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So ironic I would get up out of bed unable to sleep because I am feeling similar feelings... Then I come online and read your post first thing. I am steaming mad right now. This is such an important time in my life to me! I have told him repeatedly that I want mat photos taken. He didn't like the prices when I told him how much it would cost. I have been trying to find someone that fits his budget better and now I am 39 weeks and p__sed! At least you would think he might take a bloody hint and pick up the camara and offer to take some pics of me himself if he knows it is so important to me! He hasn't taken a pic of me since December when I was barely showing and basically had to push my stomach out! On top of that, about 6 weeks ago I got into my 2 piece bathing suit to go to the pool and he made me feel like I should be ashamed of my body - I hadn't gained but 25lbs at the time and to this day have not popped a stretch mark. I am SO MAD right now!!! I've already spoke to him once and if I do it again I am going to b__w up!

Sorry, I vented a bit to much there. I would talk to your man. It is the only way we have a chance of not continuing to be dissappointed and this is such an important time in our lives, we want to look back and remember how beautiful it was - not how dissappointed we were in our partners.

mlscott, if you want pictures, I would recommend walmart or the picture people. My hubby was not into the pictures either (although I made him take monthly pics of me) so I decided to go to the picture people on my own. They were wonderful and did a lot of nice artistic shots. My favorite is where I'm lying down with my shirt pulled up with little baby shoes on my stomach. My hubby hates the pictures but did agree to get ones done together at walmart which are more traditional. For a while, we were thinking we would only have one child so I was so happy I had pictures taken. This time around, I have pictures taken with my son.

Thanks for the suggestion bubbasmom! I will check out picture people since they got you some good artistic shots! It took us years of trying to get pregnant with this one and in the back of my mind there is always this nagging thought that it could be my only pregnancy experience.

Someone told me that a woman becomes a mother as soon as she's pregnant and a man becomes a father as soon as the baby is born. My husband isn't super involved...but I know he will be when the little guy comes. I have reminded him that his chance to talk to the baby in utero or to feel his kicks is something that will be ending soon. He has said he feels disconnected since he isn't carrying the baby....so when I told him that these little things that are happening will be over soon..he started to take more of an interest. They are so disconnected that I think they need to be reminded. We feel it ALL day and ALL night long. I can't get angry that he is not constantly reminded. Don't be mad...it is just so different for them.

homeworkwithheather, who ever told you that is so WISE! I failed my glucose screen and had to go for the 3 hour test. The day I got the results I called my husband immediately to share with him. I told him I just got the results back and... then he cut me off to inform me he was out for lunch with a friend - he would call me back when he was done. I was so hurt I cried - how could he want to wait to find out something I had been counting down the minutes to find out.

PS I had the same conversation with my husband last week regarding feeling the kicks and talking to the baby - he has taken more of an interest since then too...

YAY! So glad you pa__sed your test. What a relief...I pa__sed mine as well...and sorry about your DH...I am having a down day with mine as well...but I keep telling myself that he will never "get it". Nonetheless, he still ticked me off...but I guess that is bound to happen from time to time...good luck with everything...our husbands are going to be thrilled when they come home to us...haha be well

I hear you with the DH situations! My DH has been pretty good during the pregnancy, but all in all he has no idea what I'm going through. As I'm tired, big and feeling unattractive, he is bent on having his last few months of fun. ughhh...sometimes he acts so selfish. During my first tri I was so sick and we were so excited about finally getting prego that he was very supportive. Second tri I was feeling a bit better and could go places, but every time we went out I was his designated driver. That got old really fast and by third tri (I'm 35 weeks) I didn't have any desire to go anywhere. I just felt so uncomfortable. He goes out at least three times a week and stays out pretty late. When I tried to talk to him about it, he says that if he was home, I would only be sleeping anyway. what a jerky thing to say! He doens't get that I worry about where he is and that he's being safe and have a fitful night's sleep if he's not home. I'm really sick of it, but I hate to feel like a burden to him. In a perfect world, this is not how i wish that my pregnancy would go with him and I wish that he was ultra supportive and came home to make me dinner every night! But, the reality is that he's probably scared of the huge life change ahead and has regressed a bit and is going out to make the most of the time he still has. Gosh, it sounds like a death sentence to me! I could care less about going out becuase I'm so excited about the baby. Men are such idiots sometimes. down the road, I'm sure they will regret being so selfish and self absorbed. You can't gget back time. I'm just hoping that once the baby comes his att_tude changes and he is more supportive. My fingers are crossed for all of us! Hang in there girls :)

