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I don't want to sound rude, but I'm going to tell you what you've probably heard form anyone else you've told this to. Wait. Wait until you're ready. Think about how life would be with a baby right now--no partying, probably no graduating high school, probably no college, you will have to grow up faster, lose friends, and be very alone. You've been together for 5 months...that's really not long enough to know how committed you guys will be in 1, 2, 5, or 10 years. I know what teenage romance is, trust me, we've all been there. You may very well be with this guy for a very long time, but there is no way to know that now. I know how irritating or infuriating this message may seem, but I'm saying this because I'm honestly concerned. Babies can wait. Think about what your baby would go through: -Do you have a stable job? -Does he have a stable job? -Will either of you graduate high school? -Will either of you get through college? -Are you willing to give up your future and dreams for a baby, who will, in turn, have little chance of a successful future? Think about what raising a child would bring about before you do something that is really, a very selfish thing to do.

I don't drink. I'm fully against drugs and alcohol. My family has a history of not being able to concieve after a certain age and i personally dont want to wait to long. my boyfriend yes he has a steady job. he is already a through high school and yes i still plan on taking my courses online at home. I plan on attending the u of leth to get my bacholars of education. If my child meant that i could not succeed in my dreams of being a teacher i would be perfectly fine with that. I dont find it irritating at all that you ask these questions or even posted this, trust me these questions have been asked by both myself and my boyfriend many times and we both feel ready. I love the thought of bringing life tro another being and that has always been one of my dreams. I'm not saying that it wont be 100% of a struggle but i am fully prepared for all the conciquences that may come with having a child. Again i dont think you were trying to be rude and i dont think its bad that you commented on this because if i didnt want the comment then i wouldnt have posted this. I was raised by my single teenaged mother, she was 16 my dad was 23. and i know full well the father could leave but i am 100% positive i could handle my child with out a father, thats not what i want for my child but i am fully prepared. Thank you Riarios for your concern and your comment, BrookeSmiley

That's good...drugs and alcohol are always good to avoid. You hold good points, but I guess coming from my own experiences and those of my friends, I've discovered that waiting, even until you're 17 or 18, can make a huge difference. I'm 19 and I'm 9 weeks, 3 days pregnant. I was fully aware of what I was doing, and my consequences. I'm going to have to hold off on college while my fiance finishes his degree before I will go back. I have to plan a wedding in four months, and a baby shower after that. I've already lost several friends because they 'disprove' of my situation. I'm 19 and I will struggle desperately. I don't want you to have to struggle at 15, 16 years old. You should be enjoying those years. I can't say you would regret it, because only an a**hole regrets having a child, but it will be terribly difficult, and I do advise you against it. But I also know that I can't stop you, as I have no idea who you are. And for that, I wish you luck with your life and sincerely shope you do well. Message me if you need someone to talk to, as I enjoy being a friend.

Okay so not to be supportive but this is just what my bf and i have been thinking, and i just found out that i am pregnant. Please just think through everything. The people you will have to tell and disappoint. I am 15 and pregnant and my future is uncertain because of that. Please think this through before you go through with it. But if you really want it, then just try, it will happen sooner or later.

My boy friend and I only have one concern about having a baby and that is i plan on going to europe and cross my fingers im pregnant but i cant go if i am because it would be right after i had the baby and i wouldnt want to leave her so id lose out on one of my dreams but in all honesty it is worth it if i get my family. My mom i know wont support me but i know that i am ready [3 thank you dancer for some what supporting me

I'm sure this wont be very suppotive to your situation or anything but I would like to say that you are extremely lucky if you ask me... I am 16 and absolutely desperate for a baby, I just feel empty and worthless right now. I envy every pregnant woman I see and when I see a baby I want to cry... I even avoid leaving the house it gets soo bad :/ The problem is I have been with my bf for 16 months now, and I cant imagine my future without him, he is my everything. And I feel a baby would complete our already perfect relationship... I just want a permanent connection with him. It's just he thinks logically and knows we wont be able to support a baby on our own and really wants to complete college and possible uni before we have children :/ He says he's not ready right now and that tears me apart. So please consider yourself lucky and worship your bf and child because not all of us are so lucky to have the support :) Ohhh and Good Luck with conceiving :D xx

