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Sims tell your mom!!!! I would hope that she would actually step in and tell your grandpa that he is not allowed to stay. You are going to need that time to get use to being a mom and enjoy your baby. I know that has to be a hard spot to be in but if you dont want him to stay please dont feel obligated to let him. You can always not unpack alot of your stuff and keep all the spare rooms stuffed with c___p until they leave too :) I hope it woks out... GL!

Don't feel bad, tell your mom now so he can rethink his plans. I know you care about him but you should not have to take care of him, it is not your responsibility. If you don't say no and you let him stay you will regret it and resent him.

DO NOT feel obligated to take in your grandfather. It is very persumptuous of him to expect that would be alright. All you have to do is say, "no". You are married with a young family and that is such a burden. What would you do if you wanted to take your kids to Disney Land, or camping this summer. I'm sorry, but it would suck! You are not responsible for the lifestyle your grandfather has chosen, and it is in poor taste that you are made to feel as though it is your responsiblity. "Just say NO", to grandpa. He loves you and should understand. Why isn't your mother stepping in?

absolutely tell your mother! It's really hard with a new baby and the last thing you need to worry about is a house guest - and an older one at that. My brother came to stay with us when my dd was 5 weeks old - for about 3 months - and it wasn't bad because he stayed out of our way, BUT, it would have been nice to have the house alone.

Hey Sims, I think I can understand what you are saying because I can hardly imagine my family coming to visit for a few days! The truth is: I don't know what my life is going to be like with a baby and I really can't imagine it right now. I don't know if it's your first baby, but if it is, then who knows how it's going to go???? So until you settle down, it's a big committment to make! I agree with the other ladies: talk to your mom about it. Perhaps you can start by saying you will re-evaluate the situation in September or something. At least, you can regain your strenght and get into a routine with baby. And then, if you feel up to it, good for you, and I admire that!!!! But if not, it's your right and that is also good for you!

yep first baby. and thanks to you guys late last night i couldn't sleep so i called my mom and it ended up so emotional, she got offended and mad and i was just trying to explain that i'm stuck in a hard spot if my husband doesn't agree, and she didn't understnad that, she was mad. so i hung up and i cried and cried and she called back and was a lot more calmer and then my dad got on and understood the situation adn then both of them were saying that they will make sure that he doesn't stay the summer. now i'm not trying to be a brat, but i just don't want to take care of a baby and the house adn a senior on top of it. and neither does my husband since there really is no need for him to be with us. he can easily stay with my cousins and most likely not be as bored either. so for now it's quelched but now it's the stubborn grandfathers turn to also dig his heels in and say he's staying....this is goign to be really frustrating. but thanks to you ladies i did stand up to my mom lol.

btw i'm 31 years old lol. it's not like i'm some 20 year old kid trying to say no. i have legitamate reasons geez, my parents always end up making me feel like i'm a teenager again.

hi sims.... i can relate to your situation all to well! last sunday my MIL's fiance pa__sed away and now my dh and i feel obligated to take her in and allow her to live here and we are not really sure if she ever plans on leaving once she is all moved in later this week. we are both too nice to say no because she really doesn't have anywhere else to go and i'm guessing that she couldn't bear the thought of living alone... why i'm not entirely sure but she is our mother and we feel compelled to do the right thing. they do not live forever. she is moving into the room that was to be our new baby's nursery and now the baby will have to stay in my room until he is old enough to move into the bedroom with his brother which i was very unhappy about. so we have a full house. with my dh and i and our three kids and another one on the way (due in june) and now my MIL .... yeah that is a full house. i know that you love your grandfather and you don't want to hurt his feelings ... maybe you should carefully voice your concerns to your mother and feel her out on the situation.... if you sense disappointment ... i would probably just adjust and realize that it is your grandfather and it isn't like it will be forever and maybe he and your new baby will be able to bond and give him some happiness in his elder years. good luck sweetie....