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Me first like always hehe :) There are a million and one things I have come to appreciate that my mother did for me. But the one thing I'll try to remember, not necessarily something she did but something a lot of parents do, is what it's like to be their age. I look back on myself, and how I used to be, and yeah I'm embarra__sed by a lot of the things I did. I was really, really stupid and if I see someone younger than me making the same mistakes I often respond with anger, frustration and disgust. If my daughter ever does, or shows signs of doing some of the freaking idiotic things that I did... I will try my best to ignore my natural response, remember what it was like to be in her position and respond in a manner that I would have wanted someone to respond to me. I hope if I follow through with that, it will be the best way for her to realize what she's doing and stop it. I want her to know that I was once young and dumb too. Try to relate to her instead of immediately grounding her for life. Because I sure know getting grounded never stopped me haha. Some things I'll do the same.... There are probably a lot of things, not anything specific. I think my mom is a wonderful mother and I wouldn't mind doing many things the way she did.

The first thing that comes to mind is how I turned out-anxious, fearful, had a lot of emotional struggles. I know a lot of that uptightness came from living in fear growing up. It was like we were whooped but never knew for sure what we could get whooped for. For example, one day we would get whooped for saying "Yeah." So because we wanted desperately to be good we would say "Yes," the next time but we got whooped for sounded sarcastic! That led to a lot of fear and feelings like we never knew if we could breathe because we'd get into a lot of trouble. I don't ever want my son to feel that way. I work on that everyday-consistency, and trying to understand that, yeah sometimes I can't expect him to be perfect and he shouldn't get in trouble for some things because it might be me misunderstanding a messed up effort by him to do something nice. The more I've done that, the more I see his actions play out to be him trying to please me and sometimes making a mistake. Like how he constantly picks up and drops my drinks. I can't be mad because he's trying to be nice and bring me my drink before just enjoying his drink! On the other side of the spectrum was my dad who did such a great job of being an understanding parent and being loving without having to say it constantly or be all mushy! I hope to carry that on, especially since I'm sometimes worried about the limits to my understanding of having a boy.

yay!! Umm well my parents didnt do anything right so i cant really comment on this...haha!...But i can say that everything that my parents put me through (mostly my mother cause my father was never really in my life after the age of 8) taught me how to be a parent now.I am very strict with myself with not being like anyone in my family, and it has worked out great so far. I am more successful and more well rounded then anyone in my family so i have have no problems with the way i was raised.....I can say though there are a few traditions that my parents raised me on which i still go by...One is the kids open one present on x-mas eve and you always know what it is, it is always you x mas PJs...my husband thinks it is dumb, but i remember always being excited for it. pretty much everything i do is opisit of how my mother treated us. my mother never showed affection towards us. the only time she told us she loved us was in bday cards. The first time i can remember her hugging me was when i had my miscarriage when i was 17, and now that I am older and dont feel so awkward, i always give her a hug when i see her...I realy despise my mother but i always try to be good to her because she is my mother, and honestly when she is on her death bed, i want her to think wow my daughter never did anything to me, why have i treated her so bad...i know that sounds cold, and i dont wish death on anyone especially my mom, but i dont want to think later "man i should have been a better daughter, and now its too late".....and as weird as it sounds i am happy the way i was brought up because it has made me the person i am today< and i dont think i turned out half bad : )

Yeah db I was reading that and I thought wow you turned out really awesome despite your upbringing. That says a lot about your character and strength. Good for you! Oh I also got to open a present on Christmas eve... but it was always a book so that's not as fun hahaha.

aww amanda you always say the sweetest and nice things to me...it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside :::tears::: thank you : )

Aw you're welcome ^_^