At 15 and 16, you guys have so much more to look forward to. You have plenty of time to start a family, even with premature menopause, or whatever cause you to be unable to have children after a certain age. There is so much more in life than having kids. Having friends, and having fun--making the best of your teenage years. I'm not really one to talk, and tried to get pregnant when I was 18, but I'm 19 now, and 24 weeks pregnant. I'm due 5 days before my 20th birthday. I had two extremely painful and horrendous miscarriages that made me want a baby. But at 19, and with a fiance who is 20, we both have jobs and can support ourselves. We will still need help from the state, but will do our best for our son. As I said before, I'm taking a couple years off of school to take care of my son, while my fiance finishes his degree. We will struggle and have difficulties. But we're not in high school. We're adults who can, and have been supporting ourselves for a while already. To have a baby at 15 or 16 would impact your futures greatly. I understand the need to have a child. I know what it's like to feel like you're falling apart, and that a baby is the only way to make everything okay, but there Are other ways. Baby sit someone else's kid, get a puppy or a cat or something. Turn your affection onto something else. It will distract you from the desire for a baby. I'm honestly trying to help you. I hate to see young oms suffer. I know that young moms can be amazing, but that doesn't mean their lives are easy. They live tough lives, all because they couldn't wait. Pretty much any young mom you talk to, will say that she wishes she had waited--that she loves her child, but that life is incredibly difficult as is, and that things would be better if she had waited. In whatever decision you choose, I hope the best for you.

I understand what your saying and my head agrees with you, but my heart still fights... I have finished school now and completed all my GCSE's. I don't see the point in starting college if i'm going to put it on hold in a year or 2. Since leaving school I have lost contact with many friends; I don't and never had the desire to go out partying and whenever I get invited I spend all my time thinking of excuses not to go. I hate alcohol and have never done/ never will do drugs. I have done all the things you mentioned; I babysit my neighbour's young children, I got a puppy, I even got a guinea-pig to breed with the 2 girls I already have :/ none of these have helped, infact its made me worse. Thanks for your concern your advice has been a great help.

I honestly fully understand you. But I've seen so many teen moms suffer because of their decision. Finishing school is great, you could always put forth an effort and get a job, and use the money to save up for a baby. Then you'll be ready whenever your boyfriend changes his mind. I was the same way - I never partied much in high school, but I still had attachments to my friends. Now that I'm pregnant, they've all decided that I'm incapable of having fun, and have all abandoned me. My sister and her friends are now the only people I ever hang out with. I suffer from chronic depression (was diagnosed at 14), so I understand the feeling of utter emptiness. It's hard to deal with, and incredibly hard to admit to anyone. I'm sorry that it makes it worse...I guess it probably makes you want a kid of your own, or makes you want to turn the affection you have for your pets onto a child instead. I'm really sorry, and as I said before, I hope that you do your best in life with whatever decision you should make.

I understand it would be difficult; but I think one look at my baby and it will all make sense. I have applied for many apprenticeships already... unfortunately I haven't had any replies :/ I already save and keep all money I earn through doing housework and all my birthday and Christmas money goes into a savings account. I know I will have very supportive friends as I had a pregnancy scare early in the year and they were all there and were very understanding and supportive :) One of my closest friends would be extremely supportive as she is in the same boat as me :) I'm so sorry about your depression; I cant imagine how you've coped. You must be an extremely strong person :) Your right about wanting to turn my love and affection on my own baby, I just hope I can hold out a bit longer. I don't think I have any choice but to wait, as I would never go against my boyfriends wishes :) I think having him by my side will help me a lot in the - what seems like a very very long - wait :) Thank you soo much for your help, I truly am great full for the support you have shown and I wish you all the luck in world with your baby and I hope they are happy and healthy through out their lives :) x

I can tell already that you will make an amazing mommy one day. So keep your spirits up, and just hang tough until you and your boyfriend are both ready. It's very impressive of you to be saving up everything you can, and it's awesome how you obviously would do anything to support your family :] Friends are oh-so-important, and I'm so glad that yours are supportive already! And it's great to know that you really support your boyfriend and respect his wishes :] But just wait--once it comes, whenever it does, it will fly by! Pregnancy, after the morning sickness and food aversions and nausea, goes by very quickly. :]...all 10 months of it. Thank you so much! My baby already has some issues with his kidney, but I'll do absolutely anything and more for him.