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Rylie will be 16 months 4 days and she has been doing this for the last 2 months. Everyone says its the terrible twos early. Which makes since bcuz Rylie has always been months ahead in development then other children her age. We cant take her anywhere these days without her throwing an absolute fit over the smallest thing. Sometimes we dont even know why shes doing it.Tuesday we had to take our new puppy to the vet so his warrenty doesnt expire. It started out okay but she started crawling around on the floor so Ryan sat her on his lap. She lost it. Started screaming and went limp. Thats her favorite thing. To pretend she doesnt have a bone in her body. She threw herself backwards and hit her head on the bench. Ryan took her out to the truck and had to fold her into her carseat and fasten her in so shed be still. When i got out to the truck 30 mins later she was still screaming. She calmed down a little so we went to Walmart. Our mistake. She didnt want to sit in the cart so she took the seatbelt off and kept trying to jump out. She went into fit mode. Kicking, screaming, throwing her head back. We left without getting what we needed. Then we went to pizza hut thinking shed be good if food was involved. Nope. She kept trying to get out of the highchair and throwing her sippy cup. Everytime we would pick it up she'd throw it back down the scream and point to it. Taking it away proved to be worse. I gave her a breadstick and she threw it at me. So Rylie went to Ryans grandma for the night. We picked her up last night and his gma said she'd been very good. As soon as she gave Rylie to Ryan, Rylie went boneless and screamed so he set her down. She threw herself on the floor and kept screaming. No idea why. I really dont know what to do. I agree with tthe ignoring them thing, but it doesnt work in public. At home i just put her in her pack n play until she calms down. Thiugh she doesnt do it much at home. In public the only thing to do is take her out to the car. Which ruins everything. And everyone is looking at you like youre a bad parent. Rylie is just soooo obnoxious these days. She does things she knows shes not supposed to do and laughs and says no-no while doing it. Its so frustrating. Funny example. At the vet she accidently stepped on my toe and i said "dont step on mommys toe" so she picked her foot up and stomped on my toe then ran away laughing. Of course Ryan and i laughed, though we shouldnt have, But sometimes you just have to, ya know?

Ok, Addy has been doing that for AWHILE. I know it seems sucky, but when he starts throwing tantrums at home ignore it. If you give him the attention he's just gonna do it for your attention. I had to do that with Addy. As far as them doing it in public, just walk out of the store, stand outside, let them get it out and go back in. I had to do that. It's tough but it works. Now, for the biting, every time Addy would bite I would grab her mouth stare at her, touch her teeth/lips for the a__sociation and say "DO NOT BITE, YOU DO NOT DO THAT." And look angry. I swear it's been.... I don't even know how long since she bit me last.Hitting it's the same, I grab her hand look at her make her look at me and show her she CAN NOT do that and it's a NO and you DON'T. I always make sure I look upset/angry and then when you tell them no, they will probably throw a fit. That's OK. You ignore that too and let them go on for a little. Addy is getting better and better with it.

Ugh i would LOVE it if it were that easy for Rylie. If i do that she just laughs. And it doesnt matter how many times we walk out of a public place. As soon as we return, its back to the same.

NB- Dominik is the same as Rylie, he is fine then all the sudden BAMN your pizza hut story reminded of the day we went out to wal mart to pick up a fewt hings i was starving and htought for sure Dom was acting up becuz he was hungry so i said to Jon lets go to the buffet well we got there and got our food and Dominiks and he threw a fit, he wanted to put his feet on the table and when told no he would do the "no no" thing while in the process of putting his feet BACK on the table, everyone was looking at us like "woah control that demon" so i took dominik to the bathroom and told him he was on time out and he did the limp thing and people in the bathroom where just looking at me, eventually we just paid and left without eating hardly anything, its reall embarrasing to take him not only in public but to see friends as well, im always telling him no and stuff its soo hard especially when their kid is being sooooooo good lol