i am sorry that you all have dh that feel disconected b/c i know the feeling w/ my first 2 ds my hubby was the same way but we are expecting ds #3 anyday now and my dh is not the same way this time around but i dont know if he is like that due to knowing that this is our last one or what. but we have to all remember that men are more hands on people then we are. they dont get the chance to feel the joy, pain, or agoney that we as women get to feel while we are pg. i dont mean to sound bad but men do get the raw end of the deal some of them who want to be daddy's are so excited before hand but when you get pg they kinda feel left out of the experience until mabye that first us pic or the first kick that they can actually feel. i know it would be great if they could just be so excited all the time but like my dh right now all he does is worry about me and the baby and just making sure that everything is ok b/c they may not be emotional but they worry and stress just as much as we do but they just hide it alot better sometimes.lol. but just for now give them a little benefit of the dought they will come around b/c like i said they just dont get to feel the real joy's of being a parent for the best 9 months until they get to hold that little baby in their arms .

If anything, we are the ones who are experiencing everything possible with this baby growing inside of us. The father of the child does not get that experience until the baby is actually here. It is hard for them to just watch us experience it all and not to be involved. Which is why they do rub the tummy. DJ (my boyfriend and father of my child) told me that the closest they come to experiencing what we do is by rubbing the tummy. It makes them feel apart of something. As for the buying of baby stuff, until you know the s_x of the baby, buying anything becomes hard. DJ hasn't bought anything for me either but that was because his mom told us not to buy anything until after the baby shower but when I watch his cousin who is also pregnant getting things already whether buying them herself or as gifts, I feel left out. Like I have no idea what it is that I am doing and yet this is our first baby as well as his cousin's. With everything that she is doing I feel like I have done nothing at all. We don't even have a nursery, but we don't even have the room for that living in a one bedroom apartment and moving right now is not an option. All we have been doing is listening to what his mom said but I still feel like we could have done at least something. We have a few things but that was as gifts and well I hope we can at least do something ourselves for this baby. I know we both want to but can't sometimes cuz of money.

OMG, noona- I just had a discussion with my BF yesterday- Though he has motorcycles before, he doesn't have one now and he's going through "withdrawl" I suppose. He was looking at an inexpensive one--- I pointed out to him- Winter is around the corner (we live in the mid-west) so "ride time" is almost overwith, we have a baby on the way --duh (due in Dec.), and ....we are America is in a G D recession! (which he talks about how much that stresses him out, daily)... If he's got money burning in his pocket, the best thing to do with it is hang onto it. You never know whats going to happen in the next few months- it's better to be more than prepared. MEN! uggg. I know they try... and well, I know we are emotionally high strung right now. I just take deep breaths and try try try to keep my mouth shut. This is a huge life change that we are both going through and we both need to deal with it in our own ways. He wants the baby here now, and I do feel bad that he's not as connected as I am with the experience. If he was, I'm sure he'd feel much differently- and not want to do irrational things like go out and buy a motorcycle right now. ; )

If I was you Id talk to him, if anything it couldnt hurt. But when you get to feeling like that, remember how lucky you are to have him there to experience it with you, it might make you feel better. Im pregnant with our first child and Im due in December.. My husband in in the Marines and is currently in Iraq. He left right before the baby started kickin so he's missed out on everything and he wont be home til February so he'll also miss out on the first 2 months. But I can kinda understand where your coming from and I hope this helps or at least makes you feel a little better. But talk to him, if it doesn't work at least it'll let him know how your feeling about it.