barberla- My husband and I are wanting to adopt. We would love to have a 3rd child in our family. If you would like to know more about our family please email me sbaredfearn(at)yahoo(dot)com
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My husband & I would love to adopt another child...We have been blessed with an adopted son who is about to turn 1 and I am sure he would love a brother/sister(s). I am a stay at home mother, we live in VA, we are Caucasian (if that matters)...I am 28 & my husband 32. We have a wonderful family life & plenty of room to expand our family more. If anyone is choosing adoption for their child & would be interested in us as the adoptive parents, we would be more than thrilled tp hear from you. You can email us at jadecoleman42 at yahoo . com
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I see that your post is from November, I just came across it today (hope it's not too late). My husband and I would also love to adopt a child (our first), we live in Illinois, completed home study and the licensing needed to adopt. We signed up with Chicago Catholic Charities to a__sist us with adoption. They have our profile and info. If you want to, you can email me at janapalenik at yahoo dot com. Hope to hear from you. God bless and good luck.
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What happened Barberla? I would say go with adoption. Abortion is NEVER an option in my mind.
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