For time outs, have you tried putting him somewhere he can't get out of? Like a play pin or something? Instead of trying to get him to sit in a corner, just put him in a play pin in the corner, walk away and come back in a few minutes. Note; I don't have any experience so I'm no expert, but it's worth a try, no? Maybe one other thing a friend of mine is a dog trainer (not that I'm saying kids are like dogs, but bare with me) and the way she trains them not to bite, jump up, or do anything bad is she acts like it really makes her angry. Like she gets really into it, I actually thought she was upset about it haha. I'm just wondering allowed if it would work the same way with children, like if they think it really bothers you they'll stop.

i watch supernanny alot not sure if any of you guys have seen it nut it gives really good tips for kids like that! she says the worst thing you can do is ignore them and talk to them calmly get down to there level ect bla bla i think ignoring them and not giving them the attention probably works best but hey what do i know lol! its a good show for terrible 2 tantrums though she always says with time outs ect you HAVE to be prestiant! and if they come out of time out ect you take something away like toys until they stay there but these kids were like 5ish so i duno

Gah, I guess I am lucky that Addy isn't too bad x_x

i know a lot of you guys are against this, but when i or my sisters would hit my mom or dad, our hands would be smacked. not hard, but enough to get our attention. time out didn't work on me either. i loved it lol. but i a__sociated the smack to the hands with the disappointment with time out and that actually worked on all 3 of us. spanking isn't against the law, against God, or a form of abuse. sometimes trying to talk to a child just doesn't work. super nanny's a bunch of bull. if the parent talks to the kids the same way as the nanny, nothing is accomplished. unless that nanny is packing when she's bent over talking to the kid, something's being faked in there. and some parents wonder why their kids abuse and take advantage of them. because no pecking order has ever been established in their lives.

Teddy- I am actually not agaisnt "tapping" Dominiks hand. i do watch how hard and things like that, i think the super nanny is bull c___p (fun to watch but bs) ive tried a few of those things tho just to see and Dominik will laugh at me but if i tap his hand and tell him "no or mommy doenst like that" he generally gives up but man the looks people give you for tapping your child in public are enough to make me fel really bad, im hoping its a stage with him and he out grows it,,, and fast lol

ashley: yeah in my opinion, a parent should never even try to spank lightly if they're mad because it can get too far too fast. i have a terrible temper, so i won't be doing any of the spanking. i know i have a hard time controlling it and i refuse to subject a child to that lol. and people are going to have to get over this whole "spanking is the devil" c___p because if it were as bad as they say, then the baby boomer generation would have been ALL killers and rapists. i agree don't spank a child when you're angry like i said earlier, but sometimes time outs just don't work. and our b___ts are this padded for a reason lol.

my mum would give me a fair few wacks around the head but beleive me if she didnt i dont know what i would of turned out like, i think my mum could of dealed with me in different ways like i will with my child but im still grateful she did......the best thing she done was to make me terrified of doing soemthing really bad for the punishment i would get lol whereas you get mums that dont bother and there children run riot as teenegers ect

I was taking a parenting cla__s when I was pregnant and my teacher said something that kind of sparked my interest. He asked me if I was against spanking children as punishment, I responded "I'm not sure, I don't have a child yet." Then he said "Good answer, but think of it this way, how many people in prison do you think were spanked as children?" "I don't know." "All of them."

Im not against spanking at all. Rylie gets her hands and b___t smacked. Hands first, then b___t if that failed to work.

i dont see your point amanda?? not saying that to cause dram btw!! i apologise now if you think i am! but i dont understand lol im having one of those pregnancy moments where nothing makes sence

His point was that everyone in prison was spanked as a child. Meaning everyone who wasn't spanked never ended up in prison......... I don't know how I can make myself more clear?

Oh and Newbaby, I'm not against spanking either. I really don't know if I'd do it myself, I guess I'd just have to wait and see. I think that if that's what the parent thinks is best for their kid I'm no one to tell them it's wrong. Some kids are really out of control and I wouldn't blame them for slapping them on the wrist. I, myself, was spanked as a child.